Child education systems in different countries. Chinese geniuses, mannered Englishmen: how do they raise children in different countries? Great Britain

France. They don't raise children. Children are raised

"I have two children. Our son is graduating from school this year, and our daughter entered first grade just in the year we moved. From the very first day I observed and, willy-nilly, compared, “how is it with them?” Because of my husband's work, we moved several times and changed three regions of France. Therefore, I can draw some general conclusions about French children and parents,” says Ella.

“At one time, the book of the American Pamela Druckerman, “French Children Don’t Spit Food,” received a huge response. So much so that “our answer to Chamberlain” even came out. “Russian children don’t spit at all,” Margarita Zavorotnyaya called her book. But, hand on heart, let’s admit: this is not so! Children are noisy, playful and capricious. The only question is how adults react to this.

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On how the French act in response to bad behavior children, is affected by the pressure of society calling for tolerance. Yes, I heard a young teacher scream and scold a 6-year-old student in the pool. I saw mother geese pulling their babies aside and hissing in their ears. I know of a father who slapped his teenage daughter in the middle of the street in Nice. But this is an exception. Showing open aggression in French society is not only not accepted, but also punishable.

Starting from middle school, children are regularly surveyed, sometimes anonymously. And as soon as the child complains that “mom sometimes spanks me,” things immediately get underway. The child is sent home from school the same day to a foster family, and the parents spend several months trying to meet him. I was told about a woman who came to school every morning for 6 months to see from inside her car how strangers were bringing her daughter to classes. She herself could only follow her little girl with her eyes.

When my 15-year-old son returned home from his new high school, he complained that the classroom was too noisy. “What about the teacher?” – I asked. “Well, once he said “sil vu ple!”, but everyone made noise and continued.” Discipline in lessons in French schools is a separate issue. Teachers rarely make comments. Their task is to transfer knowledge, and not to educate your children. Probably, teachers are not “pressured” from above, even if the entire class writes a test for 2 points. Academic achievement is a personal matter for students. Paid tutoring is not as widespread as in Russian schools. Preparing for and passing the BAC (French Unified State Exam) is stressful and a lot of work. But not pumping money out of parents' wallets. By the way, I still don’t know how the graduation will go. But there’s only a month left before the end of the year!”

“At meetings that are held as individual meetings with each teacher (recording is done in advance and strictly on time, no more than 15 minutes for each), the child is not reprimanded. Rather, they give advice. The English teacher puzzled me with a question: “Do you think your son is happy here? Does he have friends?

As for my daughter, the surprises began from the first day. It took us 1 working day to get her into school. If you have a child, you need school. Children must study! On September 1, a smiling monsieur came up to us and explained that since our girl did not yet speak French, he would give her individual lessons several times a week. I remember this teacher with gratitude. By Christmas our daughter was babbling as well as the French girls. It didn't cost us a centime. This Government program integration of children.

At the end of each school year The school management asks: “Would you like to repeat this class?” What does it mean: “Do you want to keep your child for a second year?” And 1-2 students from the class “repeat.” Voluntarily. To succeed in the future. By the way, “stepping over” the classroom is also not prohibited.

The French, as Pamela Druckerman accurately noted, do not educate, but “raise” children. They are not scolded for torn or dirty things. Parents won't yell if their baby breaks a plate at dinner. They will simply give him the opportunity to remove the fragments himself. Sometimes I got the impression that adults seemed to be watching their children from the sidelines. No violent emotions. Moreover, the French are very emotional people!

In the lives of French children there are a great variety of sports clubs and other active leisure activities. But all this is a “light” version, compared to Russian music schools, dance or figure skating. A child in France manages to visit 3-4 sections per week, for example, a conservatory, a swimming pool and an ice skating rink. All activities can be combined and there is no question of choosing “either/or”. Rarely does anyone want to succeed at just one thing. The main thing is participation! French mothers do not shift their ambitions onto the fragile shoulders of their children.”

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“I saw something completely different in immigrant families or mixed families. Russian mothers stuff their children with additional exercises ad nauseum and demand the maximum. I once watched a tall blonde in fur warm up her daughter before a performance at a regional figure skating competition. She literally pulled the girl into the splits, pushing aside the miniature French coach.

“Put my daughter away separately!” – my neighbor “worked” the math teacher. The essence of the conflict was that for working “in pairs”, when the task is given for two, the girl received 18 points out of 20, while she always completed individual tasks with a score of 20. “I don’t see the point in working together“if academic performance suffers,” the mother was indignant.

Of course, all parents are different. There are those who are strict, and those who don’t give a damn and are calm. There are mother friends, there are those whose authority is indisputable, even if you don’t boast about your successes, you can try to “build” the lives of your children in your own way.

Yes, we all want the best for our children. But we are accustomed to the fact that success means sacrifice, that is, “through thorns.” And for the French, life is life. And they give themselves time to enjoy it.”

Czech Republic. Trust more, demand less!

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Dasha is the mother of 10-year-old Lika. When they arrived in the Czech Republic, the girl was only one year old. Here's what she says:

“Lika almost immediately went to kindergarten, and now goes to school with in-depth study in English. I will share my observations of how children are raised here. The first and most important thing is freedom in everything! Czechs raise children very loyally! No restrictions. You can do anything: crawl, jump, lick the floor and other pranks.

