My daughter wants to cut off her hair! An Ohio dad cut off his daughter's long hair because of highlights. The police took care of it. My daughter wants to cut her hair like a boy.

A girl from Ohio went to her father and stepmother for the weekend with a new hairstyle, and returned with her hair cut short and in tears. Now the police have opened a case of child abuse, and the father and his new wife have been suspended from work. The fact is that they forced their daughter to cut her hair as punishment for the fact that her mother gave her highlights, writes Medialeaks.

The father of high school student Kelsey Johnson from Toledo, Ohio, is up for a Platinum Award for Strong Parent. Kelsey’s mother, who has been divorced from her man for several years, wrote about what happened on Facebook.

This is what my daughter looked like last Sunday when I took her home. And the other two photos are what they did with her today before returning her to me. And all this because I highlighted a few strands of hair for her birthday! — the girl’s mother, Christine Johnson, writes on Facebook.

After visiting her dad over the weekend, Kelsey returned with a boy's haircut, Fox 8 reports. According to her, the father and stepmother were unhappy that the mother dyed her daughter’s hair, and as punishment they forcibly cut the girl’s hair.

Happy child on his birthday:

A child faced with a cruel reality a week later:

The post quickly went viral: 34 thousand likes, almost 25 thousand shares. In the comments, people condemn the father who subjected his daughter to physical and psychological violence for actions for which she, in principle, cannot be held responsible. Not to mention the fact that punishing people for highlighting their hair seems savage to many.

“I really sympathize with you and your daughter. Your ex-husband is something. It's a pity that you can't name the hairdresser. If I owned a salon, whoever cut your daughter's hair would be fired. I don’t believe that she sat calmly and quietly,” writes one of the users.

“Disgusting. I wonder what kind of relationship she will have with her father when she turns eighteen.”

“No loving father would ever do this to his daughter under any circumstances. It's her hair and it's up to her to decide how she wants to look. Dad needs to get checked out by a psychiatrist. Or it would be nice for the court to order him to take anger management courses. Poor girl. The hair will grow back, but the trace of humiliation will remain inside for a long time. WHAT A GOAT HE IS!!!”

Having calmed down, the mother filed a statement with the police about violence against the child. Sheriff Colby Carroll received him and told reporters that he had never encountered such a case in his entire life.

I’ve been at this job since 1992, and I’ll tell you, we haven’t had such cases. Mom was upset that her daughter was taken care of so much, how to put it decently.

Kelsey's father works as a firefighter in a nearby town. The head of the unit temporarily suspended him and his new wife from work until the police come to some conclusions and a trial takes place.

Dad doesn’t talk to journalists, but he posted an old photo with his daughter on Facebook.

Kelsey, meanwhile, has come to her senses and thanks everyone for the words of support on social networks.

facebook.com/christin.johnson.10

And her mother took her to the salon, where she was given a wig with long hair.

facebook.com/christin.johnson.10

Thank you to the ladies at Lady Jane's for helping my baby girl feel like herself again! Especially Haley Ann for choosing her new hair. Kelsey is smiling again because you were selflessly kind to her! We are very grateful to you! Haley, you are the best godmother to Kelsey, I'm glad you have this relationship. We love you very much!

Almost all mothers with teenage daughters face this problem. Just recently, a seemingly obedient girl with charming hairpins and bows in her hair went to school and delighted her mother and grandmother with her impeccably girlish appearance, and suddenly...

… “In our class and in the yard, EVERYONE has already been allowed to cut their hair, even just one bang, but I’ve been wearing the same hair since kindergarten! I'm tired of these stupid pigtails! I get teased at school, no one pays attention to me! A girl from our class cut her hair, and all the boys immediately fell in love with her, but no one notices me with my “rat tails”! I hate my hair! And you don’t need to persuade me - you yourself walked around under your Stalin and Gorbachev with stupid long hair, so you want me to go through this my ENTIRE LIFE! You just feel sorry for the money!”

Unfortunately, every mother can hear such conversations. And every mother’s heart shrinks from the injustice of the accusations, from love for the child, who replaces the real values ​​of the human person with bangs and haircuts. And most importantly, girls actually think that their parents are against them becoming more beautiful. And the mother cannot find the words to explain to her daughter how often she herself was upset when she came home from the hairdresser in her youth, not knowing how to do her hair, or having had her hair cut terribly ugly. There are no guarantees of a beautiful haircut. It may not work out - then the upset child may even fall into depression - with a haircut it will turn out even funnier for classmates, the teasing will become more offensive, and you will no longer be able to tie the familiar ponytail...

