How to ask a girl to date beautifully: we analyze each of the options. Let's meet! A smart proposal to win a girl

A tradition has developed according to which the role of initiator of relationships falls on the guy. It is men who usually ask girls to date. However, more and more often this well-established rule fails. Sometimes a guy does not dare to make the first step or simply does not notice a girl who is showing increased interest in him. So what should you do in this case? Wait, reconcile, or perhaps pay attention to someone else? Why not take the initiative into your own hands and ask the guy to date yourself?

Make him figure it out himself

This is, of course, the longest, but also the most preferable scenario. If a guy categorically does not want to notice you or simply has no idea about your feelings for him, it is still advisable to start by opening his eyes to this. A situation in which a guy says the phrase: “Let’s meet” is still more comfortable for both, so you shouldn’t lose hope that it will come out after all.

To do this, you need to let the young man know that you really like him. This will come in handy in any case, even if he turns out to be so modest that he cannot offer you a relationship. The phrases that will be appropriate in each individual case depend entirely on the situation. Examples include the following options:

• “Can I stay next to you for a little while, see what you’re doing, I feel so calm with you that I don’t want to leave.” Perfect for situations when a guy is busy with something. If he doesn’t ask you to leave and not disturb him, the conversation can continue.
• In response to any of his small requests, answer in the style of: “Of course, you know that I cannot refuse you anything” or “For you, whatever you want.”
• It is advisable to demonstratively distinguish him from other guys. To do this, you can periodically use formulations like: “I don’t care about other people’s opinions on this matter, if I ask anyone, it’s only you” or “What I like most in men is dignity, good upbringing and honesty; It’s a pity that not everyone is like you.”

At the same time, do not forget to always be nice and friendly with this young man. It will be useful to demonstrate a couple of times how your mood changes for the better when it appears. To be sure, you can let your mutual friends know that you are not indifferent to him. Almost certainly at least one of them will inform your chosen one about this.

Try to be within reach as often as possible young man. As if by chance, be “on hand” at the right moment so that he has the opportunity to utter the cherished phrase or at least its uncertain analogues like: “Can I accompany you?”, “What are you doing tonight?” or “Did you have lunch? Maybe we can eat together?”

If, despite all your efforts, the young man has not shown you any attention, it means that he is either not interested in you and remains silent on principle, or is still not confident in himself and is shy. In both cases, ask yourself the question: “Do I really need this guy?” And if yes, then move on to more decisive actions.

Invitation to Action

Many people are embarrassed to say the phrase “let’s meet” in its literal form. But this is not necessary. There are many formulations that will serve as excellent alternatives; in addition, they will allow you to simulate a comfortable situation that is conducive to continuation. Such phrases can be called an invitation to action. Here are just a few examples:

• “I haven’t gone anywhere for so long, I really want to go to the movies, but there’s no suitable company. Maybe we can go together?”
• “I just want to take a walk around the city at night! Please keep me company, I can’t wander around alone.”
• “Do you already have plans for the weekend? Can I break them a little? I really want to get out of town, but I won’t go without you.”
• “Next week I’m going to choose a puppy. This is a very responsible choice, I'm afraid to make a mistake. I need advice and support smart person. You won’t refuse me, will you?”

All this must be said ironically, as if jokingly, softly, but insist on your request. For example, if a guy says that he doesn’t understand anything about dogs, you can confidently answer: “Believe me, it doesn’t matter at all, the main thing here is instinct. I need you to give advice based on your intuition.”

This is just the principle by which an invitation to action is built; in fact, the phrase can be anything. Here you should take into account the guy’s character, the list of his possible hobbies, and the peculiarities of the situation. For example, if a guy is inactive, he spends more time quiet activities may be afraid of heights, it is better not to offer him a joint parachute jump. There is no need to put him in a deliberately uncomfortable position. The simpler and less burdensome the offer is for him, the easier he will accept it.

But after you finally find yourself together (at the cinema or on a walk), you can continue your soft offensive. After all, the ultimate goal of this entire event is a personal relationship with a young man. Therefore, you need to make him understand that this meeting is not the only one, but the first in a series of many others that await you ahead. In other words, this walk can be considered the beginning of a relationship, unless, of course, he is categorically against it. Phrases such as:

• “I really enjoyed this evening, thank you. But he's not the last, is he? Are we going to go somewhere else together?”
• “In fact, I have long wanted to be alone with you, I didn’t know what reason to come up with. Promise me that I won’t have to rack my brains for so long again.”
• “If it were up to me, I wouldn’t let you go for a minute. How great it would be if I spent all my free time with you!”
• “When you get home, call me so I don’t worry about you. Till tomorrow".

Next you should watch the changes in the guy’s attitude for a couple of days. To speed up this process, you also need to change your behavior a little. At the next meeting, you can allow yourself a calmer and more confident attitude, you can even show a small degree of concern. If the guy remains a stranger and aloof after this, then you’ve really got yourself a “tough nut to crack” or a “difficult case” - you know better. And again ask yourself the question: “Do I need such a guy?” If the answer is still “yes,” proceed to a decisive offensive.