Young families travel a lot and teach their children to play sports from infancy. Roller skates and bicycles are a daily occurrence in the parks. In winter, most families have the opportunity to go skiing to the mountains. People lead a very active lifestyle here.

In the Czech Republic, families have 2-3 children with a small age difference. Therefore, being on maternity leave is also work that lasts for several years. Often, by the way, dads stay at home with their children. It is specific that nothing is required of children in their studies. Some schools don't even homework. According to statistics, a large percentage of Czech residents do not strive to obtain higher education. Although in state universities education is free and generally accessible. However, teenagers are sent out of home early to start independent life: They worked part-time and paid their own rent. Average professional education is considered quite acceptable. But paid schools and universities are expensive. Comparable with Moscow.

But the level of requirements and knowledge here differs significantly. Strict control and discipline. It's closer to us. And there is a result: by the third grade, my daughter already speaks Czech and English fluently. When she travels abroad, she has no language barrier and communicates well.”

Denmark. The Untouchables

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A law prohibiting hitting children was passed in Denmark in 1968. For almost 50 years, more than one generation has grown up without knowing physical punishment. “In Denmark, children control their lives from the cradle! This is my opinion based on personal experience. Indeed, children cannot be mentally influenced or threatened with punishment here. By any means, I don’t mean a belt – that’s criminally punishable,” says Inna, who is married to a Dane.

However, the Danes are not exactly "mama's boys." Quite the opposite, growing up in this country with a “masculine character”. The stronger half takes, perhaps, an even more active part in the development of children than women. Dads on maternity leave and male caregivers are a common occurrence. Maybe that's why physical development and hardening is not the last place.

For our compatriots, many things seem wild. “Children are allowed everything - they can drink from a puddle, roll in the mud, pour it on their heads, run around in socks or barefoot, take off their clothes, even if it’s winter. Educators follow the only rule: “you can’t yell at children or physically punish” - here this is prohibited by law, but everything else is welcome. In general, no one bothers about children here. Children in summer without panama hats, in winter without hats, dressed inappropriately for the season. A common occurrence is snot or an allergic rash. It is customary for the Danes to sit directly on the asphalt or grass. They don't care at all that they might get dirty or catch a cold. A frequent occurrence is barefoot children,” Tatyana writes in her blog.

Children leave their parents' home when they reach 18 years of age. They are already considered independent people who create their own own life. Danish laws, which allow even children aged 15 to resolve housing issues, enable young people to quickly acquire their own housing.

Be that as it may, psychologists say that the Danes are one of the happiest countries in the world.

Canada. Anything is possible that does not harm you and others

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Canada is very friendly attitude to the children. Everything that is safe is allowed. Here's what 45-year-old Svetlana, who has been living in Ottawa for more than 10 years, told us:

“Several years ago, when my son was 4 years old, we came to Russia. It was a lot of stress for the child. He was perplexed, why everything was “not allowed”? You can’t sit on the grass, you can’t hug other children, you can’t touch anything in the store with your hands. Let me give you an example. In Canada, I urgently needed to order new glasses before leaving, and my son and I went to the optical department. Well, can you imagine, there are expensive frames and glass all around. And then my active four-year-old boy comes in... The consultant reacted instantly - he handed the boy two hot air balloon! The child froze with admiration. Attention, and most importantly, hands were busy. And I successfully placed my order. No frames were damaged! And a completely opposite situation happened to us in a perfume store in Russia. No sooner had we entered than they started shushing my child and looking at me reproachfully. Canadians generally tend to avoid any conflict. In Canada, it is considered unacceptable to comment on other people's children. We are a country of councils! It seems that everyone is ready to “raise” other people’s children: in a store, on a playground, in public transport.”

Israel. Children are not punished. They make their life easier

Well, Jewish mothers are, after all, the same mothers for whom motherhood is not hard work, but joy. Therefore, whatever the child does, there are good reasons for it. Crying - tired, throwing chicken in a restaurant - exploring the world, licking shop windows - even more so exploring the world!

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Parents support the child's feelings. For example, a child crumples his drawing. Most likely, an adult will say to this: “Are you unhappy with your drawing and are angry that it doesn’t work out? I understand you". Probably, reading Yulia Gippenreiter’s books and using the “active listening” technique is included in the mandatory parent training program?! School teachers in Israel avoid giving direct characterizations to students. No “you’re great” and especially “he’s slow in math.” Any neurotic manifestation in a child’s behavior is considered a consequence of overload. A child can behave badly for only one reason - he cannot cope with his life. Children's life consists of family and school. This means that the direct task of adults - both parents and teachers - is to make life easier for the child. If you behaved badly in class, you will receive one less problem to take home. Paradox? The fundamental task of the school is social adaptation children. The main thing is to teach how to communicate and interact in a team. Children are recognized with the right to be, for example, a talented speaker and not like chemistry.

However, in practice, of course, not everything is so rosy. The human factor also plays an important role. Here's what Alina, little Lily's mother, writes about her search for a kindergarten:

“When we decided to send our youngest daughter to kindergarten, we were faced with the question: which one to choose - private or public. I visited several preschools. In the first garden, all my terrible memories of my own childhood were immediately resurrected. Already on the way to the garden, we heard the teachers shouting at the children. There was a roar of multi-voiced crying in the garden. Of the four teachers, two never looked up from their phones during the walk. The other two watched the children as best they could.

