Should I go to prom? Ball without parents

The last bell has rung. There are important exams ahead, and then graduation. Children, their parents and teachers are worried. How will all this work out? Despite all the troubles, it’s worth paying attention to some legal aspects upcoming events.

Events associated with the graduation of schoolchildren consist of two parts: the official one - the presentation of certificates and the ceremonial one - the graduation party.

Events for awarding certificates are within the competence of educational institution and, as a rule, are carried out jointly with the local administration. The events have, in principle, been worked out and have established traditions. During these events, the school administration bears responsibility for their content, life and health, and behavior of their participants.

At the end of the official event for the presentation of certificates, the administration of the educational institution and teachers no longer bear legal responsibility for the graduates, since after the issuance of an order on the expulsion of graduates in connection with graduation and the issuance of certificates to them, the participants educational process(teachers, school graduates and their parents (legal representatives)) are no longer in educational relations.

However, if the prom is held at an educational institution, then responsibility for the life and health of the children in this case will rest entirely with the director or with the educational institution employee appointed by him responsible for ensuring the safety of the prom.

The formal part of the prom is entirely the initiative of the parents and, as a rule, is associated with certain traditions of a particular educational institution. It is often based entertainment. Teachers can be invited to such events as private individuals.

In this case, for graduates of the educational institution, i.e. citizens participating in mass event, the local administration is responsible. It should also be borne in mind that after graduation, the graduates themselves are legally responsible for inappropriate behavior of adult graduates, and their parents are legally responsible for minor graduates.

Graduation evening is that holiday that happens only once in a lifetime! That is why it is very important that it is truly magical and leaves the best memories.

Therefore, parents and their graduates need to carry out explanatory work on preventing violations of public order during the holiday, prohibiting the use of alcoholic beverages, drugs, smoking, the use of firecrackers, fireworks and open fire; get to know each other and tell the children about the regulatory legal acts of local authorities on the issues of holding festive celebrations for graduates and the responsibility of graduates and their parents.

It should also be recalled that according to the legislation of the Russian Federation, the consumption (drinking) of alcoholic beverages by minors is not allowed, and the Code Russian Federation administrative offenses provide for liability for involving a minor in drinking alcoholic beverages, incl. parents or other legal representatives of minors, as well as persons entrusted with the responsibility for teaching and raising minors.

According to Article 20.20 of the Code of Administrative Offenses of the Russian Federation, drinking beer and drinks made on its basis, as well as alcoholic and alcohol-containing products with an ethyl alcohol content of less than 12 percent of the volume of finished products in children's, educational organizations, cultural organizations (with the exception of organizations or public service points located in them) food), entails the imposition of an administrative fine.

If an employee performing educational functions commits an offense, one should be guided by the legislation of the Russian Federation, incl. Art. 81 and 192 of the Labor Code of the Russian Federation.

Graduation is one of the most exciting events, the memory of which remains for a lifetime, and let nothing overshadow it!

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Legal nuances of graduation: 177 comments

• When the evening is held at an educational institution, everything is clear... And if the evening is organized by parents and at the expense of parents in the entertainment center? And if invited classroom teacher? Whereas? At such an event in the RC, the administration simply ruined the holiday by returning graduates to school by 21-00, with the planned end of the holiday at 24-00. In this case, the head teacher referred to the director’s order. Who is right, the head teacher or parents who claim that the director’s order does not apply to such events? Please give me an answer.

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• I forgot to add that 9th grade graduates, half of whom leave school, although this probably doesn’t matter...

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• Dear Yuri! In your case the situation is ambiguous.
  1. After graduates leave the school, the municipal administration is responsible for the event. The conflict would not have arisen if the parents had agreed upon it (place, time, program, etc.) in advance.
  2. If we are talking about school, then it can be understood. I think you wouldn’t want something like this in a TV story from one of the territories at a night disco of teenagers with stripping. But on the other hand, why not first resolve all the issues together? But it turned out: parents are separate, school is separate. That. both are to blame.
  3. Traditionally, we have accepted full responsibility for proms, especially ninth-graders, should be entrusted to the school administration. So she is in charge. Order from the authorities. That's why the head teacher did just that.

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• And with whom should parents coordinate in this case? Was the class teacher aware six months before graduation? Which document describes interactions of this kind? When they were planning to organize such an event, they approached the head teacher, she said that the school does not organize such events... So the parents organized it on their own responsibility, and the class teacher was notified of the place and time.