Direct wording

This is an extreme measure, but if all the previous ones have not led to success, you will have to resort to it. Of course, there is a risk of receiving a refusal and everything connected with it, but, in any case, there will be clarity. Then you can set yourself the following tasks, for example, forget this guy, find another, or still achieve this. In addition, a decisive offensive has other advantages.

Firstly, the guy will no longer be able to evade and feign misunderstanding; he will have to, one way or another, answer the question posed. Secondly, if the answer is positive, you will get what you were looking for. Your relationship will begin right from this minute. Each girl decides for herself which phrase to prefer as a proposal to meet, as well as the tone in which it will be pronounced. It is advisable that it relates to your image. Among the possible options:

• cute, soft;
• timid, shy;
• humorous;
• straightforward;
• defiant, rude;
• calm, reasonable, etc.

It is necessary to take into account the guy’s character. If he is too reserved and shy, then it is better to avoid excessive pressure, and even more so rudeness. You can choose the simplest phrases, for example:

• “I’ve been wanting to ask you for a long time, do you have a girlfriend? Maybe I’ll come over?”
• “I have to admit to you, I like you. How do you feel about us starting dating?”
• “Of all the guys I know, you suit my personality best. I would like us to start dating. What do you say?"
• “Such an interesting guy and suddenly he’s alone - it’s a mess! Maybe I can become your girlfriend before someone beats me to it?”
• “Listen, today is your day! I'm sure you'll appreciate your luck. I want to invite you to meet!”
• “I’m finally tired of giving you hints. Tell me straight, do you agree to date me or is this impossible for some reason?”
• “Listen, well, we are adults, can I save my time and nerves by asking directly - will you date me?”

If he answers “yes”, then everything is fine, you can be congratulated. However, try not to remind the guy every now and then that he owes you the very fact of your relationship. It’s better to smooth out this moment altogether and try to forget, because it won’t bring joy to the young man, even if he doesn’t show it.

If the guy refuses, don’t let him know that it really hurt you. It’s better to respond with a phrase uttered in the most casual tone, for example: “It’s a pity, of course, but no, that’s not the case” or “Okay, good luck, if you change your mind, let me know,” etc. There is no need to turn into enemies or deliberately avoid then this young man. It is advisable to behave as if nothing had happened, simply deprive him of signs of attention, pleasant words and tender glances. Communicate with him as with a good friend, but nothing more. Perhaps he will soon appreciate your balanced, adult position and reconsider his attitude towards you.

However, external calm is sometimes not easy. It will certainly not be easy for a girl to survive the refusal of a person she really likes. But it is necessary to hide your true feelings so as not to show others a new “weak spot”, where it is so convenient to hit at every suitable opportunity. In addition, it will make it much easier for you to maneuver wherever you go.

If you start a relationship with another guy soon after this one's rejection, no one will accuse you of "just trying to forget your unrequited love, and you’re just using the new guy.” Even if such a thought occurs to someone, you can always answer with surprise: “Forget? Whom? That young man? Yes, I forgot about him at that very second, isn’t it obvious?”

Even attempts to win a guy who so impudently refused you will be more successful if you make them from the position of a calm, calculating and self-confident girl. Nothing turns men off more than an obsessive, constantly whining, head over heels in love with them woman.

Young people should prove themselves not only by masculine actions, but also by speaking to women pleasant words. Everyone wants to hear compliments addressed to them; it is especially impressive when they are not given in trivial, hackneyed phrases. When the same type and unoriginal text is spoken, it becomes boring and uninteresting. Most ladies have the impression that this is a standard set of compliments, which is dedicated to all the chosen ones in a row. In order not to cause indifference in response, you need to look for suitable expressions for your companion.

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Beautiful design

To effect pleasant phrases was the most effective, it is necessary to show originality and present them correctly in a beautiful setting, at a well-chosen moment. Everything that sounds original and does not follow the pattern always makes the maximum impression and is etched in the memory for a long time.

If you offer a girl a nice and romantic date, she is unlikely to resist such a gentleman. There are some simple tips on how to present everything correctly and be on top:

• You need to look appropriate for the setting in which the proposal will be made. Choose clothes, look neat and smell nice.
• You can't come to a girl empty-handed. Must be prepared little surprise. It doesn’t have to be expensive, let it be a simple beautiful trinket, a keychain or a delicious cake.
• It is worth choosing secluded places and creating an intimate, romantic atmosphere. You can beautifully decorate the meeting place in advance.
• You can add a calm sound design. Muted, sensual music without words in the background will set a romantic mood for both and will help the guy tune in to the right words.

The additional surroundings will depend on the imagination and meaning of the words with which the guy wants to conquer his girlfriend. It is advisable to choose not too pretentious and ornate expressions. Simple phrases spoken with soul will make the right impression much better and help you achieve your goal.

