Education and training in different countries. Raising children in different countries of the world: examples

In the past, folk traditions in raising children were decisive. IN modern world The boundaries between cultures are erased and the differences are no longer so noticeable. However, even today, raising children in different countries may vary greatly.

Traditions of raising children in Russia

Women in Russia are mainly responsible for raising children. This can be seen both in the family and in educational institutions. Until recently, mothers were happy to stay at home with their children until 2-3 years after birth. Now the situation is changing and more and more children are being entrusted to the care of grandmothers and nannies.

Our folk traditions in raising children are associated with folklore. Fairy tales, sayings, songs are a rich cultural heritage. These works not only entertain the reader and listener, but also always have an educational aspect.

The heroes of fairy tales fight evil, show ingenuity, love of life and optimism. The sayings represent all the accumulated folk wisdom. Folk songs demonstrate the patriotism, fortitude and spiritual wealth of the Russian people. It is important for parents to introduce their children to folklore from childhood. The beauty of these works can be appreciated by a 1.5-2 year old child.

Traditions of raising children in the USA

In the United States, there are several characteristic features of raising children. For example, grandparents almost never help a young family, and the role of the father in upbringing is much higher than in Russia.

Traditionally, raising children in the USA with early age trust experienced nannies. Mothers legally go back to work three months after giving birth, entrusting all care of the child’s care and upbringing to professional nannies or babysitters. When parents are free, it is customary to attend any events with their child. A young American may attend a party for the first time as an infant. All cafes, bars, restaurants have places for children and a children's menu.

Traditions of raising children in India

In India usually large families and the baby always has several brothers and sisters. We are taught to treat society as if it were our own. big family. Traditionally, raising children from an early age is combined with their education. Preparatory school classes actually correspond to our kindergarten, and a child can start studying as early as 2-3 years old. Schools are chosen to be paid if the family has at least a little material wealth. Indians believe that the level of knowledge children receive in municipal (free) schools is very low, so sending their children to study there is not prestigious.

According to tradition, raising children in India is based on the basic tenets of Hinduism. This is the main religion professed by the majority of the country’s population, in the light of which children are taught to restrain emotions, demonstrate fortitude and optimism in life, and control not only their actions, but also their thoughts. India's rich cultural heritage influences artistic development the younger generation. Music, dancing, and songs instill in children a perception of the beauty and harmony of the world around them.

Raising Children in Japan

Raising children in Japan last years has changed a lot. Previously, girls got married at an early age and devoted themselves to their families. The role of grandparents in raising children was very high.

Nowadays, Japanese women pay more attention to education and career. They get married in adulthood and try to live separately from their parents. A Japanese family rarely has more than 1-2 children.

Raising children in Japan requires previous familiarity with a computer, consumer electronics, Internet. Very often, a Japanese schoolchild’s closest friends are virtual acquaintances or toy robots. It is not customary to take children out of town for the summer. Therefore, even on hot days, the guys sit at home a lot at the computer, and I practically never spend time in nature. Direct communication with peers also does not have much value for them.

Japanese children are taught to excel and dedicate themselves to work. From early childhood, a child can decide (with the help of his parents) the company where he will work for the rest of his life. Such devotion to the employer is also folk tradition Japan.

Raising children in different countries of the Muslim world

Raising children in different countries of the Muslim world has much in common. Until the age of three, all babies are entrusted to the mother and other women. After this age, sons are raised by their fathers.

Women's education is much inferior to men's. Girls from an early age are encouraged to marry early and be submissive to their future spouse.

Of course, there are countries where these trends are not so obvious. For example, in secular states of the Islamic world, girls have the opportunity to receive higher education and even work. But main value For a Muslim woman, there is always family.

In most countries in our time, modern education, based on the results of the latest scientific developments of teachers and psychologists, is replacing traditional education of children. This trend has both positive and negative sides. It is important for parents to remember, no matter what path of education they choose, children should grow up in an atmosphere of love and mutual understanding.

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“A child is love that can be seen,” said one of the greats. And we will add: not only to see, but also to hug, and kiss, and hold this little laughing happiness tightly to us. But, in fact, we all love equally, but we educate differently. Every country, every nation and people has its own unwritten rules for “raising” the younger generation. These laws are passed down from generation to generation. They are respected and followed unquestioningly.

This is why humanity is so diverse. Today we will reveal the secrets of raising the French, Japanese, Germans, Americans and a couple of dozen other countries. Take note of all the best and, perhaps, create your own method of education, which will allow you to raise a child not only smart, talented, neat and polite, but most importantly - happy.

1. France

The French family is so strong that children and parents are in no hurry to separate and live peacefully together until they are thirty (or even more!) years old. Therefore, the opinion that they are infantile, lacking initiative and irresponsible is not unfounded. This does not mean that mothers sit with them constantly from morning to evening - the French mother quite rationally distributes time between work, personal interests, husband and child. For a modern French woman, self-realization and career have no less weight than for other Western emancipated women.

The child goes to kindergarten early, the mother returns to work. French child He is not always the center of attention of his family; he learns to entertain himself early, grows up independent, and matures quickly. French mothers, in addition, believe that a child should grow up socially adapted and therefore, from an early age, children are placed in a group. With other kids, the child learns everything, from the ability to dress independently and eat using cutlery, to reading and drawing.

Thus, he learns everything in the company of new friends and it is normal for him that his mother works as long as he can remember. Unlike Slavic families, where grandmothers often take over the care of mothers, this is not common in France. Grandparents live their own rich, fulfilling lives - traveling, playing sports or doing handicrafts in hobby groups. Therefore, all care for grandchildren falls entirely on the parents (maybe this is correct). And “parents of parents” rarely see their grandchildren and only sometimes can take them to classes in a section or circle.

2. England

The UK is famous for its strict education. The childhood of a little Englishman is filled with a lot of demands that are aimed at the formation of purely English traditional habits, views and characteristics of character and behavior in society. WITH small age Children are taught to restrain the expression of their emotions. Parents show their love with restraint, but this does not mean that they love them less than representatives of other nations.

In this country it is not customary to have children early, average age young mother - 35-40 years old. It is believed that a young girl will not be able to raise a child correctly, because she does not yet have life experience. The British believe that you first need to create a financial base, buy a house, and then have a child. In a modern English family, as a rule, there are three children. English mothers often use the services of nannies to help them raise and educate their children. Moreover, many can afford to hire such an assistant. From a very early age in England, mothers take their children with them to cafes, cinemas, shops or other public places. Thus, children adapt very quickly to environment, begin to communicate more boldly with peers.

