How to ask a girl to date? Proposal of marriage to your beloved girl in prose.
Why do the most desperate guys suddenly begin to give in before asking the girl they like to date? There are two reasons for this:
- A person experiences timidity not at all in front of a weaker, from a physical point of view, creature, but in front of his own feelings, that is, nascent love; a man by nature is a conqueror, so it is psychologically difficult for him to suddenly be rejected.
How to start dating a girl
It's another matter if you really like a girl. Even if she is modest and homely, she may not be a source of pride for you, but she will become the only desirable person with whom you would like to be alone. You need to listen not to public opinion that “it would be nice to tie up this cutie,” but to your heart. Sort out your feelings and make a firm decision Before you decide to propose dating, understand for yourself why you need it:- to be no worse than your friends; to look good next to a beauty; to be closer to the one you have been interested in for a long time.
On the Internet: VKontakte or other social network
This method is good if your chosen one is a fan of communicating on social networks. And only if you know the girl well. If you just find her VKontakte page and write that you would like to meet, then you may be mistaken for a person with sexual deviations or something like that. Also, the girl may not take this proposal seriously. Therefore, it is better to first just make acquaintances on a social network, communicating on neutral topics. And the proposal should be presented beautifully so that it can be compared with a presented bouquet of flowers. For example, send a charming landscape and against its background - poems that touch the soul.
Make an offer via SMS or phone
You can use this way not only social networks, but also mobile phone. For example, put poetry in an SMS, or even better - in an MMS. If you know a girl, and the only thing that scares you is not the speed of her reaction, but her appraising gaze, then you can simply call her and offer to go somewhere together. And you can make a confession both over the phone and during this meeting, if it takes place.During a one-on-one meeting
Even if it so happens that you met in person, but you are shy, then just lower your gaze, as if thinking, and ask if the girl wants to date you. Only the meeting should not take place in some prosaic place, but, for example, in a gazebo over the water, against the backdrop of a beautiful landscape, or in a cozy cafe over a cup of tea or a portion of ice cream. The atmosphere should be relaxed, so you shouldn’t invite your future girlfriend to an expensive restaurant or an expensive trip. This can also cause tension and create the impression that you are buying the person’s favor.
How to beautifully ask a girl to meet so that she agrees
A woman, no matter what age she is, is a true esthete. Therefore, the proposal on your part should be presented beautifully. And to finally hook this person, do it in an unusual way. Banality is a bad companion for romantic relationships.Original proposal on a date
If you can arrange an invitation to a date using a sent bouquet, an envelope sealed with gold thread and postal sealing wax, as well as a simulated telegram, then what to do when you have already met? After all, a single date does not mean the start of a long-term relationship. We need to somehow offer the girl an original idea to spend more time together. One of good ways- show up on a date with a guitar or other musical instrument and serenade her with his own composition. Only in this case, you must be good at the instrument, so as not to cause laughter or outright regret on the part of your new friend. If you are not good at music, but can recite well, then you can read her poems of your own composition. Of course, you can take a passage from one of the classics as a basis, but at the same time not read poetry, as in school at the blackboard, but as a famous theater actor would do it - with all the storm of emotions, with Moscow Art Theater pauses, with accents. In general, you will have to rehearse carefully in order to be appreciated. And if you read prose - Bulgakov, Bunin, Nabokov... The girl will be delighted with your memory. But don’t memorize passages that are too long: it’s tiring for both you and the listener. In addition, ordinary envy can work here, which will replace admiration. Suddenly, the girl could never remember a single verse at school or was embarrassed to read them at the blackboard. And then the prose bounces off your teeth!Romantic proposal to meet in verse
Poems in themselves are more romantic than prose. You know how to write them yourself, and your successes are appreciated by others - this is your plus and your trump card. Indeed, it is worth taking up the recitation of classical poetry only if you have a minimum of acting abilities. You can read your own poem with less pathos - it will still be appreciated. And if you are at all embarrassed to read it out loud, then you can simply send it in paper form - in a beautiful envelope, on a postcard included in it, or by e-mail, V social network(but not on the “wall”, but in a personal message!) But what to do if you are not a poet from birth? Sometimes an excess of feelings pushes a person to do something he has never done before. And you can come up with wonderful poems. And let this verse be the only one in life, but it will be successful. Sometimes - on the verge of genius. However, the muse does not visit people with enviable regularity, and may not come to you at all. Then all that remains is to go online for the verse. Let’s make a reservation right away: taking a ready-made confession-offer from a popular youth site is the worst option. Imagine how many people like you will read the same poem to their beloved girl at the same time. And if yesterday or the day before yesterday the gentleman she rejected approached your chosen one with these same verses, and now you present her with the same thing? You won’t even understand the meaning of why the girl felt so funny. You may think that you yourself are pathetic in front of her. And she finds it funny because you and the loser “composed” photocopied poems. If you’re going to use the Internet, it’s better to order a poem there on a special website. By the way, to be sure, it is better to check it with an anti-plagiarism program. This way you will understand whether these poems were published somewhere else, or whether the order was made for you personally. After all, the performer will also be tempted not to write himself, but to take little-known lines from the same Alexander Blok, for example, and pass them off as his own original verse, composed just for you. It’s even better to compose haiku, the national Japanese verse of three lines, than to use a large, replicated verse. For example, like this:Sakura petal flies
Catching up with the other one
To continue the journey together.
