Finding a couple for a trip. Find a travel companion for a summer holiday

How to find the one... with whom you want to go anywhere in the world, with whom you can be on the same wavelength, with whom you can spend hours exploring unfamiliar streets and happily immerse yourself in a new culture, with whom you can share some of the most joyful and productive days in life - days of travel... A travel companion is not just a person with whom you are traveling along the way, it is your like-minded person and potential friend. Of course, if you are not pursuing adventurous goals and are planning to check into a hotel and at most go on a couple of excursions, then you are unlikely to be puzzled by finding a travel companion. But if the plan is for an independent trip, then you should approach this matter, if not responsibly, then certainly with soul and intuition.



In my entire modest travel history, I traveled with three completely different travel companions whom I barely knew. I noticed this peculiarity in myself - it is much more interesting for me to travel with strangers, who are like a “blank sheet” for me, because it is on a trip that you can understand a person and see him for who he really is. I am curious. That's part of the excitement. I admit, I won’t find it with every person mutual language, I won’t feel comfortable with everyone, and if I can be with a person 24 hours a day and at the same time we don’t want to kill each other, then this is a real achievement, and this person is my person.

Some useful tips to everyone looking for it!

I haven’t found any good advice on the Internet on what to consider when choosing a travel companion, so I will rely only on my experience.

Where to look

The very first question and the most important. Ask your relatives, friends, post on social networks with the appropriate hashtags - thank you, cap :)
Now let's get serious.

If you are a couchsurfer, then search on couchsurfing, on the website I mean. In the city feed, in groups. You can try posting in CS groups on VKontakte. In addition, this wonderful social network is teeming with various thematic groups to find travel companions. Don't underestimate the benefits of social networks! Here you can find anything and anyone. If a post on your wall does not bring success, move on to communities. Here are the most adequate of them, in my opinion:

https://vk.com/neverstop. I have been following the movements of a St. Petersburg hitchhiker who travels around Russia for a long time; there is a topic in discussions called “Fellow Travelers.” Here you can find like-minded people who are ready to travel just as desperately as Natasha, the author of this page. I am not a supporter of eternal hitchhiking and consider this extreme. Still, I like to combine “wildness” with comfort. I love diversity in all its forms. I am one of those people who can hitchhike and live in a cheap hostel, but with the money saved, I can arrange a far-from-budget pleasure for myself, if my heart desires. In general, I am for balance and harmony.
https://vk.com/interestplanet_ru. There is probably not a single person who is not a member of this group. There is also a discussion thread dedicated to our “sore” issue. Stop by. People from all over the world, all different types, heading to different parts of the planet and traveling different ways. From finding travel companions for a hotel voucher to finding a partner for a trip around the world.
https://vk.com/vpoputchiki. The responses to my ad from such groups were mostly inadequate. I write that I want to go to Italy to specific places, and they call me to the Maldives, offering to cover all expenses. Well, people are of a different type, what can you do. Someone answers seemingly adequately, but you start asking all sorts of questions, and then the inadequacy comes to light. But what if you get lucky? Give it a try.
https://vk.com/club4081072. From the same category, but to be on the safe side you can take note.
https://vk.com/ru_couchsurfing. You can use discussions and a wall. In addition, sometimes there are interesting offers. If it doesn’t matter to you, then you can join someone who is in the same search.
https://vk.com/club180182 , https://vk.com/club1393701. Two more communities of couchsurfers on VK.
https://vk.com/lowcost. Those who hang out here are those who, as the name of the group implies, do not want to spend a lot and prefer to save at least on air tickets. Quite a worthy group. I judge from my bell tower by and large, but I haven’t received any inadequate responses from here.
https://vk.com/ru_autostop. A godsend for hitchhikers!

There are also specialized sites for finding travel companions (Mahnem.ru, Poputchik.ru, Poputchitsa.ru, etc.), but I strongly do not recommend using them. If you try, you will understand that they are of no use.

I remembered another very useful resource - the Vinsky forum http://forum.awd.ru. If you have a profile there, then you can drop a couple of lines in a special topic that you are looking for a travel companion. In general, I advise you to look there directly to prepare for your trip: route development, visa details, prices, photo reports, answers to a variety of questions about each country. It is better to look for a travel companion elsewhere.