First, the mother should take a critical look at her daughter’s hair - is she really so wrong? For many mothers, in fact, long hair seems to be a sign of femininity, but what if the daughter objectively does not have a very “rich braid”? Is it worth saving?

Try to look at your daughter “through someone else’s eyes.” Are braids really that thin? What are the ends of your child's hair? What comb does she use to comb her long hair? Does she have “her own” shampoo? Are there enough different hairpins - from simple invisible ones to elegant decorative ones? Does she have all sorts of small hair clips, crabs, elastic bands? Or does she only have two elastic bands and one hairpin for all occasions?

Having dealt with these questions, please remember the main types of hairstyles that your daughter uses. As a rule, this is a braid, two braids, a ponytail, two ponytails. And loose hair. This is very little. Have you tried offering something else, even if just for a holiday? For example, curl your hair with curlers? Should I braid my hair after washing it? Should I take you to the hairdresser before a school holiday? If yes, then good! But, as a rule, a working mother has too little time to do this. And, in the end, at this age we were already doing something ourselves, twisting it with tongs, pinning hairpins, cutting off each other’s bangs, this generation is somehow inert... Stop!

Let's not get excited. Let us remember the advice of psychologists - the child did not ask us to be born - we decided that he would appear. A girl appeared - everyone was happy. And now the girl asks for attention to herself, all these accusations are a hidden request: “Pay attention to me! It's hard for me to become an adult, I feel ugly! You know how to make me different, so why don't you even want to discuss it with me! Am I indifferent to you?

And now is the time to seriously discuss the question of whether to cut your hair or not to cut your hair! Your daughter will be happy to do this with you. Tell her about the first time you got your hair cut. Details. It was so difficult to get used to styling my hair. If your child's hair is wavy, and yours was the same, tell us how difficult it is to deal with unruly curls once they are cut. If your daughter’s hair is straight, and yours is too, tell us how you struggled not to wear a haircut, the volume of which disappeared quickly and suddenly, and at the moment when you attracted the attention of the most handsome boy in the class with your new haircut. Talk to your daughter.

Then you need to look through magazines together - both adult glossy ones and for teenagers. Often, publications for girls recommend both haircuts and new simple and effective styling methods for long hair. Look at photos of fashion shows - models rarely have short or even semi-long haircuts - mostly long or elongated hair. How are they wearing them this year? Models, as a rule, have very successful hair accessories - headbands, beautiful headbands, elastic bands, a lot of hairpins, very interesting headdresses. Consider options that suit your daughter. Being fashionable with long hair is always relevant, she just doesn’t know how to do it yet. And it’s easier to do this together with your mom!

If using the above measures it was not possible to solve the problem, it is the turn of a specialist - it is better to enroll your daughter in a good hairdressing salon, with a hairdresser whom you know yourself. Talk to the master first. Without insisting on anything specific, ask for a careful response to the request for a haircut. After all, haircuts are also different - most often girls ask for a “ladder” haircut. They have little idea what it is, but they are confident that the length of the hair will remain the same, and the hairstyle will be new, voluminous and will unusually emphasize all the advantages of the face...

...It all started with a call to the salon- An excited client asked to sign up her daughter for a haircut, but insisted on talking with me. Usually salon technicians don’t talk to clients on the phone, but here it was clear that this was a special case...

You know, my daughter wants to get her hair cut, she just won’t let me - her hair is long, she wants to change, I don’t know what to do with her! I signed her up to see you, but please look at her hair - maybe you can leave it longer, she has it so beautiful, thick... I don’t know how to persuade her anymore, if you talk to her, cut it if necessary, maybe she’ll finally calm down.

The girl who came the next day really had gorgeous hair. Thick, lightly wavy, dark honey-colored hair flowed down to her waist.

How would you like to cut your hair?

Well, I don’t know what it’s called - so that the face is shorter, and the back is longer, and so that it lies beautifully... Like a ladder, probably!

I understand the form you want. But they won’t lie beautifully on their own – they need to be laid out!

I will learn!

Just imagine - I cut and styled your hair. A few days later you washed your hair and you just see wet hair - where do you start? Are you going to randomly stick a round comb into the mass of hair and blow a hairdryer on it? After all, you’ve never even had bangs, you’ll have to learn everything all over again, and it will be more difficult to braid your hair or make a ponytail – in some places it will become much shorter!