Beautiful, but a little sad. There are only three lines, and they can only contain a hint that you want to be with this girl. But even such a hint can be understood. You can add a little humor:
How the thread follows the needle,
Like waves rushing behind a steamer,
That's how I would like to be with you,
And always be, not in passing.
It is not necessary to use a poetic form to propose meetings. There are phrases that work almost flawlessly. This does not mean that the above expressions need to be memorized. This is just an example of how to be unobtrusive at the same time, but at the same time show your interest in this particular girl.
The most popular words and phrases for the best offer
“It seems to me that I feel something more for you than ordinary friendly feelings,” this is what you can say to a girl with whom you are in the same company. If this is your colleague, then simply tell her: “I think our relationship could be less formal. Maybe we can go to lunch together?” Such an offer, on the one hand, does not oblige you to anything, on the other hand, you will show that you care about the person. But immediately offering to go to a restaurant is unnecessary. Especially if the girl herself is still young and could never afford to dine in such establishments. Your task is to hook, not overwhelm with luxury. Therefore, you don’t need to immediately say that you would like her to become your destiny, or that you alone decided (on your own) that you should date. It’s also not worth swearing that you will make your chosen one a hundred times happier than she is now. Just give her the right to choose and time to think. Otherwise, you can simply scare away your crush.How to become a couple if you are friends
When you've been friends for a long time, go hiking together or wander around hometown, and in a familiar company, changing the status “to your friend’s board” can be difficult. But if it happened that yesterday’s girlfriend suddenly became your beloved, then you need to act. The most interesting thing is that in this case you can get closer somehow smoothly, without even separating the two periods in time - friendly and love. Of course, you can immediately dot all the “e”s and say that for some time now you see in her more than just a sociable girl. But if you don’t dare, then you can do differently. When you already spend time in the same company, you can simply find yourself near your beloved a little more often. Offer her an umbrella when rain pours from a clear sky, treat her to ice cream, lend her mittens if it gets cold, give her a hand when she needs to get over, albeit a small, but obstacle - these and similar signs of attention contribute to a smooth rapprochement. If you are in big company, then no one will immediately pay attention to the fact that you decided to go alone with the girl in order to start a conversation that is interesting to both of you. It is not necessary to devote it to your relationship right away. It just might be a topic that she and you like. If this continues from time to time, then your mutual friends will gradually get used to the fact that in the company there is a “couple” with whom “everything is clear.” In this way, you can quietly move to permanent residence with this girl or settle her with you . And then you will become a successful couple. Without strain, without emotions and other things. And you ask: where is the beauty of feelings? Why did everything suddenly happen on its own? You just gave the lady a reason to understand that next to her - a real knight. And even if there was no serenade, haiku, or poetry, your actions said more than could be expressed in words.
A tradition has developed according to which the role of initiator of relationships falls on the guy. It is men who usually ask girls to date. However, more and more often this well-established rule fails. Sometimes a guy does not dare to make the first step or simply does not notice a girl who is showing increased interest in him. So what should you do in this case? Wait, reconcile, or perhaps pay attention to someone else? Why not take the initiative into your own hands and ask the guy to date yourself?
Make him figure it out himself
This, of course, is the longest, but also the most preferable scenario. If a guy categorically does not want to notice you or simply has no idea about your feelings for him, it is still advisable to start by opening his eyes to this. The situation in which a guy says the phrase: “Let’s meet” is still more comfortable for both, so you shouldn’t lose hope that it will come out after all.
To do this, you need to let the young man know that you really like him. This will come in handy in any case, even if he turns out to be so modest that he cannot offer you a relationship. The phrases that will be appropriate in each individual case depend entirely on the situation. Examples include the following options:
- “Can I stay next to you for a little while, see what you’re doing, I feel so calm with you that I don’t want to leave.” Perfect for situations when a guy is busy with something. If he does not ask you to leave and not disturb him, the conversation can continue.
- In response to any of his small requests, answer in the style of: “Of course, you know that I cannot refuse you anything” or “For you, whatever you want.”