So, you posted your post and are waiting for someone to respond. Will respond. Do not doubt. Then you’ll be exhausted from sorting through tons of messages. There will be some funny ones, get ready to laugh and be surprised.

What to write in a message about searching for a travel companion

A few words about how to compose a message to avoid immediately receiving incomprehensible, abstract answers and save time discussing the details of the trip with a person who is not initially suitable for you.

Let's look at an example.
If you look into groups, you will come across a bunch of similar messages like this: “I’m looking for a travel companion to Italy, departure from Moscow.” And what? What did you understand from it? To Italy, where exactly do you want to go? Who are you anyway? Who are you looking for? What type of travel do you prefer? Personally, I don’t understand when people write things like that.

Be specific and “talkative.” Here's what I once wrote:

« I am looking for a travel companion of about my age from Barnaul or Novosibirsk for a trip to Italy in the summer (the possibility of a personal meeting is required to discuss everything). The travel time is limited only by the validity of the visa, probably 20-30 days, and the amount of money.

There are no specifics yet, but what I would like: a trip at the end of June-beginning of July for about 3-4 weeks, so as not to rush anywhere. Cities: Rome, Florence, Venice, Naples + the islands of Sardinia/Sicily and Capri/Ischia, perhaps also Cinque Terre, besides, after or before Italy I would like to visit Barcelona for a while. The plans include hitchhiking and couchsurfing, but you can stay in a hotel or hostel for a few days. Costs are mainly for travel, food, excursions. Oh, yes, the flight will most likely be from Moscow or Omsk, since these are the most budget options.

For lovers of “all inclusive”, clubs and five-star hotels, please do not disturb, you and I will not find a common language, and our purposes for the trip are completely different. Moderately adventurous ideas are welcome. I am ready to consider your wishes for the route, everything can be adjusted and discussed, as long as the rest is for the soul. All questions and suggestions in PM."

Please note that the ad is written simply, without literary flourishes, since that is of no use here, but at the same time it shows me a little and reveals what I want from the trip and who I want to find.

The main points that were important to me at that time: the age of the travel companion, the city of residence, the number of days on the trip, a small budget, certain dates, certain cities, method of travel (I openly say that “vegetable” and “club” holidays do not suit me interested), readiness for adventure, unexpected turns, detailed discussion of the route and its further adjustment.

So many people responded to this simple ad. interesting people... I didn’t even have time to respond to all the responses. Moreover, even if we didn’t go with someone, we still communicate and even met in person. Although I will say this: specifically, the fellow travelers with whom I actually traveled were found through a couchsurfing site. But perhaps something else will suit your case.

11 questions worth discussing

The ad “works”, you get a lot of responses. But how do you understand that this is the person you are ready to become travel companions with?

First, carefully read the response to your message - what the person writes and how he does it. Even spelling errors are an indicator. Secondly, look at his profile, on his wall, in his photographs. A person’s virtual page often reveals at least a little of what he really is like. For example, no matter how wonderful the response to my message may be, if my potential travel companion constantly takes pictures of herself in the mirror with a duckface, regularly takes selfies and elevator looks, and constantly posts all sorts of vanilla quotes and indecent pictures, such a person immediately repels me. At least I don't see him traveling together.

So, in principle, you like and are interested in the person, you imagine you conquering the world together, let’s move on to a detailed condemnation. Below is a list of questions to which you should know the answers in advance. It’s up to you to decide which ones to ask online, by phone or in person.

1. Route. Ideally, you plan the route together in person from start to finish. Thus, already in the planning process, you can notice some features of a person’s behavior and, in principle, understand whether it will be easy for you to act in the event of a sudden change in circumstances. Special attention Pay attention to the issue of “flexibility”, find out whether your companion is ready to deviate from the intended route or completely change it radically. For example, suddenly you like one city so much that you want to stay there and not continue your journey, or you meet people there with whom you do not want to part, or in general you meet your love. Thus, it is important to discuss the timing of the trip: it’s one thing if you’re going for 2-3 weeks, another thing if you’re going to travel for six months with a backpack on your back in search of inspiration, better life or work abroad.

2. Interests. I’ll be surprised if I say that it’s also very important point. At least there's music, places to visit, bad habits, lifestyle, attitude towards the world and its perception in general.