I went to the second garden with a heavy feeling, assuming that I would see the same thing. But the kindergarten turned out to be the complete opposite. The nannies cheerfully shouted out some poems while playing with the children, the children laughed uncontrollably. No one cried during the walk. On the walls are children's drawings and crafts. Beautiful playground. The manager assured that they prepare fresh breakfasts, lunches and afternoon snacks. Although in most Israeli kindergartens children are fed sandwiches that parents themselves bring from home.

For our friends, the situation turned out to be very interesting. For some reason (as I remember, everyday reasons), they chose a religious kindergarten. Therefore, every evening they listened to how their daughter, sitting on the potty, chanted prayers and explained how her mother should respect her husband. Because dad is the second person after God. When questions began about why parents drove a car on Shabbat, the family decided to find another garden.”

Germany. Loyalty and Sex Education

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In Germany, children are treated very kindly. If they scream on the train or bus or start making noise, this is normal, no one will make any comments to either the children or the parents. Well, for a mother to slap a child in the butt - this is generally unacceptable, God forbid someone else around will see it and “tell you” for cruelty to a child! Screaming and corporal punishment are strictly prohibited. But it should be noted that the patience of parents in Germany is trained to perfection!

“Our friends’ daughter does vocals,” says Tatyana. – Several years ago they came to Moscow for one of the competitions. This was their first visit to Russia. “Mom, why do children behave this way? It’s like they’re afraid of their mothers,” the 15-year-old singer asked then.

In Germany, children are treated with great respect and their personal boundaries are respected. Teenagers 15–16 years old already have the right to manage their lives. For example, if a teenager decides to quit school, virtually no one can influence this. Doesn't understand what you need to study? The time will come, he will understand. There are schools, like our evening schools, where you can come even at 20 years old. In almost any situation, German parents remain self-possessed and patient. Probably it’s the Nordic character. Not only do they not shout at children, but they also do not hiss, do not glare, and do not use other “screaming substitutes” in situations where screaming is suddenly inconvenient for some reason. Germans are generally less emotional in matters of education.”

In schools, no one will “pull your ears” for the sake of good grades. Three is quite a tolerable result. It’s a teenager’s choice to continue studying after school or go to work. Much attention is paid to early sex education in schools.

“In third grade, the teacher asked parents to give their children a condom. The next day in class they “trained” to put it on a plastic bottle,” recalls Victoria. As they say, forewarned is protected!

Great Britain. Adult world

"Encouraged to be independent, English child little by little he gets used to the fact that when he experiences hunger, fatigue, pain, resentment, he should not complain or bother his father or mother over trifles.” Children early understand that they live in the kingdom of adults, where they are supposed to know their place. And this place is by no means on the parents’ lap.

Here, from birth, children are made to understand that there are certain rules and restrictions. They must be respected. Whims are not welcome. It is customary to stop them by switching the child’s attention to something else. The child quickly gets used to being left to his own devices and reminding his parents of his existence as little as possible. Children should be “seen but not heard” – refers to children. Co school age they are not visible at all. A 13-year-old teenager traveling to school on his own by commuter train is the norm. Mothers do not work as “taxi drivers” for their children, taking them to classes and clubs.

Pragmatic British people do not spend a large part of their salary on children, as is customary here. They don’t overwhelm them with toys and don’t buy expensive things. Children grow up so fast! Why not save money by buying second-hand clothes, strollers and other items? And after use they are resold again. In books published to help parents, for example, you can find the following advice: “buy your children clothes of one specific color. This way you will save on washing.”

It is not customary to wrap up children in any weather. Bare ankles peeking out of trousers in winter are the norm. Children are being hardened. And they don’t believe in the existence of germs. Cookies picked up from the sidewalk are just cookies.

The British categorically suppress cruelty on the part of children. If a child tortures a cat, offends a younger child, or damages someone else's property, he will face severe punishment - these are the rules. Children realize early that any action carries responsibility. By the way, corporal punishment in public schools was officially abolished in England only in 1987. That is, relatively recently.

There are no cleaners in schools. Pupils from the very junior classes They clean all the premises, including toilets, and even the school yard. They don't consider it a duty. I think this is due to the fact that teachers not only lead the process, but participate in it along with the students. Despite the fact that Japan is primarily presented as a high-tech country with robots on every corner, living here you quickly become accustomed to its agricultural traditions. Vegetables are grown in kindergartens and schools. They try to take students of even the most prestigious institutions at least once in their lives to a rice field to plant this cereal by hand, knee-deep in water and mud, as their ancestors did.

I still can’t get used to it, and I’m still amazed when at mass children’s parties or performances I see the ability of even the smallest Japanese to organize into groups and behave in a synchronized manner. Restless children of three to five years old dance, sing and play in harmony. musical instruments, calmly wait for their turn at the concert, and this is in the most ordinary kindergartens without special deviations. It also seems to me that local children subtly sense the moment when they can frolic and scream their hearts out, but I almost never see children running around in restaurants, with the exception of my own.

In some countries of the world, a child is allowed almost everything, but in others, children have the most responsibilities that must be fulfilled strictly. The material will tell you about the most unusual responsibilities of young children of different cultures.

1. China: strict daily routine

The main thing in raising children in China, starting from 3 years old, is humility and obedience. From kindergarten, every child must strictly follow everything said by an adult (often by any adult). Children's days are scheduled hourly by their parents, and this schedule, as a rule, does not change for years. Household responsibilities are assigned by parents when the child turns 4-5 years old. Attending several sections outside of school is strictly required. Chinese parents themselves choose toys for their child and their leisure activities; they rarely praise them and severely punish them for trying to contradict them.