- It is advisable to demonstratively distinguish him from other guys. To do this, you can periodically use formulations like: “I don’t care about other people’s opinions on this matter, if I ask anyone, it’s only you” or “What I like most in men is dignity, good education and honesty; It’s a pity that not everyone is like you.”
At the same time, do not forget to always be nice and friendly with this young man. It will be useful to demonstrate a couple of times how your mood changes for the better when it appears. To be sure, you can let your mutual friends know that you are not indifferent to him. Almost certainly at least one of them will inform your chosen one about this.
Try to be within reach as often as possible young man. As if by chance, be “on hand” at the right moment so that he has the opportunity to utter the cherished phrase or at least its uncertain analogues like: “Can I accompany you?”, “What are you doing tonight?” or “Did you have lunch? Maybe we can eat together?”
If, despite all your efforts, the young man has not shown you any attention, it means that he is either not interested in you and remains silent on principle, or is still not confident in himself and is shy. In both cases, ask yourself the question: “Do I really need this guy?” And if yes, then move on to more decisive actions.
Invitation to Action
Many people are embarrassed to say the phrase “let’s meet” in its literal form. But this is not necessary. There are many formulations that will serve as excellent alternatives; in addition, they will allow you to simulate a comfortable situation that is conducive to continuation. Such phrases can be called an invitation to action. Here are just a few examples:
- “I haven’t gone anywhere for so long, I really want to go to the movies, but there’s no suitable company. Maybe we can go together?”
- “I just want to take a walk around the city at night! Please keep me company, I can’t wander around alone.”
- “Do you already have plans for the weekend? Can I break them a little? I really want to get out of town, but I won’t go without you.”
- “Next week I’m going to choose a puppy. This is a very responsible choice, I'm afraid to make a mistake. I need advice and support smart person. You won’t refuse me, will you?”
All this must be said ironically, as if jokingly, softly, but insist on your request. For example, if a guy says that he doesn’t understand anything about dogs, you can confidently answer: “Believe me, it doesn’t matter at all, the main thing here is instinct. I need you to give advice based on your intuition.”
This is just the principle by which an invitation to action is built; in fact, the phrase can be anything. Here you should take into account the guy’s character, the list of his possible hobbies, and the peculiarities of the situation. For example, if a guy is inactive, he spends more time quiet activities may be afraid of heights, it is better not to offer him a joint parachute jump. There is no need to put him in a deliberately uncomfortable position. The simpler and less burdensome the offer is for him, the easier he will accept it.
But after you finally find yourself together (at the cinema or on a walk), you can continue your soft offensive. After all, the ultimate goal of this entire event is a personal relationship with a young man. Therefore, you need to make him understand that this meeting is not the only one, but the first in a series of many others that await you ahead. In other words, this walk can be considered the beginning of a relationship, unless, of course, he is categorically against it. Phrases such as:
- “I really enjoyed this evening, thank you. But he's not the last, is he? Are we going to go somewhere else together?”
- “In fact, I wanted to be alone with you for a long time, I didn’t know what reason to come up with. Promise me that I won’t have to rack my brains for so long again.”
- “If it were up to me, I wouldn’t let you go for a minute. How great it would be if I spent all my free time with you!”
- “When you get home, call me so I don’t worry about you. Till tomorrow".
Next you should watch the changes in the guy’s attitude for a couple of days. To speed up this process, you also need to change your behavior a little. At the next meeting, you can allow yourself a calmer and more confident attitude, you can even show a small degree of concern. If the guy remains a stranger and aloof after this, then you’ve really got yourself a “tough nut to crack” or a “difficult case” - you know better. And again ask yourself the question: “Do I need such a guy?” If the answer is still “yes,” proceed to a decisive offensive.
Direct wording
This is an extreme measure, but if all the previous ones have not led to success, you will have to resort to it. Of course, there is a risk of receiving a refusal and everything connected with it, but, in any case, there will be clarity. Then you can set yourself the following tasks, for example, forget this guy, find another, or still achieve this. In addition, a decisive offensive has other advantages.
Firstly, the guy will no longer be able to evade and feign misunderstanding; he will have to, one way or another, answer the question posed. Secondly, if the answer is positive, you will get what you were looking for. Your relationship will begin right from this minute. Each girl decides for herself which phrase to prefer as a proposal to meet, as well as the tone in which it will be pronounced. It is advisable that it relates to your image. Among the possible options:
- cute, soft;
- timid, shy;
- humorous;
- straightforward;
- defiant, rude;
- calm, reasonable, etc.
It is necessary to take into account the guy’s character. If he is too reserved and shy, then it is better to avoid excessive pressure, and even more so rudeness. You can choose the simplest phrases, for example:
- “I’ve been wanting to ask you for a long time, do you have a girlfriend? Maybe I’ll come over?”