3. Budget. It can be completely different, but spending on things that concern both of you should preferably be the same. This applies to finding housing, travel, and partly food. It’s bad if one wants to dine exclusively in restaurants, while the other wants to buy food in the cheapest supermarket and eat on a bench. There will be no understanding between such people. Determine the upper and lower limits of the budget and the degree of deviation from the planned one.

4. Possibility of overnight stay. What I talked about above. Couchsurfing, hostels, hotels, tents, benches in parks... In addition, p When comforting a travel companion, discuss in advance the issues of overnight accommodation in difficult situations, they may arise, especially if you are hitchhiking. After all, if one is willing to pay any amount just to have a roof over his head, and the other is willing to sleep under any bush, no good will come of it. A compromise - asking to spend the night in some house - also needs to be discussed. For one this will not be a problem, for another it is, to put it mildly, unpleasant, inconvenient, indecent... the series of negative adverbs can be continued ad infinitum. In general, in a stressful situation, when there is a divergence of opinions between two stubborn individuals, a conflict will inevitably arise. Try to warn him, or at least roughly know what to be prepared for.

5. Language. Oddly enough, this plays a role. Your travel companion's level of English and intention to learn other foreign languages ​​may also affect you. Decide what is acceptable to you. For example, are you ready to go on a trip with a person who cannot connect two words in a foreign language or, on the contrary, he spits out like a true native speaker, and compared to him you seem, excuse me, like a slowdown. Or maybe you want to practice German, and your companion will be looking for Spanish speakers to practice Spanish. I advise you to find out this in advance.

6. The opportunity to separate during the trip and travel separately. If your partner harshly insists, “No matter what happens, we will be together from beginning to end,” think about it. It’s better if you’re both ready to calmly part ways if something happens, without offense, reproaches or phrases like “You ditched me!”

7. Love affairs. We are all people who are either already in love or not averse to falling in love. Discuss this in advance. Again, an example - when I was looking for a travel companion to Italy, I had a young man in Russia, accordingly, I was not in the mood for any romantic acquaintances, and I did not want my companion to seduce Italians and have affairs with them there. The purposes of the trip were completely different. Although many girls go to Italy just to pick up someone there.

8. Travel options. Planes, buses, local transport, taxi rides, hitchhiking, hitchhiking.

9. Action plan in case you miss a beat or get lost. For example, agree to meet in an hour at some famous landmark in case of disconnection. Also have a telephone number (local) with you so that you can somehow contact passers-by using the phone. In most cases, relying on city Wi-Fi is pointless.

10. Activity/relaxation. Tell each other exactly how you plan to spend your time. Personally, I like to alternate, because constant running around and endless travel tires me. But I don’t want to lie on the beach the whole holiday either.

11. Shopping. Discuss how much time you are willing to spend shopping and whether you plan to do it at all. If you are planning, then approximately where and when.

And know that you will definitely quarrel while traveling together; you will definitely have controversial issues that can spark a conflict. Treat this normally, because we are not immune from quarrels even with close people, let alone new acquaintances. Nothing is perfect.

On this “positive” note, I conclude the most practical memoir in the history of my blog. In the next post I will show you my wonderful travel companions, with whom I conquered foreign expanses, and even tell you a little about them.

Together it’s not only more fun, but also cheaper and safer. We have chosen resources where it is easy to find like-minded people both for a trip to the sea and for a crazy hitchhiking trip.

Why look for a travel companion?

The idea of ​​traveling with strangers may seem strange, but it has several advantages:

• It is more profitable to relax with a group than alone. Renting a double room and paying half for it is usually cheaper than renting two single rooms. If you are going on a trip by car, you can split the costs of renting a car, toll roads and gasoline.
• It's calmer with a travel companion. If you go for a walk and get lost, write to a fellow traveler so that he can help you find a hotel. If you suddenly get sick, there is someone to run to the pharmacy.
• There will be no problems with the language barrier. If you are bad at foreign languages, look for a travel companion who speaks at least English. During the trip, he will take on negotiations with local residents.
• It's more fun together. You can share emotions and impressions with a travel companion and look for new entertainment together. And yes, you won’t have to pester passers-by to have your photo taken with the Eiffel Tower on your palm.