2. Thailand: older children raise younger ones instead of parents

In Thailand, older children look after the younger ones, and children of different ages are constantly together - whether playing games or doing simple work. Children may be offered activities such as peeling vegetables or sorting fruit. Moreover, older children become moderators of sorts, and younger children become interns. Therefore, Thai children become independent early. Children are given the freedom to regulate their behavior within a community of children different ages- from 3 to 16.

Interesting fact. Thais never run to the first call or cry of a child. The parent glances at the crying or calling child, assesses the situation, and if he finds it not threatening to health, continues to ignore the call/crying so that the child learns to solve his problems himself.

3. England: duty to control emotions

In England, from the age of 2-3, a child is required to attend teachers of good manners and the art of restraining emotions. These may be special courses in kindergarten. When a child gets older, some democratic parents may suggest that he self-educate in the art of good manners: video lessons on the Internet, books on etiquette. The child must learn table manners and social behavior. English parents express love for their child often and constantly, but with restraint. This is also due to the fact that, as a rule, modern Englishmen have their first child at the age of 35-40 years.

4. France: independent shopping

Children in France are characterized by early maturation and independence. By law, children can be at home alone, go to school and do shopping on their own. At an early age (1-2 years), children are sent to kindergarten, and they themselves go to work. From a very young age, a child is constantly asked to help his parents with something: add cream to the coffee, bring a plate of bread, turn off the light, etc.

In every corner of the planet, parents love their children equally deeply. But education is carried out in each country in its own way, in accordance with mentality, lifestyle and traditions. How are the principles of raising children different? different countries?

America

Family, for any resident of America, is sacred. There is no division between men's and women's responsibilities. Dad sits with the children, mom provides for the family - this is quite normal.

Children are objects of adoration and admiration. School and kindergarten holidays are events that the whole family traditionally attends.

Children are provided quite early absolute freedom actions - this is how they are taught to be independent. If a child wants to roll around in the mud, mom will not fight in hysterics, and dad will not pull off his belt. Because everyone has the right to their own mistakes and experiences.

The grandchildren rarely see their grandparents - as a rule, they live in other states.

Right to privacy. Americans even require infants to comply with this rule. Children sleep in separate rooms from their parents, and no matter how much the baby wants to drink water at night or hide from ghosts in a warm parental bed, mom and dad cannot be touched. And no one will run to the crib every five minutes either. The lifestyle that parents had before childbirth continues after. A child is not a reason to refuse noisy parties and meetings with friends, to which they take the baby with them and, despite his roar of protest, give each guest to hold.

The main motto of pediatric medicine is “Don’t panic.” Examination of a newborn baby may well be accompanied by a short – “ wonderful child! and weighing. As for further observation by doctors, the key factor for the doctor is appearance baby. Does it look great? That means he's healthy. Americans do not go into unnecessary details, wondering whether this medicine that the doctor prescribed is harmful. If the doctor prescribed it, then that’s how it should be. Mom will not dig through the global network in search of side effects medications and reviews from forums.

American dads and moms are calm and always radiate optimism. Daily exploits and fanaticism in raising children are not about them. They will not sacrifice their desires and needs even to please the children. Therefore, American mothers have enough strength for a second, third child, and so on. The child always comes first for an American, but the universe will not revolve around him.

England

In England, it is customary to instill high self-esteem in children from early childhood. Children are praised for any, even the most minor achievements. The main thing is for the child to feel confident. Only in this way, according to the British, will he be able to grow into a self-sufficient person who will be able to make decisions in difficult situations.

No self-respecting English mother would reprimand someone else's child. Even teachers in nurseries and kindergartens treat children with rare patience. They do their best not to make comments or scold children.

If a child is capricious, then they try to switch his attention to the game. The main thing is to raise children as free and liberated people without complexes and prejudices.

They lead with older guys long conversations, trying to explain what consequences this or that behavior may lead to. At school, the child’s expression of individuality is also encouraged. Each student has his own approach.

The child is free to make decisions - where to study, what additional classes to take. At home, the child is given his own room from the cradle. Growing up, he decides for himself when to clean there, and adults cannot enter their child without asking.

Ireland

The attitude towards children in this country is reverent. Even if a child breaks something or breaks something in a store, no one will scold him for it - rather, they will politely ask if he was scared. Despite the fact that women in Ireland prefer to give birth at a fairly mature age, there are many children in families - often four or five. It is interesting that in this country there are no orphanages at all: for all orphans there will certainly be a foster family.

Italy

An Italian family is, first of all, a clan. Even the most distant, most worthless relative is a family member whom the family will not abandon. In Italy, the birth of a baby is an event for everyone. Even for the “seventh water on jelly”. A child is a gift from heaven, an angel. Everyone will noisily admire the baby, pamper him to the maximum, shower him with sweets and toys.

Italian kids grow up under conditions of total control, but at the same time, in an atmosphere of permissiveness. As a result, they grow up unrestrained, hot-tempered and overly emotional. Children are allowed everything. They can make noise, disobey their elders, fool around and eat, leaving stains on clothes and tablecloths. Children, according to Italians, should be children. Therefore, pampering, standing on your head and disobedience are normal. Parents spend a lot of time with their children, but do not annoy them with excessive care.