I still want to get my hair cut! Cut your hair, no matter what! Otherwise, I’ll probably get my hair cut somewhere else, I’ve already set myself up.

I’ll cut your hair, and when I’m styling it, I’ll tell you everything in order, what you should do so that you can do it at home, just like I do here. But at first it will be difficult; it will take you a long time to style your hair. Are you ready?

-...Ready...

A week later, my mother called and thanked her - her daughter had changed! She takes care of her hair, bought everything new - hair brushes, foam and other products, and most importantly - she succeeds!

I want to say right away that this does not always happen. Making a decision about a haircut can sometimes be difficult, and a conversation with a school-age girl whose mother has signed up for a consultation about “to cut her hair or not to cut her hair” looks different.

A girl sits in a chair with a stubborn expression on her face, listening with hatred to her mother’s comments:

You see, it’s as if all the girlfriends have gone crazy - everyone is cutting their hair. Who it suits, who it doesn’t suit – they probably don’t care. And mine is there too - I’ll get my hair cut, I’m the only one left with my hair like Baba Yaga. And look - she has good hair, so tell her - it’s a pity to part with the length!

The girl has tears of stubbornness and annoyance in her eyes - her mother is clearly making a mockery of her! She is almost ready to run out of the salon, only the peignoir she is wearing and the remnants of a sense of decency are stopping her.

Tell me how you want to cut your hair?

I just want to somehow shorten them, cut my bangs, I wear the same hairstyle all the time - either a braid or ponytails, they bother me. We all got our hair cut, everyone likes it, they do their own hair, but my mother doesn’t allow me to do anything!

Tell me, did the girls with good grades cut their hair first? (As a rule, the first girls in the class to get their hair cut are those whose family is not doing well - their parents pay less attention to them, and their taste is formed through communication in the yard and on the street)

No, they don’t study very well...

And any of them with good hair?

Not all of them, to be honest, some are downright terrified of what’s on their heads...

But they probably say that they like everything?

Didn't they have time to dye their hair?

Some even painted it, but it didn’t get any better. Two girls got their hair dyed at the hairdresser, they did better, and one dyed it three times, once it became red, the second time it became red, and now it’s almost black.

So not everyone looks good, but still looks new?

Are you the only one with long hair left in class?

For me and another girl, she has completely memorized it and is not interested in it.

What class are you in?

At nine.

So, you can be the only one to wear long hair at prom?

If you don't cut your hair...

And you cut my hair so that I have long hair!

Let me give you a haircut, removing as little length as possible, and let’s put the main emphasis on your bangs, you haven’t worn them, have you?

Well, I wore it in kindergarten. Will she suit me?

I'll cut it to fit. Just now you will learn how to style it well with a hairdryer and brush, and for long hair I will show you several options on how to wear it to avoid boring ponytails. Fine?

And after our haircut, you will need to come to cut your bangs yourself, use new hair care products, buy several new hair clips and spend more time on your hair before school than you are used to.

You know that. But you don’t know yet that the hair that grows while you’re at school is often of the best quality. Mom monitors your diet, you play sports, go for walks - all this helps your hair grow healthy. After school, it is much more difficult to grow such good hair. Therefore, your friends and classmates who cut their hair short will never catch up with you in the length and quality of their hair.

You still have long hair that will look better. Keep it up and you'll have the longest, most beautiful hair in your class!

I didn't think about it...

No girl who decides to cut her hair, like everyone else around her, thinks about this. She doesn’t know that in order to proudly demonstrate her new haircut, her classmate, sobbing, spent an hour styling her unruly short strands, not knowing how to approach them.

But then, proudly appearing at school, she amazes her friends and classmates with her decisive action - she cut her hair! And it doesn’t even matter how – what matters is that she has changed!

Most often, less decisive girls follow such “decisive” girls, because everyone wants a little variety. And what lies behind such diversity - bitter tears because my mother, seeing the result of her efforts, silently sat down on the sofa, unable to utter a word. Because the haircut did not make me as happy and changed for the better as I had dreamed. Because in the morning, when I had to leave the house and go to school, my legs turned to the side on their own - it was so scary to appear in front of my classmates.