How to create an ad

“I’m going to Greece, who’s with me?” - bad option. You will have to spend a lot of time explaining to everyone who is interested exactly where, when and for how many days you are going to go. To quickly find suitable travel companions, create a clear and understandable ad.

What should be in the ad

• Travel route. Tell us where you are from and where you are going. If you are going on a tour by car and do not yet know where you will end the trip, explain what places you want to visit.
• Approximate travel dates. You should not write in the advertisement that you are traveling strictly from August 5 to 14. Perhaps your travel companion wants to join you, but is willing to do so a few days later or earlier. Please indicate the approximate time: beginning, middle or end of the month.
• Budget. You dream of a luxury hotel and cool restaurants, but your travel companion wants to get by with little money and live in a hostel. As a result, each of you rests on your own, and the meaning of a trip together is lost. Set approximate budget limits and explain whether you are ready to go beyond them.
• Purpose of the trip. Maybe you are planning a good old car trip with overnight stays in roadside hotels, or even in a tent. Or do you want to spend your entire vacation lying on the beach, only going to souvenir shops? Everyone likes their own type of vacation - this is normal, but it is better to discuss everything before the trip so that there are no surprises.
• Habits that your travel companion should know about. For example, you can’t sleep when someone is snoring in the room, or you can’t stand tobacco smoke. It will be difficult for a convinced vegan to get along with a lover of juicy steaks, and an owl is unlikely to be comfortable with a lark. Don't be afraid that this will alienate potential travel companions: this way you will find the right person faster.
• Your photo. The avatar should be you, and not your favorite cat or a random portrait from a stock photo. People want to know who they are going to spend a few days with, and anonymous advertisements are intimidating.

Start looking for a travel companion early. During the holiday season, many people have their own plans, which are difficult to change at once. If you advertise a week before your trip, your chances of finding the perfect deal are slim.

Arrange with your future travel companion to meet before your trip. You will communicate live and get to know each other better. During the trip, there will no longer be the disgusting awkwardness that arises at the first meeting.

Where to find a travel companion

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In contact with

Search for a community about the country or city you are going to. For example, there are topics about searching for travel companions in groups dedicated to Turkey , Paris and rest on Goa.

Finally, you can write to specialized communities. In Group " Vacation and travel companions» there are separate topics for countries and regions: choose the appropriate one and tell us when you are going on a trip and who you are looking for.

Before leaving an ad, make sure that not only friends, but also all registered VKontakte users can write to you. Open your profile so future dates can get to know you better.

This is a popular resource about independent travel. The forum has a special section for finding travel companions. Topics are divided into areas: Europe, Asia, America, Russia and the CIS. Before creating your ad, look at who is already being searched for here. If you find a suitable option, answer directly in the topic.

The forum has a calendar for finding travel companions for specific dates. You can select the country and time of travel, and the calendar will show who else is going to travel there at the same time. If you haven't found any interesting offers, leave your ad.

Companion

Quite a well-known forum for finding travel companions. Here you can find not only travel companions, but also a company for entertainment, if, for example, you want to go with someone to a festival or ride a bike.

Create new topic even unregistered users can, but to edit it or delete it, registration is still required. In the title of the topic, indicate the city you are leaving from and your destination.

Dating site for finding travel friends. Enter the dates and destination of your trip and select your goal: a gastronomic trip, a beach holiday or exploring local attractions. You can immediately close the financial question and mark the appropriate option: everyone pays for themselves or one of the participants sponsors the trip.

Once you have completed your profile, verify it. To do this, you need to upload a photo of you holding a piece of paper with the name of the service in your hands, take a photo of your passport or driver’s license and confirm your mobile number. To gain access to all the features of the site and communicate without restrictions, you need to buy a VIP subscription. The trial version is valid for seven days and costs 299 rubles.

One of the world's most famous travel communities. It is used by those looking for free accommodation, but here you can also find new friends for your trip.

Register, select where and when you are traveling, and in the search results, go to the “Travelers” section. For more accurate results, set up filters: indicate the gender of your travel companion and select the languages ​​he should speak. Suitable candidates can write in a personal message and discuss the details of the trip.

To be more likely to be answered, tell us in detail about yourself in your profile and verify it. This is necessary to confirm your identity. Many users do not risk contacting those who have not passed verification.