Considering that children do not know the word “no” and are generally not familiar with any prohibitions, they grow up to be absolutely liberated and artistic people. Italians are considered the most passionate and charming people; they do not tolerate criticism and do not change their habits.

France

The family in France is strong and unshakable. So much so that children, even after thirty years, are in no hurry to leave their parents. Therefore, there is some truth in French infantilism and lack of initiative. Of course, French mothers are not attached to their children from morning to night - they manage to devote time to their child, their husband, work, and personal matters.

Babies go to kindergarten quite early - mothers are in a hurry to return to work within a couple of months after giving birth. Career and self-realization are very important things for a French woman. As a rule, kids have to learn independence at an early age, entertaining themselves in all sorts of ways. As a result, children grow up very quickly.

Whip discipline is not practiced in France. Although the French mother, as a very emotional woman, may even shout at her child. For the most part, the atmosphere in which children grow up is friendly. But the basic prohibitions - on fights, quarrels, whims and disobedience - are known to them from the cradle. Therefore, children join new groups without any problems.

At a difficult age, prohibitions remain, but the illusion of freedom is created so that the child can show his independence.

IN preschool institutions the rules are strict. For example, the child of a non-working French woman will not be allowed to eat in the common dining room, but will be sent home to eat.

French grandparents do not babysit their grandchildren - they live their own lives. Although sometimes they can take their grandchildren, for example, to a section.

Germany

In Germany, children are started quite late, usually after thirty, when both parents already have a good career and their social position is stable. They approach the birth of children with the thoroughness characteristic of the nation - for example, they begin to look for a nanny even before the child is born.

Children stay at home until they are three years old, after which they begin to attend the so-called play group, where they learn to communicate with peers. Only then are they given to kindergarten for a full day.

The main feature of education in Germany is concern for the safety and protection of young citizens. Parents not only cannot punish their children, but even raising their voices is discouraged. Here education is a dialogue. The child has the right to hear the reason why the parents want to punish him and express his opinion about this situation.

Austria

Raising children, as well as many other issues, is treated ambiguously here. On the one hand, it is believed that Austrian parents are among the strictest in the world. On the other hand, it is here that more money is spent annually on buying toys for a child than in any other European country.

Netherlands

“Children must grow up free” is the main rule of this country. Children are allowed absolutely everything, as long as it does not threaten their health. Let them build, break, run and make noise from morning to evening - no one will say a word. Studying should also be joyful and enjoyable. Children go to school practically light: they take only sandwiches with them, and everything they need for classes is given to them directly in class.

Türkiye

Turkish children are mainly raised by their mothers before school. Few people send their children to kindergartens, especially since there are no public kindergartens in the country, and not everyone can afford private ones. But the main thing is that it is so accepted here that women usually do not work, but take care of children.

Still strong in Turkey centuries-old traditions. Educational games and preschool education also not common. It is believed that children will receive all the necessary knowledge at school, and it is better to have fun at home. Therefore, the children play with toys and have fun as best they can. Usually children are not bored, because there are usually several of them in a family.

By the way, from an early age children are taught to help each other. Brothers and sisters grow up friendly and united. the main objective education - to teach children to help each other, to come to the aid, in a word, to feel like a family. This is largely why families in Turkey are so strong.

By the way, children grow up early. Already at the age of 13 they have their own responsibilities. Girls help their mother, boys help their father. At the same time, it is customary in families that older children help take care of younger ones, sometimes performing the same function as our grandparents.

Cuba

The child is cared for by the mother or grandmother; if everyone is busy, there are many state gardens, but nannies are invited extremely rarely. From an early age, girls are taught to manage the household and help around the house. A boy must grow up strong and brave, his purpose in life is to be a Man. The family is always very trusting relationship, and little Cubans, as a rule, have no secrets from their parents.

Thailand

"The best teacher is personal experience" Parents do not try to protect the child from falls, abrasions or other troubles: he will get up, shake himself off, and continue running. They, of course, tell the child that some actions are dangerous and some are indecent, but ultimately the child makes his own choice.

Parents in Thailand are confident that children should learn everything from their own experience. They, of course, explain to the child what consequences this or that action may lead to, but small man makes his own choice.

Japan

The Japanese system of raising children is built on contrast. A child is treated completely differently depending on his age. Until the age of five, a child is allowed everything. Even if he paints the furniture with a felt-tip pen or lies in a puddle on the street, his parents will not scold him. Adults try to indulge all the child’s whims and fulfill all his wishes.

Children aged 6–14 years old are treated completely differently. At this time, the child learns what Japanese strictness is. They begin to raise him in the style: any word of his parents is law.

At school, very high demands are placed on children and complete obedience is expected. It is at this age that the world-famous high performance of the Japanese, hard work, obedience and strict adherence to social norms, rules and laws are laid down.

The upbringing of boys and girls at this time is also different. In Japan, it is believed that a man does not need to know how to cook, but he needs to gain as much knowledge as possible. As a result, after school it is customary for boys to be sent to various clubs and sport sections. This is not necessary for girls, and they often go home after school. But their mothers teach them the basics of housekeeping.

From the age of 15, a child begins to be treated as an equal, considering him an independent and full-fledged person.