Inept movements of the comb and hairdryer lead to despair; foam and varnish form sticky flakes on the hair. Every day it seems that something else needs to be done - wouldn’t it be better not to get a haircut at all?

Believe me, most of the girls who came to our salon in desperation to straighten their hair had these emotions and thoughts. But all the same, you need to change yourself, but you need to do it very carefully.

Neither computer modeling nor a photo in a magazine will help in choosing if the child chooses alone. Those who have a computer even exchange addresses of dubious hairstyle sites. When I tried to access such a site, my laptop’s virus protection system began to howl terribly. There is no hair that the master will have to work with. Therefore, it’s better to decide what to do with your hair, girls, right in the salon.

If they are ready to cut your hair right away with what you came up with, be wary. Why did the master agree so easily? Often this is because you are asking for a haircut model that “everyone” wears. That is, it is so “fashionable” that it is already going out of fashion. And the master has already gotten his hands on haircuts like this one.

Then it’s better to ask - what types of bangs could this specialist offer? Is it for you that it suits your face type, suits your hair, is easy to style and looks good? If you don’t hear anything intelligible in response, it’s better to postpone the haircut altogether for another time and with another hairdresser.

And if you are offered several options, choose one of them and change! After all, it just seems that bangs are not enough. This is the framing of the face, what could be more important? And the risk is generally low - you can easily grow bangs by combing your hair with gel. Yes, there will be inconveniences, but you will maintain the length of the rest of your hair.

And if you decide to get a haircut, you will still find a hairdresser who will do it well! Just don't rush, girls!

A girl from Ohio went to her father and stepmother for the weekend with a new hairstyle, and returned with her hair cut short and in tears. Now the police have opened a case of child abuse, and the father and his new wife have been suspended from work. The fact is that they forced their daughter to cut her hair as punishment for the fact that her mother gave her highlights.

Who punished his daughter for disappearing for the whole weekend and sold him the car he bought for her, it’s time to make room. The father of high school student Kelsey Johnson from Toledo, Ohio, is up for a Platinum Award for Strong Parent. Kelsey’s mother, who has been divorced from her man for several years, wrote about what happened on Facebook.

Christin Johnson

This is what my daughter looked like last Sunday when I took her home. And the other two photos are what they did with her today before returning her to me. And all this because I highlighted a few strands of hair for her birthday!

After visiting her dad over the weekend, Kelsey returned with a boy's haircut, Fox 8 reports. According to her, the father and stepmother were unhappy that the mother dyed her daughter’s hair, and as punishment they forcibly cut the girl’s hair.

Happy child on his birthday:

A child faced with a cruel reality a week later:

The post quickly went viral: 34 thousand likes, almost 25 thousand shares. In the comments, people condemn the father who subjected his daughter to physical and psychological violence for actions for which she, in principle, cannot be held responsible. Not to mention the fact that punishing people for highlighting their hair seems savage to many.

I really sympathize with you and your daughter. Your ex-husband is something. It's a pity that you can't name the hairdresser. If I owned a salon, whoever cut your daughter's hair would be fired. I don’t believe that she sat calmly and quietly.

Disgusting. I wonder what kind of relationship she will have with her father when she turns eighteen.

No loving father would ever do this to his daughter under any circumstances. It's her hair and it's up to her to decide how she wants to look. Dad needs to get checked out by a psychiatrist. Or it would be nice for the court to order him to take anger management courses. Poor girl. The hair will grow back, but the trace of humiliation will remain inside for a long time. WHAT A GOAT HE IS!!!

Having calmed down, the mother filed a statement with the police about violence against the child. Sheriff Colby Carroll received him and told reporters that he had never encountered such a case in his entire life.

I’ve been at this job since 1992, and I’ll tell you, we haven’t had such cases. Mom was upset that her daughter was taken care of so much, how to put it decently.

Kelsey's father works as a firefighter in a nearby town. The head of the unit temporarily suspended him and his new wife from work until the police come to some conclusions and a trial takes place.

Dad doesn’t talk to journalists, but he posted an old photo with his daughter on Facebook.

Kelsey, meanwhile, has come to her senses and thanks everyone for the words of support on social networks.

And her mother took her to the salon, where she was given a wig with long hair.

Ohio resident Christine Johnson learned that her daughter Kelsey would like to go to a beauty salon and change her hair a little as a birthday present.

Mom happily agreed, chose a specialist herself, and after a whole day of beauty treatments, Kelsey returned home in a new look - with long hair with several blond strands visible.