What to say

When the exciting moment comes to ask a girl to date, most guys begin to get lost and hesitate to say certain words. To find a relationship, you need to start somewhere. And the very first thing a man will have to do is think through the phrases that he will say during his confession. It is important to remember that speech should be beautiful and intelligent. It is advisable to come up with a text from your head and speak sincerely, in your own words. But if you don’t have enough experience or ingenuity, you can use similar examples of phrases:

• “Ever since I saw you, I haven’t been able to breathe calmly. I'm running out of air. My vital oxygen is you. Let's meet".
• “I had a wonderful dream that in the distance, in a fairy-tale forest, a beautiful fairy flashed before me. When I rode closer on my horse, I saw that it was you. I fell in love with your beauty and tenderness. Let's be together and build a beautiful house on the edge of the forest and live happily ever after."
• “I’ve been watching you for a long time, and I like you. I really want to spend more time with you. How do you feel about dating? »
• “We have known each other for a long time, I want to admit that I like you more than just a friend. Let’s try a different level of relationship and start dating.”
• “I love so much that I’m burning, you will put out my fire. Save urgently, everything is lost. Without you I will turn to ashes. Let's be together."
• “We met recently, but I realized that I wanted to do more than just be friends. Let's be a couple."
• “Every day before going to bed, I see your beautiful image and hear the aroma of your perfume. I would like to make you coffee in the morning and wake you up with a gentle kiss. Will you agree to be my girlfriend? »
• “I wish everyone to be as lucky in life as I was when I met you. Now I won't let you go anywhere. Be my soul mate."
• “My gray days were filled with bright colors when I saw your sweet smile in the crowd. How I would like you to smile at me every day as my beloved woman. Be my life partner."

The proposal to be a couple in poetry always sounds original. If you decide to rhyme lines for your beloved yourself, you need to follow several rules:

• in the text it is advisable to use the name of the beloved;
• there should be admiration in the words;
• pronounce phrases with convincing intonation;
• you cannot use repeated words and speculate on feelings;
• you need to check the text for errors before sending it to your chosen one.

You can present love creativity in several ways:

• read in person;
• read out over the phone;
• send a message on social networks or by phone;
• make an audio recording and play it in an unusual place.

Several verse options:

• “When you pass by, I tremble and grow cold from beauty and charm. I want to give the whole world to you alone and constantly. And get stars from the sky, and walk under the moon at night, and ride a boat along the river. Always, everywhere to accompany, love, appreciate and understand.”
• “I’m terribly worried, like a kid. I want to charm you, I want to be with you forever and conquer you every day.”

There are many ways to express yourself, but you must always remember that all actions and words must be from the heart. To be more confident when speaking, you can practice in front of a mirror in advance and speak out the text.

Who is the offer addressed to?

There are different stages of relationships between the opposite sex. Before taking active action, the degree of risk should be assessed. To choose the most profitable tactics, it is necessary to analyze who the man is the object of his desire. The most common situations are as follows:

Relationship level	Explanation
The boy is in love, but the girl doesn't like him	You might hope that a nice proposal to be a couple will melt the ice in the girl’s heart, but this is an unlikely option. If there is no mutual sympathy, gaining favor is very difficult and time consuming. As a rule, there is always a refusal, despite the man’s best efforts. No phrase will change her decision if she does not consider him as a possible partner in the relationship. She may simply be embarrassed to confess and upset her friend. But strong pressure on her will still force her to say a categorical “no” to her gentleman.
Close girlfriend	If feelings arose for close friend, it will be easier to find words and propose a relationship. The man has already gotten used to his girlfriend, studied her character and knows what phrases will affect her. Here the course of events can go in two directions. The first is that she never considered him as her soulmate, but she will be pleased with the attention. Most often, the answer will look like a compliment addressed to him and a desire to leave everything as it is, so as not to spoil friendly relations. The second option is when she thinks about it and she herself becomes interested in transferring the relationship to a new format
Mutual sympathy	When several meetings have already taken place, and the relationship itself is gaining a natural momentum, an unsuccessfully chosen phrase can ruin everything. Therefore, it should not be said at all if both behave like an already established couple. Efforts should be made to organize romantic dates and give beautiful, sensual compliments

You should always take into account the actual relationship with the girl before moving on to active actions. If you have already decided to change the format of communication, you should be decisive and find out everything at once.

Under what conditions should we suggest meeting?

So that the girl does not refuse immediately, it is advisable to choose a good moment and a calm atmosphere. You should not start loving conversations when she is upset about something or is in great grief. She will have no time for love affairs. It's better to wait for a calmer time when she has good mood.You can introduce a conversation about relationships in various beautiful settings, for example:

• on a walk in a park or square;
• on the shore of the sea, river or lake;
• on a beautiful bridge;
• a soulful picnic in nature;
• near street animators or musicians;
• under the starry sky;
• in the mountains.

The main thing is that the area is colorful and memorable, and that there is not a soul nearby. If you have been friends for a long time, picking up the key will be easier. But don't put pressure on a girl when the proposal takes her by surprise. You need to give time to think about what has been said, so there is a greater chance of getting consent.

How to organize a proposal

There are different ways you can express your desire to start dating. Each method must be selected individually, depending on the circumstances and character of the beloved. There are several options for asking a girl to date:

Way	How to use
Say it directly	To do this, you can take a walk together in the park, organize romantic evening, retire to some place beautiful place and say very nice words with a proposal to be together
Write a letter	Write a note, SMS, personal message on social networks or in a more classic way - write a letter. Moreover, it does not have to be sent by mail; you can simply put it in an envelope and leave it in the mailbox or ask someone to give it to you. You can write graffiti under her window or put words with lit candles on the asphalt at night and call the girl to the window
Sing	If a guy has a good voice and knows how to play musical instruments, the most original thing would be to compose a song and dedicate it to your crush. And after execution, offer to meet.