China

In neighboring China, on the contrary, boys and girls are raised the same. In Chinese families, there is also no division between male and female responsibilities. Women often work a lot, while men calmly do any housework. They are taught this from childhood. The education system in China is quite simple. At the forefront is strict obedience.

The main features of the Chinese family are cohesion, minor role women in the house and the unquestioned authority of elders. Given the overpopulation of the country, a family in China cannot afford more than one baby. Based on this situation, children grow up capricious and spoiled. But only up to a certain age. Starting from kindergarten, all indulgences stop, and the education of a tough character begins.

The Chinese instill love for work, discipline, humility and ambition in children from the cradle. Babies are sent to kindergartens early - sometimes as early as three months. There they exist according to the norms accepted in the teams. The rigidity of the regime has its advantages: a Chinese child eats and sleeps only according to a schedule, starts using the potty early, grows up extremely obedient and never goes beyond the established rules.

Only parents decide which sections and clubs the child will go to after school, what toys he will play with and how he will spend his leisure time. Chinese children rarely hear praise.

On vacation, a Chinese child can sit for hours without moving, while other children stand on their heads and destroy furniture. He unquestioningly follows all his mother’s orders and never makes a scandal.

Breastfeeding of children stops from the moment the baby becomes able to independently bring a spoon to his mouth.

Diligent child development begins with early age. Chinese parents do not spare effort and money for the comprehensive development of the child and the search for talent. If such talent is found, its development will be carried out daily and rigorously. Until the child achieves high results.

If the baby is teething, the Chinese mother will not rush to the pharmacy for pain relief - she will wait patiently until the teeth erupt.

Vietnam

From an early age, children grow up literally on their own, on the street, learning social and other skills from their peers or older children. But each child has his own criterion of “good and evil”: one must try not to do things that could upset his parents.

India

Hindus actually begin raising their children from birth. The main thing they teach here is patience and the ability to live in harmony with yourself and the world around you.

Parents try to instill in their children good relations not only to people. Here they teach to respect nature, animals and plants. It is brought into the minds of children: do no harm. Therefore, it is not customary for Indian boys to beat dogs or destroy birds' nests.

A very important quality is self-control. From an early age, children are taught to restrain their emotions, suppress anger and irritability. In schools, students are not shouted at, and parents, no matter how tired they come home, will never take out their irritation on their children and will not raise their voices, even if they have done something mischievous.

In particular, because of such upbringing, young people are quite calm about the fact that their parents choose their groom or bride. Sometimes young people do not see each other until the wedding. From an early age, children are taught the importance family values, preparing for marriage.

In a word, the education system in India is based on preparing a person to create strong family. Education and career fade into the background. By the way, patience and calmness are taught even at school. They teach yoga, conduct meditation lessons and even tell you how to smile correctly. As a result, children in India appear happy and cheerful, although many live below the poverty line.

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Raising children in different countries of the world.

Introduction.

How children are raised in the USA.

How children are raised in the UK.

How children are raised in France.

How children are raised in Germany.

How children are raised in China.

How children are raised in India.

How children are raised in Russia.

Conclusion.

Hello dear students! I would like to tell you about how children are raised in different countries of the world.

Our planet is home to a huge number of people, different nations and peoples, sometimes completely different from each other. Children in all countries of the world are equally desired and loved. Children are protected from danger, cared for and cherished. But they are raised differently,It depends on religious customs, on the experience of peoples, historical factors, even on climatic conditions. What traditions of raising children exist among different nations? We will now introduce you to them.

How children are raised in the USA.

In America, both parents are equally active in monitoring the intellectual, physical and spiritual development of the child. Children sleep in their own room from birth. The child is given a number of rules: what he can do and what he absolutely cannot do. There are two main methods of punishment for violating the rules: the first is deprivation of a toy or watching TV, and the second uses a popular technique in the USA: “time-out”, that is, sit and think about your behavior. Children are also given freedom of action and taught to be independent. Even in kindergarten, children are told that they have the right to their opinion. Grandparents do not take part in their upbringing, but see them on holidays or on weekends. In high school, a teenager begins to work part-time for several hours a day, this is even encouraged by his parents. And upon reaching adulthood, they are released into an independent adult life.

How children are raised in the UK

The UK is famous for its strict education. People in this country become parents by the age of 35-40, so they approach raising children very seriously. The British are proud of their traditions and impeccable manners and instill them in their children from an early age. The childhood of a little Englishman is filled with a lot of demands; by the age of 2-3, children are taught how to behave at the table, how to treat the people around them, and how to restrain their emotions. Parents show their love with restraint, but this does not mean that they love them less than representatives of other nations.

France. How children are raised in France

French women send their children to kindergarten very early. They are afraid of losing their qualifications at work and believe that children develop faster in a children's group. In France, almost from birth, a child spends the entire day, first in a nursery, then in a kindergarten, then at school. French children quickly grow up and become independent; by the age of 7-8 they go to school on their own, buy the necessary supplies in the store themselves and stay at home for a long time. In France, physical methods of education are not practiced, but a mother can raise her voice at a child and punish him by temporarily depriving him of his favorite activity or toy. Grandchildren only communicate with their grandmothers during the holidays. By the way, the French family is so strong that children and parents are in no hurry to separate and live peacefully together until mature age and are in no hurry to start an independent family life.

How children are raised in Italy.