Kristin was also pleased with the result and shared a photo of her daughter with Facebook users.

However, a few days later new pictures appeared on her page. In them, Kelsey, visibly upset, covers her face with her hands. There is no trace left of her long curls - the girl has her hair cut short.

“This is what my girl looked like on Sunday when I picked her up from her dad’s house where she spent the weekend,” Christine commented on the photos.

It turned out that the girl's father and stepmother were furious that Kelsey dyed her hair without asking their permission. As punishment, they cut her hair like a boy's. While there was still some volume left on the top of the head, the hair at the temples was practically shaved. “Every action you take will have consequences,” they said.

The girl's story attracted public attention. Kelsey's photos received hundreds of comments. Most users expressed outrage at the father’s act, which, in their opinion, not so much punished as humiliated his daughter.

“The father uses his daughter to take revenge on the mother. This is disgusting and dishonest." Devin Marie “Her birth mother agreed to coloring. So what right did they have to cut off her hair?” Amy Pomeroy

“This can be regarded as child abuse! Don't leave it like this!" Andrea Gallagher-McCollum

Users tried to cheer up the girl by complimenting her appearance. Some suggested she consider getting hair extensions, but Kristin said her father was determined that if Kelsey got extensions, he would cut them off too.

The Department of Labor and Family Welfare became interested in the behavior of the girl's father and her stepmother - the organization's employees began their investigation. The couple was temporarily suspended from work (they both work as firefighters) and were given administrative leave.

Almost all mothers with teenage daughters face this problem. Just recently, a seemingly obedient girl with charming hairpins and bows in her hair went to school and delighted her mother and grandmother with her impeccably girlish appearance, and suddenly...

... "U EVERYONE in the classroom and in the yard has already been allowed to cut their hair, even just one bang, but I’ve been wearing the same hair since kindergarten! I'm tired of these stupid pigtails! I get teased at school, no one pays attention to me! A girl from our class cut her hair, and all the boys immediately fell in love with her, but no one notices me with my “rat tails”! I hate my hair! And you don’t need to persuade me - you yourself walked around under your Stalin and Gorbachev with stupid long hair, so you want me to go through this my ENTIRE LIFE! You just feel sorry for the money!”

Unfortunately, every mother can hear such conversations. And every mother’s heart shrinks from the injustice of the accusations, from love for the child, who replaces the real values ​​of the human person with bangs and haircuts. And most importantly, girls actually think that their parents are against them becoming more beautiful. And the mother cannot find the words to explain to her daughter how often she herself was upset when she came home from the hairdresser in her youth, not knowing how to do her hair, or having had her hair cut terribly ugly. There are no guarantees of a beautiful haircut. It may not work out - then the upset child may even fall into depression - with a haircut it will turn out even funnier for classmates, the teasing will become more offensive, and you will no longer be able to tie the familiar ponytail...

First, the mother should take a critical look at her daughter’s hair - is she really so wrong? For many mothers, in fact, long hair seems to be a sign of femininity, but what if the daughter objectively does not have a very “rich braid”? Is it worth saving?

Try to look at your daughter “through someone else’s eyes.” Are braids really that thin? What are the ends of your child's hair? What comb does she use to comb her long hair? Does she have “her own” shampoo? Are there enough different hairpins - from simple invisible ones to elegant decorative ones? Does she have all sorts of small hair clips, crabs, elastic bands? Or does she only have two elastic bands and one hairpin for all occasions?

Having dealt with these questions, please remember the main types of hairstyles that your daughter uses. As a rule, this is a braid, two braids, a ponytail, two ponytails. And loose hair. This is very little. Have you tried offering something else, even if just for a holiday? For example, curl your hair with curlers? Should I braid my hair after washing it? Should I take you to the hairdresser before a school holiday? If yes, then good! But, as a rule, a working mother has too little time to do this. And, in the end, at this age we were already doing something ourselves, twisting it with tongs, pinning hairpins, cutting off each other’s bangs, this generation is somehow inert... Stop!

Let's not get excited. Let us remember the advice of psychologists - the child did not ask us to be born - we decided that he would appear. A girl appeared - everyone was happy. And now the girl asks for attention to herself, all these accusations are a hidden request: “Pay attention to me! It's hard for me to become an adult, I feel ugly! You know how to make me different, so why don't you even want to discuss it with me! Am I indifferent to you?