- “I have to admit to you, I like you. How do you feel about us starting dating?”
- “Of all the guys I know, you suit my personality best. I would like us to start dating. What do you say?"
- “Such an interesting guy and suddenly he’s alone - it’s a mess! Maybe I can become your girlfriend before someone beats me to it?”
- “Listen, today is your day! I'm sure you'll appreciate your luck. I want to invite you to meet!”
- “I’m finally tired of giving you hints. Tell me straight, do you agree to date me or is this impossible for some reason?”
- “Listen, well, we are adults, can I save my time and nerves by asking directly - will you date me?”
If he answers “yes”, then everything is fine, you can be congratulated. However, try not to remind the guy every now and then that he owes you the very fact of your relationship. It’s better to smooth out this moment altogether and try to forget, because it won’t bring joy to the young man, even if he doesn’t show it.
If the guy refuses, don’t let him know that it really hurt you. It’s better to respond with a phrase uttered in the most casual tone, for example: “It’s a pity, of course, but no, that’s not the case” or “Okay, good luck, if you change your mind, let me know,” etc. There is no need to turn into enemies or deliberately avoid then this young man. It is advisable to behave as if nothing had happened, simply deprive him of signs of attention, nice words and tender glances. Communicate with him as with a good friend, but nothing more. Perhaps he will soon appreciate your balanced, adult position and reconsider his attitude towards you.
However, external calm is sometimes not easy. It will certainly not be easy for a girl to survive the refusal of a person she really likes. But it is necessary to hide your true feelings so as not to show others a new “weak spot”, where it is so convenient to hit at every suitable opportunity. In addition, it will make it much easier for you to maneuver wherever you go.
If you start a relationship with another guy soon after this one rejects you, no one will accuse you of being “just trying to forget your unrequited love, and you’re just using the new guy.” Even if such a thought occurs to someone, you can always answer with surprise: “Forget? Whom? That young man? Yes, I forgot about him at that very second, isn’t it obvious?”
Even attempts to win a guy who so impudently refused you will be more successful if you make them from the position of a calm, calculating and self-confident girl. Nothing turns men off more than an obsessive, constantly whining, head over heels in love with them woman.
Sometimes guys who are committed to a serious relationship cannot make the first move first. This is due to the fact that they are afraid of being rejected. Well, if you don’t offer to date your chosen one, then someone else, a more confident young man, will do it.
Therefore, you need to take the bull by the horns and act before it is too late.
How to win a woman's sympathy?
Do you like a girl, but you don't know how to win her favor? Everything is very simple. Here you need to adhere to some rules.
Excessive attention is harmful
Yes, yes, it really works, both with men and girls.
You need to show that you don't care about her. Some young ladies are accustomed to the fact that a man always makes the first step, takes the initiative, looks after and shows signs of attention.
Sometimes the female sex is dependent on this. Well, you can pay attention to her, but not fulfill her various whims.
Important! Stand out more from the rest of the gray mass. Then she will notice you.
More humor and jokes
You need to joke well and appropriately. You should be noticed not only by the object of sympathy, but also by the whole company.
You can also come up with original phrase, which will make the girl laugh. The main thing is to make her smile. The Internet will help you.
Nice appearance
Ladies like well-groomed young men who take care of themselves and their speech:
- The body and hair must be clean.
- If you are growing a beard, you must take care of it (neatness doesn’t hurt).
- Don't forget about ironed clothes and clean shoes.
- And of course, to add some zest - the pleasant smell of perfume. Girls love it when a man emits a bright and tasty aroma.
Communication skills
You must communicate freely, easily find topics for conversation and not let the lady of your heart get bored.
Reference! This quality should be demonstrated not only to the chosen one, but also to everyone around.
Erudition
A person with a rich inner world always attracts attention. You always want to listen and listen to such people. Very good quality to win a girl's heart.
How to win a woman's favor is explained in the video:
When should you move on to the next stage of your relationship?
« Offer to meet" is a phrase that implies a serious, meaningful relationship. Of course, at the age of 12 or 13 there can be no talk of seriousness. This kind of love is more childish and naive. These are walks, gatherings in cafes, visiting attractions.
But adult couples are already seriously preparing to take such a step in their lives.
Before asking a girl to date, you need to think carefully. Did you make the right choice? Usually guys are in a hurry with such a serious step, and the relationship ultimately does not lead to anything positive.
Important! To be 100% sure of your choice, you need to make sure of the sincerity of your feelings and the feelings of your chosen one.
Before making such an offer to a girl, make sure that she is also serious about you. If she has warm and mutual feelings for you, then you can act.
Another important factor is not to rush:
- After the second or third date, you shouldn’t immediately take the second step. You and the girl need to get closer.