In Italy, on the contrary, it is common to often leave children with relatives, especially grandparents. A family in Italy is a clan. Besides the parents, the baby is surrounded by numerous relatives. The child grows in big family and, most often, does not go to kindergarten. They go to kindergarten only if no one from their family is present. A child in Italy is pampered, showered with gifts and allowed to do everything: they turn a blind eye to pranks, to inability to behave in society, and even more serious pranks get away with. A mother may emotionally scream at her child, but will immediately rush to him with hugs and kisses. Italians love to tell and praise their children to their relatives and friends. In Italy, great importance is attached to regular family dinners and holidays with a large number of invited relatives

How children are raised in Japan.

The mother is usually responsible for raising the child. There is an opinion that the husband is the breadwinner, and the wife is the keeper of the hearth. If a Japanese woman sends her child to kindergarten while she goes to work, this is considered a manifestation of selfishness. In Japan, there is a certain approach to each child’s age: up to 5 years old, the child is a god, from 5 to 15, a slave, from 15, an equal. Everything is allowed for children under 5 years old. Adults try to indulge all the child’s whims and fulfill all his wishes. From the age of five, they take on raising children and literally storm them, not allowing any liberties. Any word of a parent is law. TO adolescence he makes an exemplary Japanese, disciplined, law-abiding, clearly aware of his duties and unquestioningly obeying social rules. From the age of 15, a child begins to be treated as an equal, considering him an independent and full-fledged person. The essence of education in Japanese is to teach how to live in a team. The Japanese cannot imagine himself outside the team. In Japan, it is not customary to stand out from others, so children are never compared here, praised for successes or scolded for mistakes.

Germany. How children are raised in Germany.

Germans are in no hurry to have children until they are thirty, until they achieve success in their careers. If a married couple decides to take this step, then they will approach it with all seriousness. They start looking for a nanny even before the baby is born. Almost all children in Germany stay at home until the age of three, and then they start taking him to a “play group” so that he can gain experience communicating with peers, and then he is placed in kindergarten. The life of German children from a very young age is subject to strict rules: You can’t sit too long in front of the TV or computer; you go to bed early. From childhood they are instilled with such qualities as punctuality and organization. And school-age children are taught to plan their affairs and budget by purchasing a diary and their first piggy bank.

China. How children are raised in China.

Chinese women stop early breast-feeding in order to send the baby to kindergarten almost immediately after birth. There is a strict regime of nutrition, sleep, games and developmental activities. From childhood, the child is instilled with respect for elders, collectivism, mutual assistance, discipline, hard work and patience. Chinese moms are obsessed with early development their children: after kindergarten they take the kids to groups intellectual development and believe that the child should be busy with something useful. In the family there is no division between women's and men's responsibilities. A girl may be asked to help rearrange the furniture, and a boy to wash the dishes.

How children are raised in African countries.

African children with small age It is customary to carry it with you everywhere. Women carry their babies with pieces of cloth wrapped around them. There children eat, sleep, grow and learn about the world. African children do not have a sleeping or feeding schedule, and as the child grows up he spends all his time outside with his peers. Often children look for their own food, they make toys or items of clothing. In some tribes, children by the age of two already know how to wash themselves and wash dishes, and by the age of three they can easily make purchases.

India. How children are raised in India.

Raising children in India begins almost from the cradle. The main quality that they want to instill in a child is kindness and love, and not only for people, but for all living things and the surrounding world: animals, insects, flowers, etc. At 2-3 years old, the baby goes to kindergarten, and soon to school itself. Personality development, character building - this is the goal of the school. Not just to give knowledge, but to teach how to learn. They teach you to think, reflect, teach patience, they also teach you yoga, they even teach you to smile. The education system in India is based on preparing a person to create a strong family. Education and career fade into the background. Indians grow up to be patient and friendly, and pass these qualities on to their children.

Russia. How children are raised in Russia.

In Russia they use different approaches to raising children. But the main traditional method of education is the “carrot and stick” method. Usually the child is raised by the mother, and the father is engaged in his career and making money. By the age of three, the child is sent to kindergarten. Rarely does anyone use the services of nannies; more often, parents leave their children with grandparents if they are forced to go to work. Parents tend to send their children to various developmental clubs or sports sections. Unlike European parents, Russian parents are afraid to let their children go out alone, they see them off and pick them up from school, and they control their child’s communication with peers. And as a rule, children always remain children, even when they start their own families. They help them financially, babysit their grandchildren, and also solve the everyday problems of children who have grown up long ago.

Representatives of each culture consider their methods to be the only correct ones and sincerely want to raise a worthy generation to replace themselves. Based on the kind of people citizens of different countries grow up to be, we can draw a conclusion about the effectiveness of their education system. And in conclusion I want to say that the most best method Education is love for children.

Every country raises children differently. Somewhere parents are obsessed with grades, and somewhere they are obsessed with safety, somewhere their children can do anything, but somewhere they have to go to bed strictly according to a schedule. We are all different, sometimes it’s even surprising how much.

The editors of the site have made a selection from 8 different countries with different educational systems. Let's find out where children under 30 live with their parents, and where schools will teach children how to smile correctly.

JAPAN

Until the age of 5, a child in Japan is allowed almost everything. If you want, draw on the wallpaper, if you want, run naked down the street, if you want, break the dishes. But from the age of 5-6 years, the child is driven into a very strict framework of rules and restrictions. And trying to disobey means “losing face”, getting out of the team, and for the Japanese this is very important. They don’t raise their voices at children in Japan; they are punished with silence and alienation from the group. The Japanese cannot imagine themselves without society, so they perceive separation from home as a disaster.