We can say that the country itself is adapted for children: everywhere there are children's corners, high chairs for babies, convenient ramps on the sidewalks for strollers, playgrounds have a safe rubber coating, and in cars the British transport children only in special chairs and must be fastened. Therefore, England is considered the safest country for children in Europe.

English children are constantly praised and believe that this increases self-esteem and self-confidence, which will help them emerge victorious from difficult situations in the future. life situations, as befits a true Englishman. In this country, it is customary to pamper children. Corporal punishment should not be used on children here, as this can traumatize the child. And one more feature - English mothers do not have the right to reprimand someone else’s child.

3. Ireland

The Irish are very kind to the younger generation. They try not to raise their voices at children even when they break something in stores - rather, they politely ask if he is scared. First of all, Irish parents are interested in the well-being of their child. It is not difficult to meet pregnant women in adulthood here. Like the English, the Irish strive to first achieve a certain level of prosperity and only then give birth.

But despite this, there are many children in families - often four or five.
It is interesting that in this country there are no orphanages at all: for all orphans there will certainly be a foster family.

4. Belgium

Children are taught to be part of society from an early age: from the age of 2.5, children attend school. The class is taught by one teacher who works with children constantly. He teaches them to be careful, be friends, help each other, and show respect to their peers.

5. Denmark

Danish children grow up in an atmosphere of freedom and equality. From an early age, a child is a full-fledged member of the family who has the right to his opinion and can take part in resolving any issues. The main method of education among Danish parents and educators is play, and therefore kindergartens are the highest level equipped with everything necessary for a wide variety of gaming programs.

6. Germany

Germans prefer to have children after the age of thirty, when they have already made a career at work. Usually they look for a nanny before the birth of the child.

In Germany, children under three years of age are raised at home. As they get older, they are taken to a "play group" once a week. There they learn to communicate with peers. After this they are sent to kindergarten.

Raising children in Germany can be characterized by the words “protection” and “safety”. And oddly enough, the state protects children even from their own parents. From childhood, little citizens are taught that no one should offend them, beat them, punish them, or even raise their voice. Such relationships lead to permissiveness and spoiling, and to the fact that parents, in order not to suddenly cause a negative reaction in their direction from the law, are not too attached to their children, and pass on their parenting to strangers - nannies.

7. Austria

In the process of raising children in Austria, a strict approach is practiced. The fact is that parents strive to properly motivate their offspring from an early age. It is believed that Austrian parents are among the strictest in the world. On the other hand, it is here that more money is spent annually on buying toys for a child than in any other European country. But all the splendor is presented not to the detriment of the educational process.

8. Italy

A family in Italy is a clan. Holy concept. No matter how distant a person may be from his relatives, no matter how worthless he may be, if he is a member of the family, there is no doubt that she will not leave him. The birth of a child in such a family is an event not only for his immediate relatives, but also for everyone else who falls under the “seventh water on jelly” category. The baby is a gift from heaven, a little deity, everyone noisily admires him, spoils him recklessly, lavishes him with toys and sweets.

Children grow up in an atmosphere of permissiveness and lack of system, and under conditions of total control, as a result of which they grow up to be as expansive, rude, intemperate, and capricious as their parents. Surveys of travel agencies show that Italian children are the most ill-mannered tourists in Europe: they are the ones who most often do not allow other tourists to rest in peace, make noise, do not listen to their elders, eat sloppily in restaurants, do only what they consider necessary, not in accordance with the opinions of others.

Children in Italy are allowed everything. In this country, a child is first and foremost a child, so if he is active, if he plays around, stands on his head, does whatever he wants, then his parents will never punish him, because he behaves like a child and this is normal. Such children grow up artistic, liberated and not constrained, because they have not heard the word “no” at all, or heard it extremely rarely.

Italian mothers and fathers spend enough time with their children, but do not overly patronize and care, as is customary, for example, in Slavic countries.

9. Greece

Greek education is somewhat similar to Italian education. Only a good Greek parent has one more little quirk: the child must always be fed, overfed and even overfed. Therefore, a well-fed Greek baby with gyros (lavash with meat and vegetables) at the ready is a fairly common sight. Another one distinctive feature Greek families - mothers unacceptably spoil their sons, and fathers fulfill every whim of their daughters. Moreover, this attitude persists when the matured children are already well over forty.

10. Netherlands

“Children must grow up free” is the main rule of this country. Children are allowed absolutely everything, as long as it does not threaten their health. Let them build, break, run and make noise from morning to evening - no one will say a word. Studying should also be joyful and enjoyable. Children go to school practically light: they take only sandwiches with them, and everything they need for classes is given to them directly in class.

11. Sweden

Sweden, like other Scandinavian countries, leads the ranking of the most comfortable countries for children and their mothers. Like the Germans, the Swedes have a negative attitude towards hitting a child, even if he has done something wrong. Children from an early age know about their right to privacy. However, certain limits and boundaries of strictness exist in Swedish families, since it is believed that permissiveness and spoiling lead to a person growing up unhappy. But if parents forbid something to their child, then they are obliged to explain why, listen to his arguments and opinions, the Swedes are for dialogue.

12. Spain

The main goal of all parents in Spain is happy children. Spaniards love to talk about their children, admire them, give gifts for something or just because. Due to its southern emotionality, outbursts of anger directed towards the child are possible, but, as a rule, they do not last long and end with strong hugs, kisses and apologies.

Children do not grow up selfish and spoiled, because the concepts of good and evil, bad deeds and those that can be set as an example for others are clearly separated. Having lived such a childhood, adult Spaniards become quite self-confident, cheerful and know how, like their parents, to enjoy life and have fun.

13. Russia.

If in Russia, on average, couples decide to have a child at the age of 25-28 years, then in America and Europe - no earlier than 31-33. Older parents have more financial opportunities to raise and provide for their children, have greater financial independence from the state and devote more time to their family.

If Russian baby is coming to kindergarten (nursery) at 1.5 years, then German or American - only at 3-4 years. That is, the child spends less time at home with his mother. Although home education is considered the most effective, it allows you to raise a bright personality in a child.

The second difference between Russian upbringing is the amount of time devoted to the child. If in Russia it is not customary to take a child to holidays and parties, then in the USA you can easily take a child to a corporate event if it is not possible to hire a nanny. But we have grandparents, mothers-in-law and mothers-in-law! Who spend so much time with their children that parents can easily go on vacation to the sea.