- You need to gradually and slowly get to know each other, what interests you have in common, what you like and don’t like, etc.
Reference! Usually haste occurs as a result of deceptive and fictitious feelings. Everything should take its course.
What exactly should you not do?
Unsuccessful actions and phrases:
- You shouldn’t act like a tough macho and use inappropriate words for such a sentence. Example: “You are very hot and I like you. We should try to make it happen." This is exactly what you can’t do. This will only push the girl away from you. On such a day, you should be more romantic in nature, even if in ordinary life you like to pretend to be the bad guy.
- It’s not nice to ask a girl to meet via VKontakte or phone messages (unless you are 12 years old, of course). From the outside, this method looks comical and frivolous.
- Also, don't be pushy. He offered it once, the girl said “no”, she would have to accept this answer and let her go. And if you ask the same thing every day, try to woo her, she will simply hate you and stop all communication.
- There is no need to beg for a positive answer. Example : “I like you, be my girlfriend please.” Please say yes. Please please"
This is a very bad option. The opinion about you will immediately change and the chosen one will rush to leave you alone.
Examples of the best phrases
Beautiful and romantic
If you and the girl have mutual feelings, but no one hastened to take the first step, then take this matter upon yourself.
The main thing is to do it in a beautiful and romantic setting, young ladies love pleasant and unexpected surprises:
- An excellent option would be to have an evening dinner on the roof with a beautiful view of the city. How everything will go, how you decorate the meeting place, depends only on you, the main thing is romance. Such a pleasant atmosphere will inspire warm and correct words, and the girl’s answer will not keep you waiting long.
- You can also go on a boat ride, take a walk under the moon, go to the beach, go horseback riding, etc.
Which phrase is not advisable to use:
"Let's meet"- the most banal words. You are not fourteen years old to use exactly this option.
What phrases can you use:
- “You look wonderful today, as always. You know, we have become so close during our communication that I can no longer imagine my life without you. Will you agree to be my girlfriend?
- “The best moments in my life are with you. And I want there to be even more moments like this, so I would like to see you as my girlfriend.”
- “This is the first time I feel these feelings. Be the right person, sometimes become confused and stupid. Even now I'm terribly worried. But I like it. I want you to be my girlfriend"
Reference! It is not necessary that the phrase be exactly like this. The main thing is to express what you feel for your chosen one. Be sincere.
How to ask a girl to date is explained in the video:
Original
Offer to meet in an original way, what could be better? No words are even needed here.
- Quest. At the moment it is the most optimal and interesting option. You can come up with it yourself or seek help from specialists. The most important thing is that the quest is romantic, but at the same time incredibly interesting. Don't forget about the highlight at the very end - a declaration of feelings.
- Video. Make a short film with your photos, and also record your own video where you confess your feelings. And then you can show it on a projector.
- Flash mob. Also very unusual option. Only here you will need to try to organize everything. A lot of people will need to be involved.
You can also take her to a crazy attraction, a dolphinarium, or even offer her a trip to another city. It all depends on your desire and imagination.
In verse
The easiest way. If you are a very romantic person at heart and love poetry, then go for it. The main thing is that the verse must be read with all your heart, clearly and clearly.
Poem example:
“Let's meet you!
I want to be with you
Throwing flowers
Giving you love!...”
Be sure to add something of your own at the end. And it’s best if it’s your own poem.
Can I offer it on VK or by phone?
You can offer to meet by correspondence if you are no more than sixteen years old.
Reference! This option is most likely suitable for school age when the guy is still insecure and very shy.
Between the ages of 12 and 15, young people are afraid of being rejected, afraid of seeming stupid. Therefore, it often happens that if the object of sympathy refuses, when they meet in person, the young men say that it was a joke (or the addressee was mistaken).
Watch a video that tells you how to date properly at 14:
An offer over the phone is also not considered the best option. After all, if the girl agrees, then you will not see the joy on her face, you will not be able to hug and kiss each other.
But if you still decide, then:
- Speak clearly and tenderly;
- Do not interrupt your chosen one;
- Pause and wait for her response;
Well, in general, you can only hint at such an offer over the phone, and the process itself can be carried out in person.
In general, such things are done live. It’s better to overcome your embarrassment and appear before the girl as a self-confident guy. Then there will be more chances for a positive answer.
The main thing is to be confident.
Down with all embarrassment! It's time to become a real man and do beautiful things for the sake of the one who sympathizes with you.
Speak.
Ladies love to listen with their ears and do not like incomprehensible hints. You must always say directly and clearly: what you think, what you want and what you feel.
Care.
Don't forget to show you care. It’s not difficult to call and find out how she’s doing, how her day went, or how she’s feeling. Or maybe she needs help, and you will come in handy.