The result depends on the man’s imagination and the lady’s sympathy for him. If her heart is occupied by someone else, she will, of course, appreciate all the efforts and will be pleased, but the answer will not be what she wants. You shouldn’t lose face and resort to swearing and rudeness if you refuse. If the idea is a success, enjoy the relationship and seize every happy minute spent together.

Teddy Lupine 26 years old - Gryffindor
Marie-Victoire Lupine 24 - Ravenclaw
Molly Weasley 21 - Ravenclaw
James Potter 20 years old - Gryffindor
Dominic Weasley 20 years old - Gryffindor
Fred Weasley 20 years old - Gryffindor
Frank Longbottom 19 years old - Gryffindor
Albus Potter 18 years old - Slytherin
Rose Weasley 18 years old - Gryffindor
Scorpius Malfoy 18 years old - Slytherin
Alice Lonbottom 17 years old - 7th year, Gryffindor
Lysander and Lorcan Scamander, 17 years old - 6th year Gryffindor and Ravenclaw
Louis Weasley 17 years old - 7th year Ravenclaw
Roxanne Weasley 17 years old - 7th year Gryffindor
Lucy Weasley 16 years old - 6th year Gryffindor
Hugo Weasley 16 years old - 6th year Gryffindor
Lily Potter 16 years old - 6th year Gryffindor
Petunia Dursley 15 years old - 5th year Hufflepuff
Olivia Longbottom 14 years old - 4th year Hufflepuff
Patrick Dursley 12 years old - Muggle

Lily, where are you going? Come here quickly and help me cook! – Mom’s dissatisfied voice was heard throughout the house.
- I'm coming, mom! – I answered, quickly putting the books back in place. Shaking the dust off my clothes, I hurried to go downstairs until, Merlin forbid, my mother herself went up to the attic.
- God, how long should I wait for you? Guests will arrive in 2 hours, and you are reading books! I shouldn’t have told you about them,” my mother sighed sadly, shaking her red head.
- Sorry mom, there are just such interesting books, there in the attic, you just can’t put it down!
- But today is your father's birthday! I might as well hold off on this. Don't just stand there, go peel the potatoes!
I had no choice but to obediently carry out the assignment. It’s better not to argue with your mother when she’s irritated - it’s more expensive for yourself. Only dad could contradict her, and not always.
- Ma, whose owl flew in? “I imagined it or was it really the Scamanders’ owl,” I asked my mother, who was waving her baton like a conductor.
- Oh, I completely forgot! The scamanders have arrived. Luna and Rolf are finally done with those excavations in Bulgaria. I have no idea what they found there, but Luna writes that it is simply the greatest discovery of the century. I don’t know whether to believe her or not, you know that she sometimes likes to exaggerate unnecessarily.
- Scamanders? They are back? – James burst into the kitchen, followed by Brick, our house elf.
“Yes, Luna writes that they will be staying in England for a long time,” Mom looked up from cooking and looked at James. - Did you find what I asked for?
- You know how difficult it is to find a polar owl now? And she also looks like dad’s Hedwig? – James whined, lounging on a chair next to the fireplace.
- So you didn’t find it? – Mom dropped her hands in frustration.
- I'm James Potter! I can do anything! – After a heavy pause, my brother smiled smugly, I rolled my eyes. - Brick, bring it in!
Brick obediently left the kitchen and a couple of seconds later returned with a cage in which sat an incredibly beautiful polar owl.
- Oh, what a beauty! – Mom and I exclaimed in admiration.
Mom’s happiness knew no bounds; she even kissed James to celebrate.
- Father will be happy with such a gift. It must have been terribly expensive?
“The seller, a terrible swindler, inflated the price, but Brick and I persuaded him to sell it at half price,” James continued to boast.
- Well done Brick! – I praised the elf. I understood that he did all the work, not James. In response, Brick happily flapped his ears.
- Brick tried his best, little miss!
- James, take the owl to your room and give it something to drink, then come back, I will need your help. And you, Brick, start decorating the cake.
- Yes, Mrs. Potter.
- So Lysander and Lorcan will study at Hogwarts? – I continued asking my mother as soon as James took the owl away.
- Yes, they will be enrolled in the sixth year.
- On the sixth? But I thought they were older than Roxanne and Louis, - I began to sort through the birth dates of my cousins. – Yes, that’s right, the Scamanders are several months older than them, they should be in their seventh year.
- I told you, they will study in the same course as you! Stop arguing! It's just that Drumstrang has a different education system, Professor McGonagall decided that they should first get used to new school, and only then, a year later, take the TOAD test.
- Oh, then it’s clear. Perhaps they will come to celebrate dad's birthday?
- Yes. Luna writes that she misses everyone terribly and wants to see everyone.
“It would be just fine if Aunt Luna’s children didn’t come, especially Lysander,” I said casually.
- Lily! How can you say that? They are part of our family! - Mom exclaimed reproachfully; she even stopped stirring the sauce.
- I know that they are part of our family. But you remember what the twins were like as children, and what they did, they were even worse than James and Fred! – I shuddered at the thought of how they grew up; I knew that nothing could change their character.
- Oh, come on Lily. You're just talking about childish resentment. “So what if they shaved your head, they were children,” the mother began to justify the twins with a laugh in her voice.
- They crippled my childhood psyche, mom! You can't imagine how happy I was when I found out that they were leaving for America.
Mom just laughed, and I sniffled with insult.