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• Good evening! The following is very interesting. We live in a small town with only 2 Houses of Culture. Can the school director decide in which cultural center we will hold the formal part of the graduation? or can this be decided by the graduates themselves and their parents? all graduates (of other schools) were given the right to choose, but they are imposing on us a cultural center that we do not want at all. help me please

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• Good evening! Please tell me what can be done.
  Our school is located in the Moscow region, and this year at the graduation party after the presentation of certificates, all schools were required to gather on the main square for 2 hours, no one understands why. And only after that go to the reserved restaurants, etc. Of course no one wants to go there. How can this be avoided?

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• Hello
  And if I am an adult graduate and I want to invite a 10th grade student (minor) from another school, I can make it so that I am responsible for him, because the local administration does not want

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• Is it possible to hold the 11th grade graduation ceremony in a cafe in the basement? Are there any restrictions on this? I understand that the cafe administration will bear responsibility. This is exactly what worries me.

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• Hello! I would be grateful for your answer. The fact is that next year we are planning to organize a graduation for our children ourselves. That is, at night, in a restaurant in the form of a banquet. Did I understand correctly that this event will need to be coordinated with the local administration on whose territory the restaurant is located? That is, if this is Chertanovo, Moscow should contact the Chertanovo District Administration? Is it necessary to additionally coordinate this with the Ministry of Internal Affairs, the Ministry of Emergency Situations, etc.? And what other pitfalls may there be for parents in the case of independent organization Events? Thank you!

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• Good evening! Here’s a question: we’re graduating from 11th grade this year. Some of the kids don’t want to go to the graduation organized by the administration. Can we, consisting of 8-10 people, go somewhere ourselves after the end of the official part? Sit quietly without parents and any connection to school. Half of the kids will already be 18 by that time. The administration is simply intimidating that graduates can only be either at home with their parents or at a holiday organized by the school. Thanks in advance for your answer.

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• Hello! Please tell me who exactly should set the time for the certificate presentation event. And is it possible to change it after it is installed? The following situation occurred: the parents booked a restaurant after the presentation for a certain time and approached the director several times before to find out the exact time for the presentation of certificates, to which he replied that the order had not yet arrived. Then, in mid-February, it turns out that the director himself set the time at 16:00 and claims that nothing can be changed. No one consulted anyone before, and no one warned. Who is right here? What rights and responsibilities of the director and parents apply in such a situation?

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• Hello, could you provide the articles or acts from which these legal nuances are taken?

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• Good afternoon. Please tell me whether the carrier needs a permit to transport children after the presentation of the certificate in the city and escort around the city by the traffic police. Graduates are 18 and 17 years old - 11th grade. Is it necessary to coordinate the route and the number of people in the administration?

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• Good afternoon, please tell me how the school carries out the procedure for nominating teaching staff for an award or receiving a ministerial diploma. Is this done by the director alone or by a team?

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• Good afternoon Today they announced the postponement of the graduation date, there is less than a month and a half left, of course, the parents have already paid for a cafe, a DJ, booked places with hairdressers and makeup artists and much more. There are contracts drawn up in such a way that the money will not be returned to us, tell me how to deal with such a situation and how legal are such actions on the part of the administration?

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• In Khakassia, dates for graduation events for schoolchildren have been determined

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  19.01.2017
  Graduates schoolchildren of Khakassia information Ministry of Education and Science of the Republic of Khakassia

  The Ministry of Education and Science of the Republic has determined the dates of graduation events for schoolchildren. The last bells for 11th grade graduates will be held on May 25, and graduation ceremonies on June 23.

  The regional Ministry of Education said that last calls and graduation ceremonies can only be held on the basis of educational organizations, subject to mandatory compliance with all safety standards.
  How can this be changed just now?

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• How can graduation be on Sunday, why are children deprived of a full-fledged holiday with their parents?

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• Everything is against people, lack of respect, humiliation, such things need to be decided in advance, parents spent a lot of money on outfits for graduates, on the holiday itself, and in a month and a half they were faced with such a fact? Are human rights violated here? Unreasonable actions, complete disappointment...

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• Before sending the prepayment, we called the administration, everything was agreed upon, but unfortunately in words.

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Final exams, submitting documents, testing, the excitement of “getting in or not getting in” and the confidence that your whole life depends on “getting in”... Almost everyone knows this feeling. What if you suddenly woke up and said “no” to the application?
This is exactly what happened in one Minsk family: graduate Fedor declared that he would not enroll anywhere. How parents and relatives perceived it, and what came out of it tells Fedor's mother.