And now is the time to seriously discuss the question of whether to cut your hair or not to cut your hair! Your daughter will be happy to do this with you. Tell her about the first time you got your hair cut. Details. It was so difficult to get used to styling my hair. If your child's hair is wavy, and yours was the same, tell us how difficult it is to deal with unruly curls once they are cut. If your daughter’s hair is straight, and yours is too, tell us how you struggled not to wear a haircut, the volume of which disappeared quickly and suddenly, and at the moment when you attracted the attention of the most handsome boy in the class with your new haircut. Talk to your daughter.

Then you need to look through magazines together - both adult glossy ones and for teenagers. Often, publications for girls recommend both haircuts and new simple and effective styling methods for long hair. Look at photos of fashion shows - models rarely have short or even semi-long haircuts - mostly long or elongated hair. How are they wearing them this year? Models, as a rule, have very successful hair accessories - headbands, beautiful headbands, elastic bands, a lot of hairpins, very interesting headdresses. Consider options that suit your daughter. Being fashionable with long hair is always relevant, she just doesn’t know how to do it yet. And it’s easier to do this together with your mom!

If using the above measures it was not possible to solve the problem, it is the turn of a specialist - it is better to enroll your daughter in a good hair salon, with a hairdresser whom you know yourself. Talk to the master first. Without insisting on anything specific, ask for a careful response to the request for a haircut. After all, haircuts are also different - most often girls ask for a “ladder” haircut. They have little idea what it is, but they are confident that the length of the hair will remain the same, and the hairstyle will be new, voluminous and will unusually emphasize all the advantages of the face...

...It all started with a call to the salon - an excited client asked to sign up her daughter for a haircut, but insisted on talking with me. Usually salon technicians don’t talk to clients on the phone, but here it was clear that this was a special case...

- You know, my daughter wants to get her hair cut, she just won’t let people in the door - her hair is long, she wants to change, I don’t know what to do with her! I signed her up to see you, but please look at her hair - maybe you can leave it longer, she has it so beautiful, thick... I don’t know how to persuade her anymore, if you talk to her, cut it if necessary, maybe she’ll finally calm down.

The girl who came the next day really had gorgeous hair. Thick, lightly wavy, dark honey-colored hair flowed down to her waist.

- How would you like to cut your hair?

- Well, I don’t know what it’s called - so that the face is shorter, and the back is longer, and so that it lies beautifully... Like a ladder, probably!

“I understand the form you want.” But they won’t lie beautifully on their own - they need to be laid out!

- I will learn!

- Just imagine - I cut and styled your hair. A few days later you washed your hair and you just see wet hair - where do you start? Are you going to randomly stick a round comb into the mass of hair and blow a hairdryer on it? After all, you’ve never even had bangs, you’ll have to learn everything all over again, and it will be more difficult to braid your hair or make a ponytail - in some places it will become much shorter!

- I still want to get my hair cut! Cut your hair, no matter what! Otherwise, I’ll probably get my hair cut somewhere else, I’ve already set myself up.

“I’ll cut your hair, and when I’m styling it, I’ll tell you everything in order, what you should do so that you can do it at home, just like I do here.” But at first it will be difficult; it will take you a long time to style your hair. Are you ready?

-...Ready...

A week later, my mother called and thanked her - her daughter had changed! She takes care of her hair, bought everything new - hair brushes, foam and other products, and most importantly - she succeeds!

I want to say right away that this does not always happen. Making a decision about a haircut can sometimes be difficult, and a conversation with a school-age girl whose mother has signed up for a consultation about “to cut her hair or not to cut her hair” looks different.

A girl sits in a chair with a stubborn expression on her face, listening with hatred to her mother’s comments:

- You see, it’s as if all the girlfriends have gone crazy - they’re all cutting their hair. Who it suits, who it doesn’t suit – they probably don’t care. And mine is there too - I’ll get my hair cut, I’m the only one left with my hair like Baba Yaga. And look - she has good hair, so tell her - it’s a pity to part with the length!

The girl has tears of stubbornness and frustration in her eyes - her mother is clearly making a mockery of her! She is almost ready to run out of the salon, only the peignoir she is wearing and the remnants of a sense of decency are stopping her.

- Tell me how you want to cut your hair?

“I just want to shorten them somehow, cut my bangs, I wear the same hairstyle all the time - either a braid or ponytails, they bother me.” We all got our hair cut, everyone likes it, they do their own hair, but my mother doesn’t allow me to do anything!