Our house, on Grimmauld Street, was always full of guests. Not a day went by without a visit from my father's old friend, my mother's colleague, members of our big family... My parents said that before, during the second war with Voldemort, our house was a rather gloomy sight. What was one portrait of Walburga Black worth? Dad, as soon as a cure for eternal glue was invented, the first thing he did was remove her portrait from the wall, and put it away for much longer. He would never have done this if Kreacher had been alive, but by that time he was no longer alive.
With the portrait, the oppressive atmosphere in the house also went away. Of course, there was some general cleaning, but after that our house “bloomed.” Mom also liked to say that the best remedy from the ghosts of the past - children's laughter. I suspect that what she meant was that the ghosts simply could not stand the children's screams and cries.
And now our house was filled with guests from top to bottom, and this time the reason was dad's birthday. Even Scorpius was here, dragged by Rose, and this was his first acquaintance with our family. Uncle Ron nearly choked on his pie when Rose arrived in the middle of the party, holding hands with Scorpius, who was clearly reluctant. Of course, everyone knew that they were dating, but Uncle didn’t think that Rose would dare to come here with “that Slytherin ferret.” But, thank God, Aunt Hermione stopped him in time, and the relatives happily accepted Skor.
Besides our family, there were Uncle Neville and Hannah with their children, and Aunt Luna and Rolf who, thank Merlin, came without their sons. Teddy and Marie-Victoire, who was at last month pregnancy.
The father, despite being tired, beamed with happiness and thanked everyone from the bottom of his heart for the gifts. When he saw our owl, he even became a little emotional. Mom also beamed with happiness from the fact that everyone praised her culinary skills; Molly’s grandmother even admitted that her daughter had surpassed her in this.
There was a terrible noise at the table. Everyone asked Luna and Rolf about their excavations, James about his work as the new Seeker in the England team, congratulated Rose on entering the Koldomelik Institute, Al into the Auror Academy and Scorpius into the High School of Law at the Ministry of Magic, every now and then they raised a toast, reminisced old times, joked, argued, talked about things at work...
From the middle of the holiday, all the guests went to their corners. In the kitchen, grandmother, mother, aunts Fleur, Angelina, Hannah, and Marie-Victoire remained talking about the difficult life of the mothers of the family, grandfather remained sitting with them; Uncle Percy, Audrey, Neville and Uncle Bill continued to ask Rolf and Luna about their work in Bulgaria in the living room; Dad, Aunt Hermione and Ron locked themselves in the office; Uncle George, James, Fred, Teddy and Frankie were passionately discussing the latest Quidditch World Cup; Skor, Al, Hugo and Louis went up to Al's room, and we - me, Rosie, Roxy, Lucy, Alice and Olivia Longbottom - sat comfortably in mine.
- Wow, how well I ate! – Lucy exclaimed, plopping down on my bed. - If only my mother could cook as well.
“I absolutely agree,” Rozzie noted.
- How are you not making Lily fat?
“I just have a high metabolism,” I said, then turned to Roxy. - Well, how are things going with you and Mike?
- I finally decided to break up with him. That's it, I don't need a guy who can't even stand up for himself, no matter how wonderful he is. So last week I sent him a letter.
- Is that what you wrote to him? – Lucy looked at her in horror.
- Yes, that’s what I wrote, word for word.
- Come on, Roxy. Couldn't it have been something softer? – Alice asked worriedly, as always her kind heart began to worry about poor Mike.
- And it’s impossible to be gentler with him! If I had written to him “Oh, I’m sorry Mike, I realized that we are not suitable for each other” or “Mike, I realized that I don’t deserve you, let’s break up,” he would never leave me saying that it was he who didn’t like me worthy that we were simply made for each other, and all that kind of nonsense, and after reading what I wrote to him, even in a year he won’t say hello to me, let alone talk,” Roxy smiled joyfully, finishing her speech.
“What a cruel Roxy you are,” Rose shook her head reproachfully.
- Yes, I’m fierce and independent, but mind you, many guys want to date me, knowing these traits of mine. Apparently they want to tame my temper.
We laughed together.
- I don’t even know why I agreed to date him? – Roxy thought.
“Because he’s very cute and he’s the Hufflepuff goalkeeper,” Olivia came to the rescue.
- Yes exactly! Wait, little Ollie has really fallen in love with this “cute goalkeeper”, huh? – Roxy asked her, narrowing her eyes mischievously.
Olivia only blushed in response.
- Roxy stop teasing her! She only turned fourteen a month ago, it’s too early for her to think about boys! – Alice stood up for her sister.
- Is it early? You know, Alice, that I’ve been thinking about boys since my second year. As are you, by the way.
“Well, yes, but I’ve been in love with Dan since childhood, and we went to school together, and this Mike is three years older than Olivia,” Alice answered her calmly.