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Our son graduated from 11th grade this year. If you have not yet been the parent of an 11th grader, then I want to warn you right away: Get ready! Exams, graduation - you can still imagine it all. But you will face moral pressure called “Where will you go?”

Traditionally, in our country this question is asked not to the child, but to the parents. And it is you who will have to sweat, blush, mumble something inaudibly under your breath and ingratiatingly make excuses, not him.

Introduced? Now imagine your answer:

Nowhere. He won't go anywhere!

You need to have especially great courage to answer this way to older relatives, because they cannot imagine life without checkpoints in the form of certificates, diplomas and certificates. Without them, they lose orientation in the world around them, but what’s even worse is that without these “crusts” they cannot be proud of their grandchildren. Well, really, how do you answer a friend whose grandson is in the second year of Radio Engineering or has scored points at BSU that your grandson will not enroll anywhere? - Evgenia wrote on her Facebook page.

I decided what I would do!

Fedor himself refused an interview. It is impossible to find him on the Internet: since some time ago he changed his smartphone to a push-button phone and left social networks, so as not to become stupid and waste time. The details of this story about admission (or rather, “non-admission”) were told to the website by the graduate’s mother:

We had such a situation that our son was always planning to enroll somewhere. I tried to enter an art school after 10th grade, but didn’t get in, and thought that I would prepare and enter the Academy of Arts. But now I already understand: there was pressure from adults all the time. I think all graduates go through this.

What do you think? Well, let's decide already, time is running. You need to take courses! We need to find tutors!

The son held out like this until the new year, and then one fine evening he sat us down and said:

I decided what I would do!

We were happy: finally we could put all our efforts into it, show him love, do good to him!

I decided that I would not go anywhere!

It was a shock! We are all brought up this way: education should be continuous, after kindergarten - school, after school - college or university, after university immediately work. All his great-grandmothers are teachers; they have a cult of education and schools. And here’s the problem...

At first it was a nightmare! This is very important for parents: we, too, become fulfilled in our children. And how come he doesn’t get anywhere? Despite the fact that he is not a bad student: the average score is about 8.

We didn’t even tell my grandmother at first, because we understood that after this she would be on sedatives for six months.

As soon as he stopped thinking about how to please us, his individuality awakened in him

Agree, it really takes a lot of courage to tell the whole family in the face that you will not do what is so persistently expected of you.

Naturally, like all parents, from the 9th grade we did everything possible: we sent him to courses, to a tutor, and to St. Petersburg and Moscow to art exhibitions, still lifes and plein airs...

I believed that all children first choose their parents’ profession. We have a father with an artistic education. The boy is closer to his father, so we decided that he would be like his dad. Fedor tried it, but it didn’t work, it wasn’t his thing. Maybe in a few years he himself will explain to us what it was, but for now it’s difficult for him to say.

Now I understand that he walked around with dull eyes, constantly trying to meet our expectations. In fact, this drawing was already in his liver.

I think that at that time his consciousness had not yet “hatched”; he was a follower. And then he grew up and thought: what am I actually doing and what do I want?

It was very visible: it was as if he was jumping into cold water while uttering these words. He was, of course, scared, but he announced his decision.

And how the child was replaced. He immediately straightened his shoulders and became somewhat spiritual. If earlier we stood over our heads, saying what to do, what to read, now he began to draw up a program for himself. I signed up for the library and downloaded some video tutorials.

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As soon as he stopped thinking about what to do to please us, his individuality, his personality, awakened in him. When I saw all this, I realized that we have no right not to support him!

I looked at him: he wants something, achieves something, he argues with us. But the main thing is that he is next to us.

We have a daughter, she is already studying at a university, I shared it with her, I thought, maybe I could somehow influence it through her. She then told me:

Mom, imagine that you “entered” him, but in a year or two he will still leave there. What will you get in the end? You will have to start all over again.

And I thought, really, what is one year, miserable 365 days against the backdrop of a whole life! Can't I really support my child to take this break?

1 dollar per hour - ceiling

When Fedor realized that he had a whole year, after some time he came to the independent conclusion that he could not rest for 12 months a year. Even if he prepares to enter wherever he chooses, he will need some extra money, he is already an adult.