In our country, unlike, say, Japan, it has always been believed that a child should begin to be taught even when he can be laid across the bench. In other words, instill in him social rules and norms from a very young age. Teaching the baby to be independent is also in order. Many mothers do not try to pick up their child at the first fall. He must overcome difficulties himself.

Russian family, as a rule, is always preoccupied with the issue of housing and the issue of money. The father is the breadwinner and breadwinner. He does not participate in housework and does not wipe the snot of whining children. Mom has been trying to keep her job for three years maternity leave. But usually he can’t stand it and goes to work earlier - either from lack of money or for reasons of mental balance.

Modern Russia, although it tries to be guided by Western and other theories of raising children (breastfeeding up to three years, co-sleeping, permissiveness, etc.), but Domostroev’s classical attitudes are in our blood - either a carrot or a stick.
A nanny in Russia is not available to most Russians. Kindergartens are often uninteresting, so preschool children are usually left to grandparents while parents earn their daily bread by the sweat of their brow.

The child remains under the parent's wing for as long as his father and mother can hold him.
A Russian mother cannot calmly watch her child jumping through puddles in new sneakers or jumping over fences in a white dress. And that’s why you can see a mother scolding her child on the streets.

The Russian mentality is not understandable to the West.
Soulful and warm-hearted, brave to the point of madness, hospitable and daring, they do not mince words. Russians value space and freedom, easily slap children on the back of the head and immediately kiss them, pressing them to their chests. Russians are conscientious, sympathetic and, at the same time, stern and adamant.

14. USA

In the USA, all worries about the child fall on the shoulders of the young mother, who is in no hurry to return from maternity leave. The attitude towards children is patient and democratic. There are two main ways of punishment for any offense: the first is deprivation of a toy or the opportunity to watch TV, the second is a “rest chair”, where you should sit silently and think about what you were wrong about. And if a child tells someone that he was spanked at home, the adult who hears this will most likely call the police.

Children are given freedom of action, taught to be independent. Even in kindergarten, children are told that they have the right to their opinion. Dads often go out with American children. And situations where mom works and dad sits with the children are also much more common than ours. Children are always a subject of admiration, the center of the universe. The entire family always attends all school and kindergarten holidays.

For residents of the United States, family is sacred, so on weekends they often go on nature trips or have picnics to spend time together. What America definitely doesn’t have is the involvement of grandmothers in the process of upbringing. American grandmothers for the most part are energetic working ladies who are sincerely happy to tinker with the child on the weekend, but nothing more.

In the USA, as can be seen from many films, children are full citizens of the state, possessing rights, the violation of which is fraught with consequences. Here, children from a young age are respected by adults. They are given freedom of speech and freedom of action. Parents can only scold their child for a bad deed, but they will not raise a hand against him.

American children know their rights and can exercise them if necessary. But sometimes problems arise with responsibilities, since children quickly get used to being praised to the skies.

15. Canada

Children can do anything. Or almost everything. They do not know the word “no,” and all education is aimed at developing free creative self-expression. Everyone just wants to enjoy life: both children and adults.
The lack of strict requirements, regime and discipline does not always have a positive effect on the final result. The result is an overly ambitious egocentric person who is unable to adequately assess his shortcomings and weaknesses.

16. Cuba

Every Cuban woman is taught the female role from a young age. Girls help their mothers around the house, but boys are raised as men, encouraging courage and strength. The family is always very trusting relationship, and little Cubans, as a rule, have no secrets from their parents.

The child is cared for by the mother or grandmother; if everyone is busy, there are many public kindergartens and parents do not have any difficulty in enrolling their child in a preschool institution. But Cubans rarely invite nannies.

17. Japan

In Japan, there is a gradation of parenting methods by age. Until the age of 5, a child can do whatever his heart desires. He will be indulged in all his whims and his every desire will be fulfilled. From 5 to 15 years old, it is customary to treat a child literally like a slave. During this period, any word of a parent is law for a child. But after 15 years, a teenager is treated as an equal and considered an independent person who deserves respect.

A Japanese parent will never raise his voice at his child, much less spank him. A Japanese child can be sure that they will always listen to him carefully and come to his aid. The secret of the calmness of Japanese parents and the obedience of their children is simple: only at the first unbiased glance it may seem that children are allowed everything. Therefore, the expression “Japanese education” has already become a household word. But in reality, everything is not quite like that. The Japanese allow a child to do many things only until he is five years old, then he is placed within strict limits.

Japanese parents never raise their children in public. They make comments to them, but in private and as calmly as possible.
In addition, it should be remembered that the Japanese have a completely different mentality - often it simply won’t occur to a little Japanese child to do something extraordinary (after all, they have a good example before them - always restrained, careful parents).

18. China

Since many Chinese do not have more than one child, they approach raising both boys and girls in almost the same way. Therefore, in an ordinary Chinese family, most often there is no division between male and female responsibilities. Boys, for example, are taught from childhood to do housework: washing dishes, cleaning and even cooking.

In addition, most Chinese children are polite and have good manners. Children from an early age go to kindergartens (sometimes even from three months), where they live according to the rules of the collective in full compliance with accepted norms. A strict regime also gives its positive results: kids begin to go to the potty early, sleep and eat strictly according to schedule, grow obedient, within the strict framework of rules established once and for all.

A Chinese child amazes foreigners on vacation because he unquestioningly follows his mother’s instructions, does not make trouble, and can sit still for hours while the children of other tourists destroy the restaurant. The secret is that the child is taught to be obedient from the cradle and kept in strictness. The Chinese spare no effort and resources for the diversified development of the child and the search for his talent, and if one is found, then the child with the instilled skill for daily work achieves considerable results.

The state takes full care of little Chinese children while their parents disappear at work. Already in kindergarten children learn to read and write. The role of parents here is to teach the child to obey. For Chinese perfect child- This obedient child. Mischief is not honored here, and if a child crosses the boundaries set by his parents, he will face severe punishment.

19. Vietnam

The attitude of Vietnamese families towards the educational process can be characterized as unobtrusive authority. Despite the fact that children take a lot from the street, hanging out among their own kind and adopting social norms from peers and older children, a clear position in relation to their parents is formed in their minds. But each child has his own criterion of “good and evil”: children are very attached to all family members and try not to do things that could upset their parents.

20. Thailand

“The best teacher is personal experience.” Thais do not suffer from overprotection, unlike many Slavs. They believe that experience teaches better than any words, so they do not press children with abundant teachings. Thai parents do not scream or rush as fast as they can to pick up their fallen baby. He will shake himself off, get up and run to play.