“And I agree with Roxy, Scorpius and I started dating in our fourth year,” Rose entered into the argument.
- But you study in the same course!
- Shouldn’t it be up to Olivia herself? After all, she is ALREADY in her fourth year, and she may well be dating a guy, and not just thinking about them. And anyway, did she say that she was in love with Mike? Roxy suggested as much herself. Am I right Olivia? – I asked her. She nodded vigorously.
- And this comes from someone who hasn’t met anyone yet? – Lucy cheered, jumping up and down on the bed.
“So what, it’s not a sin,” I didn’t like it when they raised this topic.
- No, dear, it’s a sin, considering how many guys want to date you. I forgot how many valentines came to your name? It seemed like half the guys at school were in love with you, Roxy recalled.
- Don't make things up! Half of the valentines were with wishes and congratulations! And let's stop this conversation, you know how much I don't like talking about this. Let's talk about Rose instead.
- About me? – Rose looked at us in surprise.
- Yes, about you. When is Skor going to propose to you?
“Um, actually…” Rose became embarrassed, fiddling with her unruly red hair.
- What?! Has he already done it? – Roxy even jumped on the spot.
- Not officially, yet.
- Wow! That’s why you’ve been so quiet all this time, usually you can’t be shouted down,” Lucy joked.
- When are you going to get married? – Olivia was curious, she even sat closer to her.
- It’s too early to think about this. Of course, Skor wanted us to get married in a year, but I dissuaded him, saying that this would interfere with our studies.
“What a fool,” Roxanne stated. – I might agree. Oh yes, have you met Scorpius's parents?
- Yes. It seemed to me that his father was very unhappy. During the entire time that I was visiting them, I only uttered a few words. But Mrs. Malfoy was very nice, and also told me not to be upset about her husband. But in general, they reacted quite tolerably to the fact that we were soon going to legalize our relationship, unlike dad. He behaved simply disgusting today. And this is another reason to postpone the wedding. Dad needs to get used to Scorpius.
- Why do you need to rush? – Alice took Rose’s hand. - You're right that you want to postpone the wedding, family life will bother you. But you want to build a career. What does your mother think about your relationship? After all, she herself married Uncle Ron after she was firmly on her feet.
- Thank Merlin, she doesn't mind. She says Scorpius is very different from his father. And she doesn't mind if we get married soon.
“It will be so boring at Hogwarts without you, without you, Al and Scorpius,” suddenly changing the subject, Roxy whined, approaching Rose and hugging her shoulders.
“Yes, I also feel uneasy when I think about Hogwarts without you,” I agreed with her.
- And why worry so much, we will see each other on holidays.
- Well, this is completely different! Who will work out punishments with us, hide from the caretaker Kirk, tease Peeves, run away from class, secretly sneak into Hogsmeade, arrange all sorts of tricks and practical jokes? I could come to terms with the departure of James and Fred, because after them Al and Skor continued their work, but I will never come to terms with your departure.
- What about Hugo and Louis? And by the way, don’t forget the Scamanders, because they transferred to Hogwarts,” Rose noted.
- What? Scamanders transferred to our school? – Roxy was alarmed.
- Oh, Roxy, what were you listening to when Aunt Luna talked about this at the table?
- I was actually eating, and there was such a noise there that I couldn’t make out anything.
Lucy snorted.
- Then this is a completely different matter! If they are the same as before, then we won’t be bored at school. What am I talking about, yes it will be the most interesting year At school! “Roxanne was so happy about this that she and Lucy began jumping on my bed.
- Hey, hey, this is not a trampoline! – I went up to them and made them sit down. – I don’t think that the transfer of Scamanders to our school good idea. Did you hear what Uncle Rolf said? They were the biggest rowdies in Drumstrang!
- But this is cool!
- This is not cool at all. As a child they were simply uncontrollable. Remember how they mixed their grandfather's potions and blew up almost half the house, or how they threw Hugo into the river, from whom they wanted to awaken his natural magic? Yes, they shaved off Lily's hair after all! – Alice began to argue that the transfer of the Scamander twins does not bode well. And since she became the head girl of the school, she was worried about discipline.
- So what? They were children then! And in general, their grandfather immediately rebuilt the house, and it became much better than before, Hugo’s natural magic really woke up then, and he didn’t drown, and Lily’s hair has long grown back, how long it is! - Roxy didn’t want to give up.
- They were so cute when they were kids, I bet they’re just handsome now, no matter what! – Roxy echoed Lucy.
Rose rolled her eyes, Alice sighed heavily, giving up, Olivia just sat and listened, fortunately for her, she didn’t remember the twins very well, and I almost burst into tears, out of frustration.
“I’ll have to pray they don’t end up in Gryffindor,” I muttered sullenly. If this happened, I didn't know what I would do to myself.