And he started looking for work. 17 years old, no qualifications, you can’t earn more than a dollar an hour (a dollar an hour is even a strong word). And then our friend said:

Until you get an education, that's your limit! No matter how smart you are, no matter how cool you are, but as for payment for work, and payment is your freedom, then without education this is your maximum.

This was the conclusion that the son made himself. And not what we imposed on him. He didn't understand this until he experienced it himself. I looked for vacancies, went, did something for pennies, which I literally spent on pizza with friends in just a few days. And I thought about it.

Not going anywhere doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to get an education at all

He passed the rehearsal test and was dissatisfied with his result, although his result was working and could be suitable for some universities. At first, the son was disappointed, decided that he needed to prepare, and then he realized that he did not know what to prepare for, what subjects to improve, if he did not know where he would enroll. The vague goal kept him motivated. Therefore, he decided that first he needed to decide, and then prepare.

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Now the son is going his own way. In the fall, he plans to take preparatory courses for sound engineering at the Academy of Arts, and hopes that he will subsequently enroll.

He is interested in music, he and the guys have a fickle floating lineup, they “torment the instruments,” as I call it. He is interested in music, but Fedya does not have a basic musical education, so he decided to try to connect his life with music in this way.

But these are completely his decisions, and all the consequences for these decisions will fall on his shoulders, and not in the way that he will then throw at us:

It was you who forced me, it was because of you that I...

There is, of course, a fear that he will forget something this year, but my son loves to work independently. Before final exams he abandoned electives, simply went to the library, took textbooks for previous classes, took some collections of problems and studied on his own.

Fedor was born in February, so he is not included in the autumn draft. He does not have an exemption from the army, but if he attends official preparatory courses, he will be given a deferment for admission.

We're scared!

We are actually very scared! I don’t encourage anyone, I don’t wish this experience on anyone, because our generation is calmer if everything is in order, on schedule. Maybe in a couple of generations this will be the norm, and we will all be calm about it.

Grandmother chose guerrilla tactics: she did not go into open confrontation, but she did not approve of this decision either. She is still trying to provide some, as it seems to her, services, as if by chance trying to throw something at him, tell him something. She still tries to control this process.

I was faced with a choice: either my son or the program that he must complete. And I chose my son - as a person, as a person, and not my program, which he will fulfill and be unhappy. Then I will be 2 times more unhappy. We always feel in our hearts how children feel.

My mother helped me choose a profession; she works in the same field. And now, looking back, I understand that I had some other dreams, but I am grateful to my mother. I don't think a parent's choice is the worst thing for a child, but as my husband says:

We must change with the changes. You can’t just stand your ground because that’s what our grandmothers and our great-grandmothers did. The world is changing.

Moreover, now everyone is saying that a lot of professions are dying off, and education itself is at some kind of critical turning point. Do we have the right to force our children to live according to the scheme of 20-30 years ago? We ourselves are ruining their future in this way.

Dear readers! Do you think parents should help their children choose a profession?

Probably in every school there is at least one student who is not going to go to graduation. Someone didn't find it common language with classmates, and someone doesn’t see the point in giving a huge amount in one single evening.

On our own

Eight people in Temira Isaenko’s class are not going to graduation. And it's not even about the money:

“I’ve only been in this class for two years, and I haven’t managed to make friends.” Instead of wasting time on people with whom we definitely won’t communicate in the future, let’s get together with our friends in a small group. The teachers, of course, were shocked: they don’t remember that almost half the class didn’t go to graduation!

The girls will come to pick up their certificates on another day: the presentation ceremony is included in the concert program, and you need to pay for it. You cannot contribute part of the money: either pay or stay at home.

– On the one hand, the amount is small; in some schools they give much more. But on the other hand, for this money I can go to visit a friend in St. Petersburg or save it for something necessary.

Temira does not feel disadvantaged:

“The girls and I are discussing exactly the same thing.” where will we go what we will wear, what dishes we will order. Let's arrange a mini-prom for ourselves, and it will be no worse than the school one.

Without me please

Until recently, Vladislav Zavadsky was planning to come to graduation and say goodbye to school in the company of classmates. But after seeing the holiday program, I changed my mind:

– It turned out to be some kind of strange set of entertainments. I still don’t understand why we need a magician. We don't Primary School! And the menu is not so great. $60 could be spent more wisely.

Vlad’s parents supported him, his classmates expressed their regret, and his teachers remained silent.