They, of course, tell the child that some actions are dangerous and some are indecent, but ultimately the child makes his own choice. That is, any oral instruction is of an informational and recommendatory nature, and the child chooses.

21. Algeria

Parents give birth a lot and constantly work to provide for the family, so great job by organization educational process is taken over by the state. Children are partly left to their own devices, partly their development depends on the work of educators, teachers and representatives additional education. On the other hand, they early learn to be independent and, one way or another, integrate among their own kind.

22. Namibia

The population of Namibia consists of many different tribes living together with the descendants of the colonialists. Naturally, such a different national composition affects some differences in attitudes towards raising children. At the same time, there are also general points. Mostly women give birth to many children. The babies are carried on their backs, secured with pieces of beautiful colored fabric. Despite the shortage educational institutions, children have some other advantages. They play freely with the animals and explore the world while their mothers try to stay nearby.

23. Islamic countries

From the perspective of parents raised in Islam, a child is only given to them for safekeeping. A pure heart should be taught good deeds. Otherwise, it is the parents who are responsible for bad upbringing and bear the entire burden of its sin on themselves. Immediately, as soon as the mind and sense of shame begin to form, the baby is taken under control. At the same time, parents try not to reproach the child for a long time, avoiding the appearance of “immunity” to teachings.


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Each country has its own traditions and its own principles of raising children. English parents have children at the age of about forty, use the services of nannies and raise their children to be future winners using all available methods. Cubans bathe children in love, easily push them off to their grandmothers and allow them to behave as liberated as the child desires. German children are wrapped only in smart clothes, protected even from their parents, everything is allowed to them, and they walk in any weather.

In South Korea, children under seven years old are angels who are prohibited from being punished, and in Israel you can go to prison for yelling at a child. In Africa, mothers use a piece of fabric to attach their babies to themselves. In Islamic countries, special attention is paid to encouraging good deeds. In Hong Kong, not a single mother will entrust her baby to even the kindest, most affectionate nanny.

In Western countries, it is believed that children should not sleep during the day so that they can sleep well at night. In Japanese and Chinese countries children usually sleep with their parents. Parents follow this technique to prevent their children from suffering from nightmares.

The process of raising children in different countries gives different results. In Nigeria, among two-year-olds, 90 percent can wash their face, 75 percent can shop, and 39 percent can wash their plate. In the USA, it is believed that by the age of two, a child should be able to roll a car on wheels.

But whatever the traditions of upbringing in a particular country, all parents have one thing in common - love for children.

France. They don't raise children. Children are raised

"I have two children. Our son is graduating from school this year, and our daughter entered first grade just in the year we moved. From the very first day I observed and, willy-nilly, compared, “how is it with them?” Because of my husband's work, we moved several times and changed three regions of France. Therefore, I can draw some general conclusions about French children and parents,” says Ella.

“At one time, the book of the American Pamela Druckerman, “French Children Don’t Spit Food,” received a huge response. So much so that “our answer to Chamberlain” even came out. “Russian children don’t spit at all,” Margarita Zavorotnyaya called her book. But, hand on heart, let’s admit: this is not so! Children are noisy, playful and capricious. The only question is how adults react to this.

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On how the French act in response to bad behavior children, is affected by the pressure of society calling for tolerance. Yes, I heard a young teacher scream while scolding a 6-year-old student in the pool. I saw mother geese pulling their babies aside and hissing in their ears. I know of a father who slapped his teenage daughter in the middle of the street in Nice. But this is an exception. Showing open aggression in French society is not only not accepted, but also punishable.

Starting from middle school, children are regularly surveyed, sometimes anonymously. And as soon as the child complains that “mom sometimes spanks me,” things immediately get underway. The child is sent home from school the same day to a foster family, and the parents spend several months trying to meet him. I was told about a woman who came to school every morning for 6 months to see from inside her car how strangers were bringing her daughter to classes. She herself could only follow her little girl with her eyes.

When my 15-year-old son returned home from his new high school, he complained that the classroom was too noisy. “What about the teacher?” – I asked. “Well, once he said “sil vu ple!”, but everyone made noise and continued.” Discipline in lessons in French schools is a separate issue. Teachers rarely make comments. Their task is to transfer knowledge, and not to educate your children. Probably, teachers are not “pressured” from above, even if the entire class writes a test for 2 points. Academic achievement is a personal matter for students. Paid tutoring is not as widespread as in Russian schools. Preparing and passing the BAC (French Unified State Exam) is stressful and a lot of work. But not pumping money out of parents' wallets. By the way, I still don’t know how the graduation will go. But there’s only a month left before the end of the year!”

“At meetings that are held as individual meetings with each teacher (recording is done in advance and strictly on time, no more than 15 minutes for each), the child is not reprimanded. Rather, they give advice. The English teacher puzzled me with a question: “Do you think your son is happy here? Does he have friends?

As for my daughter, the surprises began from the first day. It took us 1 working day to get her into school. If you have a child, you need school. Children must study! On September 1, a smiling monsieur came up to us and explained that since our girl did not yet speak French, he would give her individual lessons several times a week. I remember this teacher with gratitude. By Christmas our daughter was babbling as well as the French girls. It didn't cost us a centime. This Government program integration of children.

At the end of each school year The school management asks: “Would you like to repeat this class?” What does it mean: “Do you want to keep your child for a second year?” And 1-2 students from the class “repeat.” Voluntarily. To succeed in the future. By the way, “stepping over” the classroom is also not prohibited.

The French, as Pamela Druckerman accurately noted, do not educate, but “raise” children. They are not scolded for torn or dirty things. Parents won't yell if their baby breaks a plate at dinner. They will simply give him the opportunity to remove the fragments himself. Sometimes I got the impression that adults seemed to be watching their children from the sidelines. No violent emotions. Moreover, the French are very emotional people!

There is a great variety in the lives of French children sports sections and other active leisure. But all this is a “light” version, compared to Russian music schools, dancing or figure skating. A child in France manages to visit 3-4 sections per week, for example, a conservatory, a swimming pool and an ice skating rink. All activities can be combined and there is no question of choosing “either/or”. Rarely does anyone want to succeed at just one thing. The main thing is participation! French mothers do not shift their ambitions onto the fragile shoulders of their children.”

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“I saw something completely different in immigrant families or mixed families. Russian mothers stuff their children with additional exercises ad nauseum and demand the maximum. I once watched a tall blonde in fur warm up her daughter before a performance at a regional figure skating competition. She literally pulled the girl into the splits, pushing aside the miniature French coach.