When a guy is crazy about a girl, he unconsciously feels afraid to ask her out. This is due to the fact that the young man is afraid of rejection, as a result of which his hopes and feelings will sink into oblivion. If you really want to create a couple with the lady of your heart, you will have to take a risk. We collected 3 effective ways: ordinary, unconventional and sincere. Let's consider each of them in order.

Method 1: Normal

Step #1. Get to know each other better
Start a full-scale operation to get to know the object of your adoration better. From now on, greet her at every opportunity, start unobtrusive conversations. Discuss the weather, animals, studies. Choose neutral topics, try to keep her nearby for a while. Tell us about an interesting book you read or share the release of new episodes of a popular TV series. Stay on topic.

If the lady of your heart studies with you at school or college and is constantly among friends, get to know her friends. This way you will become closer to the girl and gain the favor of your friends. This will count in the future. Approach the company more often, talk with those present, but do not forget, the main attention should be paid to the object of sympathy.

Step #2. Come up with a strategy

It is important to prepare for the proposal in advance and possible consequences. A plan will help contain your emotions in case of refusal, but now you shouldn’t think so negatively.

Think in advance about the setting in which you will invite her on the first date, what you will wear, and take care of interesting topics for conversation. Work to ensure that the proposal does not look frivolous, rehearse your speech.

As a venue for a date, you can choose a cozy cafe without a large crowd of people. If you are sure that the lady loves sushi, check out the Japanese restaurants in the city.

The cinema is considered a banal way. First, make sure that the girl likes the film, only then buy tickets. Otherwise, avoid this option.

Step #3. Stay alone with her
Wait until the girl is alone. There is no need to embarrass her in front of strangers by inviting her to spend time together. Find the right moment and act. The proposal should be made after an unobtrusive conversation.

In cases where you can’t be alone, start a conversation in the company of friends. Let her know that you want to chat with her later. There is no need to be nervous, stay positive so as not to scare the girl off.

Set a non-romantic meeting place. For example, agree to meet at the gates of the institute, place of work or supermarket.

Step #4. Focus on important things
You have already prepared the ground, all you have to do is wait for the meeting. When the girl arrives at the appointed place, ask how the day went and what unusual happened. Make fun of her, but not rudely, then tell her about your business. Perhaps the two of you have common interests, the discussion of which would not be superfluous. You need to relax the lady and carefully touch on an exciting topic.

Smoothly transition to romantic subtext. Make it clear without any hint that you have a lot in common and get along great. This topic should be raised at the moment when there was a joke that made you both laugh. Celebrate similarities in views and sense of humor. Express yourself as usual, do not dramatize, but state the fact. Get the girl into her head that you are a great match.

Step #5. Express your feelings
When the lady confirms that you two are great friends, offer her more. Confess your feelings, but don't push. Let her know that you want to see her as a companion and want to invite her on a first date. Speak sincerely, and in a joking manner clarify that refusal is not accepted. It won't feel like pressure if you do it right.

The lady may fall into a stupor, don’t be nervous, wait. If she agrees, exhale, smile, and you can pick her up. Prove that you are serious. Even a victory dance from a peacock would do if you wish.

If the answer is negative, thank the girl for her honesty and express your understanding. Don't question or blame her.

Method 2: Non-standard

Step #1. Make a connection
The method is to project a situation where a lady is interested in a secret admirer. The operation can be started only after personal contact. Start talking to her every day, joke and tease each other, evoke positive emotions.

You must be able to establish a conversation and make it interesting, make the girl laugh and feel comfortable. Show interest in communicating with her, but don’t go overboard. Flirt, touch your hand “casually” and lean lower to better hear the phrase.

When all the points are completed, you can act on behalf of the secret admirer. It’s better if the girl in the future guesses who he is. She must wait for further developments. Create a unique game.

Step #2. Write a letter
Add some mystery to your courtship by sending the lady a romantic message. The letter is intended to arouse interest, but its content should not be too loving.

You can compose a poem mentioning the girl’s name, but you shouldn’t sign it yourself. Write casually with a touch of humor, avoid loud declarations of love.

You should not present yourself as a maniac stalking the victim day and night. Don't apply pressure. Don't forget about flirting, intrigue her so that the girl wants more.

Step #3. Give a gift

After the first note reaches the addressee, and the lady begins to glance at you, make a new move. Write the message again and attach a small gift. It could be a small rose or a Kinder Chocolate stick. Place the gift in an envelope and seal it. In your letter, match the girl with a beautiful flower or sweet candy.

There is no need to give expensive gifts like perfume, bouquets of roses or jewelry. Choose cute options that will make her smile. Otherwise, courtship will be like bribery.

Pay attention to behavior. If the girl tears the envelope upon receiving the message, stop courting. In cases where she begins to avoid you, clarify the situation and apologize. If everything is in order and the lady reads them with pleasure, continue.

Step #4. Reveal your personality with hints
When communicating with a girl, gradually begin to reveal yourself. Don't talk about it directly, casually quote a phrase from a letter or ask if she likes Kinder (all girls love them). At this stage, you need to bring her to the point where you admit your feelings openly.

There is no need to delay with notes so that the lady does not lose interest. Care for her in this way for 2-3 weeks.

Step #5. Expose yourself
Write a final letter requesting a meeting. Choose a suitable location and clothing. Tell the girl the distinctive features by which she can recognize you. Express your desire to date her by stating this in a message.