And also a few rules:
- Don't forget about appearance;
- Choose the right moment;
- Be yourself;
- Smile more;
So, to ask a girl out, you don’t have to move mountains and do crazy things. The main thing is to show her your attention and your serious intentions.
Don’t forget that you shouldn’t suggest meeting via VK correspondence; it’s better to do it in person, looking into each other’s eyes.
Arrange romantic evening, pick up beautiful words and take action. If you adhere at least a little to the most simple rules, then everything will be crowned with success.
Don't say that you're madly in love and can't live without your beauty. But if this is the case, you are very lucky: today you will learn how to propose to a girl.
Forget about stupid phrases and other failures, because this must be done without words!
Don't ask her out if...
In fact, you don’t always need to approach a girl and tell her “let’s date.” Even more, in 75% of cases it is simply not necessary. In order not to make a mistake and not to ruin your relationship with your lady, see if you belong to this category of men:
- You realize that the girl doesn't like you
Doing crazy things for women is beautiful and sometimes effective, but not in your case. If a girl doesn't pay any attention to you at all, and you can't get her out of your head, forget about offering her a relationship. She will refuse you and it will only hurt your pride.
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If you think that such an act as a proposal will make her look at you differently, you are mistaken. First, you need to go through all the preliminary stages of a relationship: establishing contact, dating, seducing - and only then can you make her your girlfriend.
- On the first date
You met a girl and asked her out on a date. You communicate well and you understand that you would like a relationship with her. What are you doing? You say: “We feel so good together. Will you be my girlfriend?” How does the girl feel at this time? She is simply confused and confused - you are a guy whom she only recently noticed, who has not yet earned much credit and has not yet become loved. Naturally, she will be afraid of such sudden pressure and you will not only not have a relationship with her, but there will not be a second date.
The girl's reaction will be something like this:
- You are already together
If your relationship started on its own: you already spend a lot of time together, kiss, trust each other. Maybe you almost no longer go for walks separately and cannot live without each other. But you didn’t offer to meet her - what should you do? Nothing - you are already dating and after all this, your proposal will seem at least strange or stupid to the girl.
Do you know what girls expect in this case? Confessions! She already knows that you are together, but she doesn't yet know how serious it is. But your confession will put everything in its place - you are committed to a serious relationship.
- You're not 15 anymore
If you are already an adult guy who has experience in relationships and knows how to seduce girls, forget about the phrase “let’s date.” This is the lot of schoolchildren, teenagers and some students who are not confident in themselves.
You can't do without an offer when...
There are situations when asking to meet is simply necessary. And if you don’t tell the girl these cherished words, you simply risk losing her or constantly being in painful uncertainty:
- There is no clarity in your relationship
So you seem to have close physical contact and spend time together, and then she leaves you, goes to the club and freely flirts (or worse) with other guys. What's happening? It’s just that your relationship has very vague boundaries: you are not a guy and a girl, but you are not strangers either. In such a situation, everyone perceives this connection in a way that is convenient for them: you may think that you are in a relationship, but she simply will not take it seriously, thinking that this is another affair. If this happens, go ahead and propose a relationship to the girl. Express your desire to be with her, make her give a positive answer. Thus, she silently promises to be faithful and devoted to you.
- Love works wonders
If you have strong feelings for a girl and want her to know about it, you can amaze her with a beautiful proposal. If you see that she also really likes you and you have already been on a date, act beautifully and originally. Even an adult guy can make such a proposal, because his goal is not so much to establish clear boundaries in your relationship, but rather to aspire to evoke the best emotions in your beloved, associations with you and make the day when you became a couple special for her. This is a kind of symbolic touch in the development of your story.
- If you are teenagers
Finally, we come to the main thing - the proposal to date is the most important and significant for teenagers. And if you are one of them, this article is just for you. It is very important for school-age girls that you say the cherished “Will you be my girlfriend?” Perhaps this will be the first relationship for your beloved (and for you too). And of course, you still don’t know how to correctly understand each other’s gestures, you don’t know how to correctly grasp energy messages, hints and other little things. Therefore, it is especially important to express your feelings through words and actions. And if she answers you “Yes,” know that she is in love and proud that she now has you.
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Soil preparation
You can propose to a girl only when you feel a connection between you, when you both feel comfortable alone with each other. If a girl continues to avoid or ignore you, it’s too early to act. A situation where you are getting closer and closer can happen by itself, but it can also require your deliberate actions.
When do you see each other often?
If you study in the same class or in the same group, then it is much easier for you to win her attention. But remember, before you propose to her, she should go on at least a couple of dates with you. In order to get closer to a girl, you can try the following maneuvers:
- Stand out with something good, such as high marks, helping others, etc.
- Ask her to work on a project with you. It could also be any other school task that will help you be around her.