HOW TO GROW GENIUS

Early development is also widely practiced in Japan. From the age of three, a child usually goes to kindergarten. Getting there is not so easy, the child must undergo quite complex testing, this will also cost a lot of money, since parents try to send their children to elite kindergartens, which are under the care of the main universities. In Japan, it is common practice from infancy to prepare a child for one profession or another, a kindergarten at a school, a school at a university. Therefore, from the birth of the child, the mother can say: “Congratulations, we have a doctor.”

INDIA

The main thing in raising children among Hindus is the desire for kindness, patience and harmony. The child is taught to respect not only people, but also nature, which is why Hindu children never destroy birds’ nests or offend dogs. They also pay great attention to self-control - you cannot shout, emotions must be restrained. This is inspired by parents who also never raise their voices in the presence of a child.

HOW NOT TO BE ANGRY AT YOUR CHILD

At school, children are taught yoga, meditation lessons are given, the main focus is not on knowledge, but on education. They don’t scold you for grades, the main thing is that the person is good. Communication with children here is more informal. A teacher, or even a stranger, can pat a child on the head as a sign of sympathy or hug him to calm him down, and no one looks at it askance. Everyone is kind and open to each other. Well, what else can you expect from a country where children are taught to smile correctly during their lessons in schools.

CHINA

In China, there is no traditional division into raising boys and girls; here everyone is raised the same, since in adult life there is no division of responsibilities into “female” and “male” in the family. Both dad and mom can earn money or, conversely, stay at home with the child.

EDUCATION OF RESPONSIBILITY IN A CHILD

The main thing in raising children in China is obedience. Even from kindergarten, a child must strictly do what adults tell him. The child’s entire day is clearly scheduled; the routine is changed extremely rarely. Children are assigned household responsibilities as early as preschool age. At the same time, the child is sent to various clubs and sections, at the request of the parents. It is impossible to contradict them. They choose the child’s leisure time, even what toys he can play with. At the same time, praise for children in China is extremely rare.

ENGLAND

In England, on the contrary, it is customary to develop self-confidence in a child from infancy. Parents constantly praise their child, even for the smallest achievements, so that the child does not have low self-esteem. This applies to both parents and teachers in nurseries and kindergartens; comments to children are made extremely rarely. Usually they limit themselves to words, trying to explain how to do it and how not to do it.

CHRISTMAS TRADITIONS OF DIFFERENT COUNTRIES

At school, children develop a desire for individualism, value an extraordinary point of view, and try to choose their own approach to each student. The child chooses what interests him and does it as much as he wants. Parents extremely respect the personal space of their children and never enter their son or daughter’s room without asking. However, the British are always strict and make a lot of demands on their children, many of which are often excessive.

SWEDEN

In Sweden, a child is a full-fledged person, no different from an adult. He has his own rights and responsibilities, and the main thing that parents care about is his safety. Back in the 70s, Sweden banned corporal punishment at the legislative level, and “stress-free education” is practiced here. “Do with your child as you would like to be treated with you” - this is the basic rule. The child has the right to dialogue, explanation and time from adults.

SHOULD I GIVE CHILDREN EXPENSIVE GIFTS?

Interestingly, parents often sleep in the same bed with their children; it is believed that during the day there is not enough time to show their love and spend time together, so they fill this gap at night.

In the USA, children are rarely sent to kindergarten; usually parents or a nanny sit with the child. They also often take children with them wherever they go: to the cinema, theater, even to work. Family in the USA is sacred, so family gatherings, picnics or Sunday dinners are often held there. Children are usually given freedom of action and the opportunity to choose; American parents do not punish them strictly - they are deprived of toys or put on a special chair to think.

HOW ARE CHILDREN PUNISHED IN RUSSIA

Parents are very involved in their children’s lives - they help with school projects, come to their team’s matches, and attend some events. American children are given more freedom; for example, no one will think to check whether their seventh-grade daughter has gone to bed or is lying down and reading. It's her choice.

FRANCE

French families are strong; parents usually do not want to let their children wander freely and can live together for up to 30 years. But this does not mean that the child is not independent, mothers go to work early and the child has to learn to do many things on his own. Therefore, French children often do small errands around the house, go to the store or look after younger ones.

AT WHAT AGE ARE IN RUSSIA PARENTS LET THEIR CHILD GO OUT ALONE?

Parents have been moving their child into a separate room since childhood, for 6 years already. one month old baby should at least sleep in a separate crib. Parents often let their child have negative experiences on his own, without protecting him from small dangers. It’s better to let him try it himself once than for his mother to explain it to him a hundred times.

ITALY

In Italy there is also a cult of family, clan. Relatives, no matter how distant they are, will not abandon theirs. The birth of a child is treated as a gift; in childhood, children are pampered, showered with gifts and fed with sweets. The child is allowed everything, but at the same time, the parents tirelessly watch their every step. A child almost never hears the word “no,” which is why Italians often grow up rude and capricious.

WHAT TO DO IF THE OLDER CHILD IS JEALOUS OF THE YOUNGER

In Italy, the “adult-child” barrier is blurred, so children address adults on a first-name basis and can easily be rude in the spirit of: “Auntie, you’re bothering me, move over.” This behavior is not even particularly punished by parents.