Example: “Hey, it’s time to give up secrecy and reveal your identity. I want to ask you out on a date. I will wait for a personal answer in the cafe “...” on the street...”. The job is done, all that remains is to wait. Buy it for her beautiful bouquet as a courting gesture. Give it as a gift if you agree or refuse.

Method 3: Sincere

Step #1. Become good friends
First you need to become friends, this will take some time. The girl should feel safe and trust you completely. There is a likely risk of being just a friend forever, but it's worth a try. Communicate in general company, gradually getting to know each other.

Step #2. Spend more time alone
The moment will come when you can calmly communicate without third parties. Invite her to a movie or ask her for help choosing a new shirt. Buy medicine if she gets sick, laugh and have fun in a normal environment without a hint of more.

Tell her that a new cafe has opened nearby and invite her to try their dishes. Visit a theater, exhibition or entertainment show together. Pay for tickets, don't take no for an answer, be gallant.

Step #3. Give a gift
Give her beautiful bracelet After a long period of your friendship, buy delicious cupcakes or a box of chocolates. You can give gifts for no reason, saying that you want to see her happy. Buy soft toy, call it by your name, let it become your joke. You can also give the lady a kitten or a parrot, thereby causing a storm of emotions.

Step #4. Show your sympathy
On your next day together, ask her to take a minute for a serious conversation. Grab her attention and tell her you like her. Don't beat around the bush, express your thoughts clearly. Don't mumble, but don't push either. Make it clear that the girl is an integral part of your life. For this reason, you want to take her on your first real date with a nice dinner and some candles.

To invite the lady of your heart on a date, use one of the proposed options. A classic of the genre suitable for shy young ladies. The role of a secret admirer is suitable for girls with a sense of humor. The sincere method will work on young people who do not have much experience in terms of relationships. Make contact, keep positive attitude and proceed with caution.

Video: how to ask a girl to date

Not all guys who have the most serious intentions can easily and simply decide to move on to a new stage of the relationship. This is usually due to the fear of rejection.

However, you still have to propose to a cute young lady, otherwise you risk losing her, because there will be a more confident and brash guy who doesn’t hesitate, but does it.

How to ask a girl to date? How to behave if a young lady refuses or considers your proposal inappropriate? A few rules will help you prepare for such a serious step.

The phrase “dating a girl” presupposes the existence of a certain relationship based on mutual sympathy or love. At the age of 12 or 13 years, such relationships usually look like this - walks together, visiting cafes, cinemas and discos.

Older couples move to a more intimate level.

Method number 3. Romantic

What's the best way to tell a girl that you like her and ask her out? Try to show your imagination, remember or find out what pleases her most. Perhaps it will look romantic:

• confession in poetry (better if it is your own creation);
• beautiful phrases on the asphalt in front of her window;
• performing a serenade under the balcony;
• recognition after a romantic trip;
• a plush toy, when pressed, an offer to meet is heard;
• important words spoken after arranged dinner by candlelight.

Remember! Not every girl is romantic. Some young ladies are quite down-to-earth and do not dream of men of royal blood on white horses.

To understand whether your chosen one likes romance, take a look at her VK page, try to meet her girlfriends and ask them.

Method number 4. Original

If you are interested in how to ask a girl to date in an original way, and in such a way that your “queen of the heart” will forever remember this pleasant moment, it is important to show your imagination and not be afraid to experiment.

1. Try making a craft with your own hands. For example, write down in an album the character traits and qualities for which you like her. For each reason, choose a girl’s photo with characteristic emotions. At the end of the album you can depict your proposal.
2. Flash mob is a fashion event that looks quite unusual and beautiful. Involve your friends or ask strangers for help, explaining to them the reason. For example, a girl goes out onto the balcony, and the “helpers” let her up air balloons, from which the sentence is composed. Or, for example, ask your VK subscribers to send her a message saying that you want to date her.
3. Quest is a popular event nowadays. Why not use it in a capacity convenient for you. Arrange a similar game for the girl, during which she will visit certain places and find clues in them that will indicate where to go next. The finale is you with a bouquet of roses and a pleasant proposal.

Other original ways you can find on the Internet or brainstorm with friends, who will suggest the most unusual and tempting method of proposal. If you still want to make an offer by phone or SMS, you must:

• speak clearly, with tenderness in your voice;
• pause to wait for her response;
• do not interrupt, even if her answer upsets you;
• send intriguing SMS in which you confess your warm feelings;
• Still, say important words in a personal meeting, but only hint about a serious conversation in SMS.

What is the best way to invite a young lady to date? Much depends on psychological characteristics, age (12, 13 or 20 years) of the girl and the gentleman. In addition, it is important to choose the ideal place and time for recognition, so that no one can interfere with you or, on the contrary, people can help you realize your plans.

Remember one thing: if you consider your chosen one to be the girl of your dreams, feel free to propose!

Hello, I am Nadezhda Plotnikova. Having successfully completed her studies at SUSU as a specialized psychologist, she devoted several years to working with children with developmental problems and consulting parents on issues of raising children. I use the experience gained, among other things, in creating articles of a psychological nature. Of course, I in no way claim to be the ultimate truth, but I hope that my articles will help dear readers deal with any difficulties.