- Try to chat with the girl, ask her some questions about herself. Also use praise: notice that she did a very good job on her essay today, for example, and tell her about it.
- Try to become her friend, but at the same time keep your distance so as not to fall into the Friend Zone.
- Flirt with her - you can give her compliments, look at her with interest, even straighten her hair.
- If you are already communicating closely enough, you can accidentally touch her.
- Invite her out for ice cream.
- If your walk was successful, you can try to sit next to her in class (better if she wants it herself).
- Now you can walk with her more often, making attempts to hug her.
- When you feel that she is ready, kiss her.
- Now you can ask her to meet, because you have already become close and she is just waiting for your cherished words.
When it is not possible to cross paths often
If you are not around all the time, you have to organize meetings yourself. By the way, psychologists say that a person who often catches your eye is able to inspire trust and earn sympathy much faster.
The first thing you need to do is go to the places where she goes as often as possible. You should try to get closer to her - to do this you can add her as a friend on VKontakte, comment on her photos and try to communicate.
For more information on how to take her for a walk, read the article “”. And if everything worked out for you and she went for a walk with you, make these meetings permanent. Let her get used to them. And when you feel that she is as interested in you as you are, invite her to date.
On what date to propose?
According to statistics, a girl expects a proposal on the 5th-7th date. If you delay too much, she may simply lose faith and be disappointed in you and in this relationship. But proposing earlier is also not recommended, because the first 2-3 meetings will only help you determine the girl’s attitude.
How to propose to meet correctly
If a girl willingly agrees to meetings and leaves them happy and inspired, then the moment of proposal has come. In order to do everything right, pay attention to the following things:
- Your appearance
Even if you are not going to do anything special - you just want to hug her tenderly and tell her that you want to see her as your girlfriend, still take care of her appearance. At such a crucial moment, you must be beautiful and well-groomed, so that she does not doubt for a minute the correctness of her choice. Of course, you shouldn’t dress like a knight from old fairy tales - you’re not going to get married. Be more beautiful than usual, but don't overdo it either.
- Meeting point
The meeting place depends on how you want to propose to her. This could be a park, a cozy cafe, a trip to some beautiful or special place. But keep in mind that during the proposal you should not be interrupted by loud noise, and the girl should feel comfortable.
- Flowers, gifts...
Don't buy perfume or other gifts that may simply not suit her. Get by an inexpensive gift in the form of a flower, a small souvenir or sweets. In fact, you can do without all this, but the girl will be more pleased if you decide to back up your proposal with a small gift.
- Your words
Remember that the main thing is sincerity. You must clearly and warmly explain to the girl how you feel about her and what you want from her. Girls simply love specifics, when after a conversation you don’t have to guess what you wanted to say. Emphasize what you like about her, speak gently but confidently.
If you choose poems or template SMS for her, don’t forget to add something from yourself at the end. Let the girl feel that you didn’t just copy and paste this text without even reading it completely. For example, at the end of the verse write: “I really feel all this about you, and I want you to be with me.”
A few simple rules:
- Be confident and persistent
You shouldn’t give up as soon as it seems to you that the girl has cooled down a little towards you. You must prepare her for the proposal using all your strength, charm and perseverance. Don’t overdo it with perseverance, but you won’t be able to do without it either.
- Follow the girl's demands
If you are already in close contact and you are preparing to propose, pay attention to what the girl requires from you. If she is offended that you didn’t call her even once yesterday, it means she requires you to call every day. And you must fulfill this by showing her that she is truly dear to you. If the girl doesn’t care, most likely she’s not that interested in you.
- Speak
Girls love with their ears and don’t like to guess about your feelings. You are a man and you must be brave: say out loud all the good things that you think about her and what you feel.
Say these words already: “Let’s meet”
So, you decided to confess your feelings to her and propose to date her. You have already figured out where you will take her and now all you have to do is decide what you will say and wait for the right moment.
Moment
It’s best to start talking when you’re already standing next to her, she’s in your arms and you’re kissing her. When you reach the peak of romance, just calmly tell her what you intended. You can whisper it in her ear, but not so quietly that she won’t hear it at all.
You can, holding her hands and looking into her eyes, confidently reveal all your cards to her.
Phrases
It’s better not to say the phrase “Let’s meet” - it sounds terribly banal and somehow stupid. You just need to modify and embellish it a little. Combine a compliment, a suggestion and an expression of your feelings into one. You could say something like this:
“We have become so close that I can no longer imagine my life without you. Will you agree to be my girlfriend?
“You are the first one who made me feel like this - worried, confused and in love. But I really like it. I want you to be my girlfriend"
“The time we spend together are the best moments for me. I really want this to happen as often as possible, so I would like to see you as my girlfriend.”