– I’ll go to the ceremony, where they will present certificates and give a gift to the school. The rest, please, without me. I’d rather buy something I need or celebrate the passing of the CT - regardless of the result.

IT ALSO HAPPENS

In his 29 years, designer from Molodechno Vadim Atadurdyev managed to graduate from three educational institutions: school, college and university. True, there was no graduation anywhere:

- It happened that way. Left school after 9th grade. I was sure that in two years my former classmates would invite me to the party, but they forgot. In college, too, there was no celebration: diplomas were handed out in the classroom. And it’s exactly the same at the university. No romance!

My classmates from Vitebsk State Technological University and I organized a small celebration ourselves: we rented an inexpensive cafe on the outskirts of the city, and a photographer friend took the pictures.

– Now I really regret that I didn’t have a real graduation. When I see schoolchildren go out onto the porch and shout: “Hello, dawn!” – I sadly understand that this will never happen to me again. Unless the graduates allow you to shout with them.

6 thousand school graduates not only from Moscow and the Moscow region, but also from more distant regions gathered for the All-Russian graduation.

The evening began sadly and solemnly - with the laying of flowers at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier. At the Eternal Flame, graduates honored the memory of their peers who died during the Great Patriotic War. The ceremony was attended by People's Artist of the USSR Vasily Lanovoy, choir named after Lokteva and Olympic champion Alina Zagitova. Even the weather seemed to sense the moment: the sky frowned, thunder was heard and rain started to fall. Responsible employees with umbrellas lined the Kremlin pavements to shelter other responsible persons from the rain. But the umbrellas were of no use. Within ten minutes the sky cleared and the sun came out. In general, saying goodbye to school is, of course, sad, but the kids still have a great life ahead of them.

While the young people were returning from the Alexander Garden, it was quiet outside the Kremlin walls. There are security officers on almost every meter of the pavement. It seems that there are no fewer of them than graduates - in addition to those in uniform, there are quite a few in civilian clothes.

— Why have there been no graduates for so long?

“They are usually searched, all the bottles are taken away,” a man, a technical service employee, explains to me. - That's why it took a long time. In past years, flasks containing alcohol have been found. This is already my eighteenth graduation. The first one was the most interesting. They paid well back then...

The first to enter the Kremlin gates were graduates of the Moscow Presidential Cadet School. Sholokhov. The rest followed the cadets across the Trinity Bridge. Organized. Groups from each school (the school number and city name were indicated by a yellow sign in the hands of graduates), accompanied by one adult. A live report from the red carpet was organized by the MuzTV channel. The graduates entered the Kremlin Palace, were distributed among the floors and thematic zones. The girls rushed into an impromptu hairdressing salon, where stylists were building evening hairstyles to everyone who wants it. Others tied ribbons on the lacy wish tree. The guys preferred intellectual Board games. Those interested could also learn the art of ballroom dancing at master classes, and on the top floor they could dance to famous youth hits while waiting for the official part in the concert hall.

The buffet is strictly non-alcoholic. Sandwiches, pies, pizza, fruit, juices and sparkling water.

The program also includes a concert on the main stage of the country with the participation of such popular artists and teams like Polina Gagarina, Misha Marvin, groups “MBAND”, “Maruv”, “Band’Eros” and others.

According to tradition, on VIII All-Russian The “Graduate 2018” awards awarded the winners in the categories “Young Caesar”, “Creator of the Year”, “Sports Pride”, “Ship Captain”, “Dream Team”, “Prince of the Ball” and “Princess of the Ball”.

At 23.00 all participants of the ball move to Red Square through the Nikolskaya Tower of the Kremlin. The next item on the program is the performance of the Bi-2 group, at midnight there is a fireworks display and a solemn oath of graduates. The ball ends as planned with the “HIT NON STOP” concert program from Europa Plus TV and club dances in Gostiny Dvor. The special guest of the graduation is a popular Danish singer Nabiya.

This year's graduation theme is a ticket to the future. Graduates, as representatives of this future generation, can already influence the development of the country, its economy, culture, and science. And finishing school is the first step to an independent and responsible life. main feature holiday is that the graduates themselves took part in the preparation and holding of the event. They voted for the artists who would congratulate them from the Kremlin stage, chose winners in the “Graduate 2018” award categories, came up with creative numbers for the “We Are Talented” program, and also prepared a large-scale flash mob in Gostiny Dvor, where thousands of pairs of yesterday’s schoolchildren simultaneously perform a farewell song waltz.