“Put my daughter away separately!” – my neighbor “worked” the math teacher. The essence of the conflict was that for working “in pairs”, when the task is given for two, the girl received 18 points out of 20, while she always completed individual tasks with a score of 20. “I don’t see the point in working together“if academic performance suffers,” the mother was indignant.

Of course, all parents are different. There are those who are strict, and those who don’t give a damn and are calm. There are mother friends, there are those whose authority is indisputable, even if you don’t boast about your successes, you can try to “build” the lives of your children in your own way.

Yes, we all want the best for our children. But we are accustomed to the fact that success means sacrifice, that is, “through thorns.” And for the French, life is life. And they give themselves time to enjoy it.”

Czech Republic. Trust more, demand less!

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Dasha is the mother of 10-year-old Lika. When they arrived in the Czech Republic, the girl was only one year old. Here's what she says:

“Lika almost immediately went to kindergarten, and now she goes to school with in-depth study in English. I will share my observations of how children are raised here. The first and most important thing is freedom in everything! Czechs raise children very loyally! No restrictions. You can do anything: crawl, jump, lick the floor and other pranks.

Young families travel a lot and teach their children to play sports from infancy. Roller skates and bicycles are a daily occurrence in the parks. In winter, most families have the opportunity to go skiing to the mountains. People lead a very active lifestyle here.

In the Czech Republic, families have 2-3 children with a small age difference. Therefore, being on maternity leave is also work that lasts for several years. Often, by the way, dads stay at home with their children. It is specific that nothing is required of children in their studies. Some schools don't even homework. According to statistics, a large percentage of Czech residents do not strive to obtain higher education. Although in state universities education is free and generally accessible. However, teenagers are sent out of home early to start independent life: They worked part-time and paid their own rent. Average professional education is considered quite acceptable. But paid schools and universities are expensive. Comparable with Moscow.

But the level of requirements and knowledge here differs significantly. Strict control and discipline. It's closer to us. And there is a result: by the third grade, my daughter already speaks Czech and English fluently. When she travels abroad, she has no language barrier and communicates well.”

Denmark. The Untouchables

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A law prohibiting hitting children was passed in Denmark in 1968. For almost 50 years, more than one generation has grown up without knowing physical punishment. “In Denmark, children control their lives from the cradle! This is my opinion based on personal experience. Indeed, children cannot be mentally influenced or threatened with punishment here. By any means, I don’t mean a belt – that’s criminally punishable,” says Inna, who is married to a Dane.

However, the Danes are not exactly "mama's boys." Just the opposite, growing up in this country with a “masculine character”. The stronger half takes, perhaps, an even more active part in the development of children than women. Dads on maternity leave and male caregivers are a common occurrence. Maybe that's why physical development and hardening is not the last place.

For our compatriots, many things seem wild. “Children are allowed everything - they can drink from a puddle, roll in the mud, pour it on their heads, run around in socks or barefoot, take off their clothes, even if it’s winter. Educators follow the only rule: “you can’t yell at children or physically punish” - here this is prohibited by law, but everything else is welcome. In general, no one bothers about children here. Children in summer without panama hats, in winter without hats, dressed inappropriately for the season. A common occurrence is snot or an allergic rash. It is customary for the Danes to sit directly on the asphalt or grass. They don't care at all that they might get dirty or catch a cold. A frequent occurrence is barefoot children,” Tatyana writes in her blog.

Children leave their parents' home when they reach 18 years of age. They are already considered independent people who create their own own life. Danish laws, which allow even children aged 15 to resolve housing issues, enable young people to quickly acquire their own housing.

Be that as it may, psychologists say that the Danes are one of the happiest countries in the world.

Canada. Anything is possible that does not harm you and others

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Canada is very friendly attitude to the children. Everything that is safe is allowed. Here's what 45-year-old Svetlana, who has been living in Ottawa for more than 10 years, told us:

“Several years ago, when my son was 4 years old, we came to Russia. It was a lot of stress for the child. He was perplexed, why everything was “not allowed”? You can’t sit on the grass, you can’t hug other children, you can’t touch anything in the store with your hands. Let me give you an example. In Canada, I urgently needed to order new glasses before leaving, and my son and I went to the optical department. Well, can you imagine, there are expensive frames and glass all around. And then my active four-year-old boy comes in... The consultant reacted instantly - he handed the boy two hot air balloon! The child froze with admiration. Attention, and most importantly, hands were busy. And I successfully placed my order. No frames were damaged! And a completely opposite situation happened to us in a perfume store in Russia. No sooner had we entered than they started shushing my child and looking at me reproachfully. Canadians generally tend to avoid any conflict. In Canada, it is considered unacceptable to comment on other people's children. We are a country of councils! It seems that everyone is ready to “raise” other people’s children: in a store, on a playground, in public transport.”

Israel. Children are not punished. They make their life easier

Well, Jewish mothers are, after all, the same mothers for whom motherhood is not hard work, but joy. Therefore, whatever the child does, there are good reasons for it. Crying - tired, throwing chicken in a restaurant - exploring the world, licking shop windows - even more so exploring the world!

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Parents support the child's feelings. For example, a child crumples his drawing. Most likely, an adult will say to this: “Are you unhappy with your drawing and are angry that it doesn’t work out? I understand you". Probably, reading Yulia Gippenreiter’s books and using the “active listening” technique is included in the mandatory parent training program?! School teachers in Israel avoid giving direct characterizations to students. No “you’re great” and especially “he’s slow in math.” Any neurotic manifestation in a child’s behavior is considered a consequence of overload. A child can behave badly for only one reason - he cannot cope with his life. Children's life consists of family and school. This means that the direct task of adults - both parents and teachers - is to make life easier for the child. If you behaved badly in class, you will receive one less problem to take home. Paradox? The fundamental task of the school is social adaptation children. The main thing is to teach how to communicate and interact in a team. Children are recognized as having the right to be, for example, a talented speaker and not like chemistry.

However, in practice, of course, not everything is so rosy. The human factor also plays an important role. Here's what Alina, little Lily's mother, writes about her search for a kindergarten:

“When we decided to send our youngest daughter to kindergarten, we were faced with the question: which one to choose - private or public. I visited several preschools. In the first garden, all my terrible memories of my own childhood were immediately resurrected. Already on the way to the garden, we heard the teachers shouting at the children. There was a roar of multi-voiced crying in the garden. Of the four teachers, two never looked up from their phones during the walk. The other two watched the children as best they could.