Of course, your phrase may be completely different... and it shouldn’t be like that - you are a special person and your girl is also special. Just try to express what you feel in beautiful words.
Invite her to meet nicely
If you think this is nonsense, I will try to convince you otherwise:
- This will change my opinion about you
Of course, if a girl doesn’t love you and she doesn’t even like you, no matter what you do, it’s useless. But if she only has a little doubt about you and you need to make the final blow, surprise her with a beautiful confession and she will give in.
- It will make you special
If you are no longer a schoolboy or a teenager, a beautiful proposal may still be useful to you. No matter how old a girl is, she always expects specific actions and beautiful confessions, and if you give it to her, your relationship will become especially important and valuable to her.
How to choose the right method
Everything is simple here: if a girl has a calm character, is a romantic and gentle person, then the recognition should match her. This could be various romantic dinners, rose petals, etc.
If the girl is bright, extravagant and active, give her recognition with the same set of characteristics. Let it be something fun and unforgettable. This could be a trip to another city that she wanted to visit. Take her to a crazy attraction, a huge dolphinarium, etc. And at the end of the entertainment, say that it was all for her and make your proposal.
Another note for you: do not use gifts as a way to get a girl. This can easily influence a mercantile person, but a good, decent girl will feel like a debtor and this will not make her very comfortable. You don't want her to go out with you just out of politeness, do you?
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If a girl suddenly refuses, learn to work with refusals:
Not all guys who have the most serious intentions can easily and simply decide to move on to a new stage of the relationship. This is usually due to the fear of rejection.
However, you still have to propose to a cute young lady, otherwise you risk losing her, because there will be a more confident and brash guy who doesn’t hesitate, but does it.
How to ask a girl to date? How to behave if a young lady refuses or considers your proposal inappropriate? A few rules will help you prepare for such a serious step.
The phrase “dating a girl” presupposes the existence of a certain relationship based on mutual sympathy or love. At the age of 12 or 13 years, such relationships usually look like this - walks together, visiting cafes, cinemas and discos.
Older couples move to a more intimate level.
Method number 3. Romantic
What's the best way to tell a girl that you like her and ask her out? Try to show your imagination, remember or find out what pleases her most. Perhaps it will look romantic:
- confession in poetry (better if it is your own creation);
- beautiful phrases on the asphalt in front of her window;
- performing a serenade under the balcony;
- recognition after a romantic trip;
- a plush toy, when pressed, an offer to meet is heard;
- important words spoken after arranged dinner by candlelight.
Remember! Not every girl is romantic. Some young ladies are quite down-to-earth and do not dream of men of royal blood on white horses.
To understand whether your chosen one likes romance, take a look at her VK page, try to meet her friends and ask them.
Method number 4. Original
If you are interested in how to ask a girl to date in an original way, and in such a way that your “queen of the heart” will forever remember this pleasant moment, it is important to show your imagination and not be afraid to experiment.
- Try making a craft with your own hands. For example, write down in an album the character traits and qualities for which you like her. For each reason, choose a girl’s photo with characteristic emotions. At the end of the album you can depict your proposal.
- Flash mob is a fashion event that looks quite unusual and beautiful. Involve your friends or ask strangers for help, explaining to them the reason. For example, a girl goes out onto the balcony, and the “helpers” let her up air balloons, from which the sentence is composed. Or, for example, ask your VK subscribers to send her a message saying that you want to date her.
- Quest is a popular event nowadays. Why not use it in a capacity convenient for you. Arrange a similar game for the girl, during which she will visit certain places and find clues in them that will indicate where to go next. The finale is you with a bouquet of roses and a pleasant proposal.
Other original ways you can find on the Internet or brainstorm with friends, who will suggest the most unusual and tempting method of proposal. If you still want to make an offer by phone or SMS, you must:
- speak clearly, with tenderness in your voice;
- pause to wait for her response;
- do not interrupt, even if her answer upsets you;
- send intriguing SMS in which you confess your warm feelings;
- Still, say important words in a personal meeting, but only hint about a serious conversation in SMS.
What is the best way to invite a young lady to date? Much depends on psychological characteristics, age (12, 13 or 20 years) of the girl and the gentleman. In addition, it is important to choose the ideal place and time for recognition, so that no one can interfere with you or, on the contrary, people can help you realize your plans.
Remember one thing: if you consider your chosen one to be the girl of your dreams, feel free to propose!
Hello, I am Nadezhda Plotnikova. Having successfully completed her studies at SUSU as a specialized psychologist, she devoted several years to working with children with developmental problems and consulting parents on issues of raising children. I use the experience gained, among other things, in creating articles of a psychological nature. Of course, I in no way claim to be the ultimate truth, but I hope that my articles will help dear readers deal with any difficulties.
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