Service for finding tours, tickets and travel companions. You can search for companions by country of destination, time of travel, city where they are going to leave, gender and age.

No registration is required to submit an ad. Fill in short form and leave your email address where anyone interested can write.

Man is a social being, and therefore he must meet other people and communicate. However, in addition to this, every homo sapiens (at least the majority for sure) wants to love and be loved, to find a soul mate. How to find your life partner?

Love can be hiding anywhere

Your life partner can be waiting for you literally anywhere, so take a closer look at those around you. Maybe one of your friends has had her eye on you for a long time, is giving you hints about her feelings, but you don’t even notice. Or it could be a girl on a tram, sitting in the next seat, a seatmate in a cinema hall, a work colleague, or even a random passer-by. Always be prepared, because a fateful meeting can happen any day.

Don't sit at home

Probably the only place where you cannot find a life partner is your home, so don’t sit within four walls, but constantly get out somewhere, be it a park, night club, a cafe or a quiet small square not far from home.

Think about why you still don't have a partner

Perhaps you still haven't found a girl because you're doing something or behaving wrong. Try to find the problem in yourself first, and only then look for problems in the people around you.

More communication with friends

The more you communicate with your friends, the more time you spend with them, the more chances you have of finding yourself a girlfriend. Old friends introduce you to new friends, new friends introduce you to their buddies. And this is how your circle of acquaintances grows, and it is easier to find a soul mate among your acquaintances when there are many of them.

Be in public places more often

You are walking around the city near your home and want to eat. Your actions? You can, of course, return home and eat there for free, or you can go to a cafe and order something inexpensive there to kill a worm and at the same time meet a pretty girl. All in all, visit public places more often.

Attend all your friends' parties

A great option to meet your future life partner is to attend a party hosted by one of your friends. There are usually a lot of young people at such events, the main thing is not to miss the moment and find one among the guests who will be free.

Register on a dating site

You can try your luck at dating site, or better yet, register for several of them. Maybe it is on the Internet that you will find your love, and only then will you transfer your relationship into the real world.

Successful and wealthy men are sometimes tired of endless meetings and negotiations. They also want to be away from the bustle of the metropolis and go to the sea. For relaxation and recuperation, there is nothing better than traveling in the company of a beautiful young girl who will delight her man and give him affection and warmth. A wealthy man who has decided to “Look for a travel companion” most often seeks to meet a girl on the Internet, because he simply does not have time for long courtships and meetings.

Advantages of our resource

Finding a girl to travel with on our website will not be difficult. Here you can find many profiles of ladies who are ready to accompany a man on a trip. We do everything to ensure that no one feels alone. Look for a pretty girl, strike up an unobtrusive conversation with her and invite her on a trip that will be enjoyable for both of you. A representative of the fair sex will brighten the days spent on the beaches of Turkey, Thailand or Egypt. In return, the man is only required to provide the material side of the trip.

It is very easy to find a travel companion for a holiday abroad, and all fellow travelers are from Moscow. First, a man will need to go through an easy registration procedure. By becoming a user of our resource, he gets access to a database of questionnaires filled out by the most different girls. Convenient filters will help you quickly find a vacation companion, thanks to which a man can indicate the one he is interested in:

• City of residence;
• Age;
• Availability of photos.

Having completed the search for a female companion at sea, you can safely begin communicating with this special one. During personal correspondence, you can resolve many issues, and then arrange a meeting. If the proposed option for spending time suits the girl not only financially, but also physically, we can safely say that the search for a vacation companion has been a success. The main thing is to assure the lady of your own decency and solvency.

Every potential vacation companion wants to meet a man who will not only show her corners of the world that she has never been to, but will also be very generous. A wealthy person will take care of choosing the best hotel and the most interesting excursion program. Long trip often leads to a rapprochement between a sponsor and a fellow traveler for a summer vacation at sea. If a man really likes a lady, then he will be able to invite her on other pleasant trips in the future.

A wealthy person who has decided “Looking for a companion for a joint holiday” will be able to find a girl with any interests on our website. Here you can meet someone who loves active recreation or, on the contrary, is interested in ancient monuments.

Question from a seminar participant: - I want to meet good woman, but I can't do it.