I went to the second garden with a heavy feeling, assuming that I would see the same thing. But the kindergarten turned out to be the complete opposite. The nannies cheerfully shouted out some poems while playing with the children, the children laughed uncontrollably. No one cried during the walk. On the walls are children's drawings and crafts. Beautiful playground. The manager assured that they prepare fresh breakfasts, lunches and afternoon snacks. Although in most Israeli kindergartens children are fed sandwiches that parents themselves bring from home.

For our friends, the situation turned out to be very interesting. For some reason (as I remember, everyday reasons), they chose a religious kindergarten. Therefore, every evening they listened to how their daughter, sitting on the potty, chanted prayers and explained how her mother should respect her husband. Because dad is the second person after God. When questions began about why parents drove a car on Shabbat, the family decided to find another garden.”

Germany. Loyalty and Sex Education

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In Germany, children are treated very kindly. If they scream on the train or bus or start making noise, this is normal, no one will make any comments to either the children or the parents. Well, for a mother to slap a child in the butt - this is generally unacceptable, God forbid someone else around will see it and “tell you” for cruelty to a child! Screaming and corporal punishment are strictly prohibited. But it should be noted that the patience of parents in Germany is trained to perfection!

“Our friends’ daughter does vocals,” says Tatyana. – Several years ago they came to Moscow for one of the competitions. This was their first visit to Russia. “Mom, why do children behave this way? It’s like they’re afraid of their mothers,” the 15-year-old singer asked then.

In Germany, children are treated with great respect and their personal boundaries are respected. Teenagers 15–16 years old already have the right to manage their lives. For example, if a teenager decides to quit school, virtually no one can influence this. Doesn't understand what you need to study? The time will come, he will understand. There are schools, like our evening schools, where you can come even at 20 years old. In almost any situation, German parents remain self-possessed and patient. Probably it’s the Nordic character. Not only do they not shout at children, but they also do not hiss, do not glare, and do not use other “screaming substitutes” in situations where screaming is suddenly inconvenient for some reason. Germans are generally less emotional in matters of education.”

In schools, no one will “pull by the ears” for the sake of good grades. Three is quite a tolerable result. It is the teenager’s choice to continue studying after school or go to work. Much attention is paid to early sex education in schools.

“In third grade, the teacher asked parents to give their children a condom. The next day in class they “trained” to put it on a plastic bottle,” recalls Victoria. As they say, forewarned is protected!

Great Britain. Adult world

"Encouraged to be independent, English child little by little he gets used to the fact that when he experiences hunger, fatigue, pain, resentment, he should not complain or bother his father or mother over trifles.” Children early understand that they live in the kingdom of adults, where they are supposed to know their place. And this place is by no means on the parents’ lap.

Here, from birth, children are made to understand that there are certain rules and restrictions. They must be respected. Whims are not welcome. It is customary to stop them by switching the child’s attention to something else. The child quickly gets used to being left to his own devices and reminding his parents of his existence as little as possible. Children should be “seen but not heard” – refers to children. Co school age they are not visible at all. A 13-year-old teenager traveling to school on his own by commuter train is the norm. Mothers do not work as “taxi drivers” for their children, taking them to classes and clubs.

Pragmatic British people do not spend a large part of their salary on children, as is customary here. They don’t overwhelm them with toys and don’t buy expensive things. Children grow up so fast! Why not save money by buying second-hand clothes, strollers and other items? And after use they are resold again. In books published to help parents, for example, you can find the following advice: “buy your children clothes of one specific color. This way you will save on washing.”

It is not customary to wrap up children in any weather. Bare ankles peeking out of trousers in winter are the norm. Children are being hardened. And they don’t believe in the existence of germs. Cookies picked up from the sidewalk are just cookies.

The British categorically suppress cruelty on the part of children. If a child tortures a cat, offends a younger child, or damages someone else's property, he will face severe punishment - these are the rules. Children realize early that any action carries responsibility. By the way, corporal punishment in public schools was officially abolished in England only in 1987. That is, relatively recently.

There are no cleaners in schools. Pupils from the very junior classes They clean all the premises, including toilets, and even the school yard. They don't consider it a duty. I think this is due to the fact that teachers not only lead the process, but participate in it along with the students. Despite the fact that Japan is primarily presented as a high-tech country with robots on every corner, living here you quickly become accustomed to its agricultural traditions. Vegetables are grown in kindergartens and schools. They try to take students of even the most prestigious institutions at least once in their lives to a rice field to plant this cereal by hand, knee-deep in water and mud, as their ancestors did.

I still can’t get used to it, and I’m still amazed when at mass children’s parties or performances I see the ability of even the smallest Japanese to organize into groups and behave in a synchronized manner. Restless children of three to five years old dance, sing and play in harmony. musical instruments, calmly wait for their turn at the concert, and this is in the most ordinary kindergartens without special deviations. It also seems to me that local children subtly sense the moment when they can frolic and scream their hearts out, but I almost never see children running around in restaurants, with the exception of my own.

The world is home to a huge number of peoples, different in nationality, mentality, religion, and way of life. These characteristics influence how parents around the world raise their children. The educational systems of different nations differ greatly from each other. The love of parents is strong, regardless of where they live, but upbringing is different.

There are different points of view about the right and wrong upbringing of the younger generation. Different countries have distinctive features in raising a child. In some countries, children are overprotected, but in others they grow up completely independently. They may be attached to one of the parents, others are raised by society or the state.

European education systems

In modern Europe, the basis of education is considered independence, individuality, absolute freedom choice. Parents raise their children to become successful individuals. Particular attention is paid to creativity. The choice is made by the child himself. Whether he will sing or dance, draw or sculpt, design - he decides for himself.

People are taught to be independent from early childhood. If the baby falls, they do not run to him to help, but give him the opportunity to get up on his own.

European mothers go back to work literally a month after the birth of their baby. They entrust the upbringing of their child to a nanny who teaches him to crawl, walk, talk and other wisdom. Parents provide comfortable conditions for the full development of the individual.

Approach to children in Norway

There are several peculiarities of upbringing in Norway. One of them is walking. Children walk in any weather. Snow, rain, and wind will not be an obstacle to walking. School breaks take place outside. Sport comes first. In spring and summer - swimming, in winter - skiing, hiking all year round. From the age of 9, children go on three-day hikes with a teacher. Once a week, schoolchildren are taken for a walk in the forest and mountains. In winter - skiing.

Independence is instilled from an early age. From the elementary grades, students go to school independently. Parents only control. No one accompanies them, takes them by car or meets them from school. In addition to the backpack, they carry a lunch bag with them; there are no hot lunches in schools. Children are quite independent.