- Tell me, did the girls with good academic performance get their hair cut first? (As a rule, the first girls in the class to get their hair cut are those whose family is not doing well - their parents pay less attention to them, and their taste is formed through communication in the yard and on the street)

- No, they don’t study very well...

- And any of them with good hair?

- Not all of them, to be honest, some of them are downright terrified of what’s on their heads...

- But they probably say that they like everything?

- Yes…

— Didn’t they have time to dye their hair?

“Some even painted it, but it didn’t get any better.” Two girls got their hair dyed at the hairdresser, they did better, and one dyed it three times, once it became red, the second time it became red, and now it’s almost black.

- So, not everyone looks good, but still looks new?

- Well, yes.

“Are you the only one with long hair left in the class?”

— I and one other girl, she’s completely memorized it, she’s not interested in it.

- What class are you in?

- At nine.

- So, at the prom you can be the only one with long hair?

- Yes…

- If you don't cut your hair...

- And you will cut my hair so that I have long hair!

- Let me give you a haircut, reducing the length to a minimum, and let’s put the main emphasis on your bangs, you didn’t wear them, did you?

- Well, I wore it in kindergarten. Will she suit me?

— I’ll cut it one that suits you. Just now you will learn how to style it well with a hairdryer and brush, and for long hair I will show you several options on how to wear it to avoid boring ponytails. Fine?

- OK…

“And after our haircut, you’ll have to come get your bangs cut yourself, use new hair care products, buy a few new hair clips, and spend more time doing your hair before school than you’re used to.”

- I know.

- You know that. But you don’t know yet that the hair that grows while you’re at school is often of the best quality. Mom monitors your nutrition, you play sports, go for walks - all this helps your hair grow healthy. After school, it is much more difficult to grow such good hair. Therefore, your friends and classmates who cut their hair short will never catch up with you in the length and quality of their hair.

You still have long hair that will look better. Keep it up and you'll have the longest, most beautiful hair in your class!

- I didn’t think about it...

No girl who decides to cut her hair, like everyone else around her, thinks about this. She doesn’t know that in order to proudly demonstrate her new haircut, her classmate, sobbing, spent an hour styling her unruly short strands, not knowing how to approach them.

But then, proudly appearing at school, she amazes her friends and classmates with her decisive action - she cut her hair! And it doesn’t even matter how - it’s important that she has changed!

Most often, less decisive girls follow such “decisive” girls, because everyone wants a little variety. And what lies behind such diversity - bitter tears because my mother, seeing the result of her efforts, silently sat down on the sofa, unable to utter a word. Because the haircut did not make me as happy and changed for the better as I had dreamed. Because in the morning, when I had to leave the house and go to school, my legs turned to the side on their own - it was so scary to appear in front of my classmates.

Inept movements of the comb and hairdryer lead to despair; foam and varnish form sticky flakes on the hair. Every day it seems that something else needs to be done - wouldn’t it be better not to get a haircut at all?

Believe me, most of the girls who came to our salon in desperation to straighten their hair had these emotions and thoughts. But all the same, you need to change yourself, but you need to do it very carefully.

Neither computer modeling nor a photo in a magazine will help in choosing if the child chooses alone. Those who have a computer even exchange addresses of dubious hairstyle sites. When I tried to access such a site, my laptop’s virus protection system began to howl terribly. There is no hair that the master will have to work with. Therefore, it’s better to decide what to do with your hair, girls, right in the salon.

If they are ready to cut your hair right away with what you came up with, be wary. Why did the master agree so easily? Often this is because you are asking for a haircut model that “everyone” wears. That is, it is so “fashionable” that it is already going out of fashion. And the master has already gotten his hands on haircuts like this one.

Then it’s better to ask - what types of bangs could this specialist offer? Is it for you that it suits your face type, suits your hair, is easy to style and looks good? If you don’t hear anything intelligible in response, it’s better to postpone the haircut altogether for another time and with another hairdresser.

And if you are offered several options, choose one of them and change! After all, it just seems that bangs are not enough. This is the framing of the face, what could be more important? And the risk is generally low - you can easily grow bangs by combing your hair with gel. Yes, there will be inconveniences, but you will maintain the length of the rest of your hair.

And if you decide to get a haircut, you will still find a hairdresser who will do it well! Just don't rush, girls!