Nikolay Peychev:

– Describe the experience of your last relationship. What feelings did your woman put into you when you came into contact with her?

– Lust and feminine energy.

-And you took the bait? what, when did you agree? For lust?

- Yes.

- There's nothing wrong with that. We are growing every day. And if you were still completely on lust, you would find yourself a new female in no time. And since your spiritual energy is already growing, you want a woman for your soul. So let's do the practice of forgiveness.

So that God gives you a good woman, you need to ask forgiveness from all the previous ones. And you need to humble yourself in front of the girl you had last. Imagine yourself humbled before her. Say out loud: “Please forgive me, I humble myself before you. Forgive me for my lust. I'm lustful myself. I found the same one. It's my own fault. He also abandoned you. I'm sorry".

Now you humiliate yourself before God:“Forgive me, Lord, that I used a woman and abandoned her. Give me the strength to conquer my lust. I humble myself before all the women I have had. I ask their forgiveness too and bow at their feet.” And imagine mentally that you bow at their feet and humble yourself. Because there is such a law: if you repent for past sins, they are forgiven, and you can receive grace from God.

Next say:“Lord, now give me a woman, I won’t look for her.” How can you recognize her? Spiritual grace will come from her. And you, in order to maintain a relationship with her, will have to humble yourself in front of her. Love without humility cannot exist. And she will humble herself before you. If you are the first to humble yourself, she will also come to terms. This is such a law.

So that she listens to you- you need to listen to someone. If you don't listen to anyone, no one will listen to you. You obey me because I take obedience from my teacher. Almost none of you listen to anyone. You need anyone who will listen to you. And everyone will obey you. This is the law. And if there is no humility before a woman, the family will fall apart. If you have humility, you will overcome everything.

Next, you must understand that you have earned yourself a lot of dark karma through your past sins, and you will not be given very good and pure woman. Don't cling with your consciousness to what it should be. Whichever one they give, that’s what they’ll give. And if you have a powerful body and consciousness, God will show you two women. One will be beautiful, young, but lustful. And your male will attack her. And the second one is not so beautiful and young, but sincere. And you will have a choice: if you fall for lust again, it will be your own fault that you cannot build a relationship again.

Participant:“I also don’t have the courage to approach the girl I want to approach. Is it because the responsibility is great?

- Yes, responsibility.

Every woman has it written on her forehead whether she is a whore or a wife. And a man feels that his responsibility to higher powers is small if a woman has written on her forehead: “I need sex for two days.” And if a woman says: “I want a family, and I take care of myself for my family,” then there will be greater responsibility for her before higher powers. And perhaps you still need to grow into it. But if you humble yourself, you will approach her.

There is also this law: if the lust is strong, even if the soul is working, after sex the woman will no longer be liked so much. Therefore, if you have a strong lust, and you started a family, and then left a woman because you were tired of her and no longer attracted you sexually, then you will inflict very heavy karma on yourself. The soul feels this, so it is afraid.

But if you really want to start a family, then you will find such a woman for yourself. And you will communicate as friends, without sex, and then get married. And everything will be.

And if your soul humbles itself, if she is led by the Holy Spirit, then God will give you a good woman. So, if you want to meet a woman to your liking, your request should be: “Give me, Lord, a woman who will be useful to my soul.” Don't look for anyone yourself. Yes, there may not be strong passion between you, but there will be subtle love.

Participant: “I have another question: I am courting a woman, but her energy is dark, she curses me, gets angry, says bad things.”

– This woman was given to you to atone for sins. because you behaved badly with other women. God gave you this woman as punishment.

Understand that for sins you need to either repent or atone. You are now bathing them. Therefore, if this happens, be patient. If karma dictates it, humble yourself. You see, we want to enjoy, and we do not understand responsibility. We want to get high - and we don’t want responsibility. I want sex with a woman, I don’t want to live with a vixen - but I have to. I want to be proud, I don’t want to save my soul - but I have to.

If you understand that there will be responsibility for everything - you are inhibiting your feelings. You look soberly at your sexual past, and, based on this, you understand that karma is breathing down your back and saying: “First, atone for the sins of the past. And then you’ll stop suffering and get a good, sincere woman.”

If you have difficulties in your personal relationships, sign up for Nikolai Peychev’s training. This training will help you understand your relationships and harmonize them.