Pedagogical foundations in Sweden

From birth, parents speak to their baby as equals. They do not raise their voices for disobedience. Children can do whatever they want as long as they don’t harm their health. Parents carefully choose toys, clothes, and children's cosmetics. They prefer to buy only quality items.

The Swedes prepare children for adult life from kindergarten. They teach the children how to cook light meals, sew, knit, and work with cardboard and wood.

How children are raised in France

In France, children become independent very early. Moms are busy with their careers, and kids have to learn everything in kindergarten. Parents are also in no hurry to devote time to playing with the baby. Despite how busy they are, families in France are very strong. Children remain to live with their parents until they are thirty.

Pedagogical system in Germany

The younger generation in Germany is under reliable state protection. Parents cannot raise their voices at them, much less raise their hands. Otherwise, they will be held accountable before the law. Already at preschool age, a child knows his rights and feels permissiveness.

Educational methods in England

English education is quite strict. Parents have many demands on their baby. For adults, it is important to form traditional English habits in adolescents, the ability to behave in society, and to restrain their emotions.

Despite their strictness, the British often praise their children, thus developing self-confidence. The child will not be severely punished for his offense. They will have an educational conversation with him without showing their negative emotions. In English schools, teachers find an approach to every student. Any student's hobby is welcome.

What is typical for Spain?

The Spanish people are very emotional and temperamental. They approach raising the younger generation with ease. Parents do not consider it necessary to punish them for their offenses, but, on the contrary, indulge their whims in every possible way. Adults are sure that such loyal upbringing will make the child happy.

Raising kids in Asian countries

In Asian countries, it is customary to send babies to nurseries early; mothers and fathers want them to begin contact with the team earlier. Parents devote a lot of time to education. Children are raised with strictness, requiring them to do well in school and be obedient. Their task is to raise a successful person and, first of all, a caring son or daughter.

How they teach life in India

For Indians, career and education do not come first. The main thing for them is to create strong family and live in harmony with nature. Adults raise their children according to these principles. Almost from birth, children are instilled with a love for people and the world around them. Growing up, the little man treats nature and animals with care and love.

Parents also teach children to control emotions by example. Adults never yell at their children, even if they have done something wrong.

In schools, students practice meditation and yoga. IN educational institutions Most of the time is spent on education, and only then on knowledge. Indians are very kind and friendly people, despite their difficult financial situation.

The main task of Japanese education

The Japanese raise children according to age. Children under five years old are literally allowed everything. Breaking dishes, drawing on wallpaper, throwing things around. Adults indulge the little one’s every whim and do not raise their voices at him.

Everything changes when the child turns six years old. From this moment on, the word of the parents is law. Children begin to live by the rules, and many prohibitions come into force. Until the age of fourteen, they are taught to be hardworking, obedient, and to follow the law under any circumstances.

At this age, boys are sent to sections and clubs. And girls, according to parents, will not need additional activities in life. Mothers teach their daughters culinary tricks. By the age of fifteen, children become independent and can communicate equally with adults.

Parental pedagogy in China

The upbringing of the younger generation in China is quite tough. The main goal of parents is to instill in them unquestioning obedience to established rules. There must be complete obedience on the part of the child.

1. The baby lives according to the schedule set by adults, his day is scheduled hourly.
2. Any deviation from the established daily routine is not welcome.
3. The opinions of children in this country are not taken into account; parents decide everything.
4. Adults choose sections and clubs, as well as toys.
5. The child almost never hears words of praise.

Relationships between children and parents in Scandinavian countries

With the arrival of the baby, parents simply cannot get enough of looking at their baby. Their love knows no bounds. Mom and dad are loyal to raising their child. They don’t set rules, they don’t teach discipline. They don't live according to a daily routine. The child himself chooses activities to his liking, without the help of parents.

Equality reigns in the family; the opinion of children is taken into account in the same way as the opinion of an adult family member. The child’s disagreement on any issue can influence the parents’ decision in favor of the child.

Raising babies in Israel

Jewish upbringing is different from other countries. In Israel, there are private kindergartens that accept children from three months to three years. This is simply unacceptable for parents from other countries. There are practically no prohibitions for Israeli children. They don't hear "no" from their parents.

When accustoming a baby to a pacifier, mothers are in no hurry to take this thing away from older, three- or four-year-old children. They believe that the baby himself must give up the pacifier, and it does not matter at what age this happens. Also, Jews are in no hurry to wean their babies off diapers. Modern mothers do not see this as a problem.

American technique

One of the tasks of American parents is to instill independence in their children. If the baby starts to cry, the mother does not rush to console him, but gives him time to calm down on his own. Adults admire their little ones and indulge them in many ways, thereby pampering them.

The younger generation is given a lot of freedom and they try not to limit their actions. Even Small child knows his rights, but is often negligent in his duties. Adults rarely punish their children. Physical punishment is not acceptable in America; parents can even be held accountable for a spanking for educational purposes. As punishment, the child may be deprived of toys or prohibited from watching his favorite TV shows.

Family is the most important thing for Americans. Parents and children spend their free time in nature, visit an amusement park, and can organize a Sunday dinner. Any school event, be it a concert or a competition, cannot take place without the moral support of mom and dad. The arrival of a baby in the family does not affect the parents’ fun-filled holiday. They always take the baby with them. Be it a party, a restaurant or a movie.

The main goal of education in Russia

Parents and grandparents of the child preschool age instill love for their country. Russian mothers tell their babies folk tales, sing songs, teach sayings. Reading such works is a kind of educational moment. In fairy tales, good always triumphs over evil; patriotism is felt in songs. The main goal Russians are raising patriotism and love of sports in the younger generation.

General foundations and rules for the Caucasus

First of all, children are taught to respect and honor their elders from an early age. Examples for them are parents, older brothers, sisters, and relatives. There is always a place for older people public transport, they will be helped to carry heavy bags and, if necessary, transferred across the road.

Every parent loves their child and gives him all the care, affection and tenderness. The older generation protects children from danger, tries to provide the best education, and develop their inclinations and abilities to the maximum.

However, the child-rearing systems of different nations of the world differ significantly. And many factors influence these differences: mentality, religion, lifestyle and even climatic conditions.

We decided to find out how children are raised in different countries and what pedagogical traditions we can take note of.

First of all, you need to remember: those principles and rules of education that give an excellent effect in other countries, in our reality can lead to the opposite result. Don’t forget that your child is a bright personality, so the methods also need to be selected individually.

home distinguishing feature Japanese pedagogical traditions - complete freedom of action for the child until the age of five. What does such “permissiveness” include?

1. Parents allow their children almost everything. I want to draw on the wallpaper with a felt-tip pen - please! I like digging in a pot of flowers - great!
2. The Japanese believe that the early years are a time for fun, games and enjoyment. Of course, this does not mean that kids are completely spoiled. They are taught politeness, good manners, and are taught to feel part of the state and society.
3. Mom and dad never raise their tone when talking with children and do not lecture for hours. Physical punishment is also excluded. The main disciplinary measure is for parents to take the child aside and explain why they should not behave this way.
4. Parents behave wisely, not asserting their authority through threats and blackmail. After conflicts, the Japanese mother is the first to make contact, indirectly showing how much the child’s action upset her.

However, by the time they enter school, the attitude of adults towards children changes dramatically; they even say that children become “slaves”. Their behavior is strictly regulated: they need to be respectful to parents and teachers, wear the same clothes and generally not stand out from their peers. “Be like everyone else” is the main rule of Japanese schoolchildren. By the age of 15, a child should become a completely independent person.

Educational system in Germany

Unlike little Japanese, the life of German children from a very young age is subject to strict rules: They are not allowed to sit in front of the TV or computer for a long time; they go to bed around eight o’clock in the evening. From childhood, kids acquire character traits such as punctuality and organization.

German mothers raise independent children: if a baby falls, he will get up on his own, if he breaks a cup, he will pick up the pieces himself. Parents may well leave the baby for a walk on the playground and go with friends to the nearest cafe. What are the features of German upbringing?

1. Grandmothers most often do not sit with their grandchildren; mothers take their babies with them in a sling or stroller. Then the parents go to work, and the kids stay with nannies, who usually have a medical diploma.
2. Children are required to attend kindergarten from the age of three. Until this time, training is carried out in special play groups, where kids go with their mothers or nannies. Here they acquire communication skills with peers.
3. In preschool, German children are not taught reading and arithmetic. Teachers consider it important to instill discipline and explain the rules of behavior in a team. The preschooler himself chooses an activity he likes: noisy fun, drawing or playing with cars.
4. A child's literacy is taught in primary school. Teachers turn lessons into entertaining game, thereby instilling a love of learning. Adults try to teach schoolchildren to plan their affairs and budget by purchasing a diary and their first piggy bank for him.

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By the way, in Germany three children in a family is something of an anomaly. Mothers of many children It will be interesting to get acquainted with the experience of Axel Hacke, who humorously described the everyday life of his restless angels in the book “A Brief Guide to Raising Babies.”

French parenting method

In this European country, much attention is paid to the early development of children. French mothers especially try to instill independence in their children, since women go to work early, striving to realize themselves. What else distinguishes the modern French education system?

1. Parents do not believe that after the birth of a baby their personal life ends. On the contrary, they clearly distinguish between time for the child and for themselves. So, the kids go to bed early, and mom and dad can be alone. The parent’s bed is not a place for children; from the age of three months the baby is accustomed to a separate crib.
2. Many parents use the services of children's development centers and entertainment studios for the comprehensive education and upbringing of their children. Also in France, there is a widely developed network of clubs and sections for preschoolers, where they stay while their mother is at work.
3. French women treat children gently, paying attention only to serious offenses. Moms are rewarded for good behavior, depriving the little ones of gifts or treats for bad things. If punishment cannot be avoided, then the parents will definitely explain the reason for this decision.
4. Grandparents usually do not babysit their grandchildren, but sometimes they take them to a playroom or studio. Children spend most of their time in kindergartens, easily adapting to the conditions preschool. By the way, if a mother does not work, then she may not be given a free ticket to a state kindergarten.

In our opinion, this education system is one of the most interesting. Be sure to read the book “French Children Are Not Naughty.” The author in it tells how French mothers cope with spoiled kids. Another book that describes the systematic approach of French parents to education is “Make Our Children Happy” by Madeleine Denis.

American education system

Modern little Americans are experts in legal norms; children often complain to their parents in court for violating their rights. Perhaps this is because society places great emphasis on explaining children's freedoms and developing individuality. What else is interesting about growing up in the USA?

1. For many Americans, family is a cult. Although grandparents often live in different states, the entire family enjoys getting together during Christmas and Thanksgiving.
2. Another characteristic feature of the American parenting style is the habit of visiting public places with their children. There are two reasons for this. Firstly, not all young parents can afford the services of a nanny, and secondly, they do not want to give up their previous “free” lifestyle. That's why you can often see children at adult parties.
3. American children are rarely sent to kindergartens (more precisely, groups at schools). Women who are housewives prefer to raise children themselves, but do not always take care of them. Therefore, girls and boys go to first grade without knowing how to write or read.

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Americans take discipline and punishment seriously: if children are deprived computer game or walks, they always explain the reason. By the way, the USA is the birthplace of such a technique of constructive punishment as time-out. In this case, the parent stops communicating with the child or leaves him alone for a short time.

The period of “isolation” depends on age: one minute for each year of life. That is, 4 minutes will be enough for a four-year-old child, 5 minutes will be enough for a five-year-old child. For example, if a child is fighting, it is enough to take him to another room, sit him in a chair and leave him alone. After the end of the time-out, be sure to ask whether the child understood why he was punished.

Another feature of Americans is that, despite puritanical views, they openly talk with children about the topic of sex. The book “From Diapers to First Dates” by American sexologist Debra Haffner will help our mothers take a different look at the sexual education of their child.

Raising children in Italy

The pedagogical principles of Italian mothers differ significantly from the previously described national education systems. Italians are kind to children, considering them gifts from heaven. It is not surprising that a child in Italy remains a child even at 20 and 30 years old. How else is raising children different in this European country?

1. Italian parents rarely send their children to kindergarten, believing that they should be raised in a large and friendly family. Grandmothers, aunts, and other close and distant relatives look after the children.
2. The baby grows up in an atmosphere of total supervision, guardianship and, at the same time, in conditions of permissiveness. He is allowed to do everything: make noise, shout, fool around, disobey the demands of adults, play for hours on the street.
3. Children are taken with them everywhere - to a wedding, concert, social event. It turns out that the Italian “bambino” leads an active “social life” from birth. No one is indignant at this rule, because everyone loves babies in Italy and does not hide their admiration.
4. Russian women living in Italy note a lack of literature about early development and raising children. There are also problems with development centers and groups for activities with young children. The exception is music and swimming clubs.