It takes a long time to get pregnant with a second child. Is it easier to give birth to a second child: personal experience

Nowadays, needlewomen have everything to realize their creative potential. Materials, threads, yarn, fiber and a huge amount of accessories. If you don’t have knowledge and experience, then to help - detailed instructions, master classes. This article will useful topics who are just starting to master the technique of working with unspun wool. It describes in detail the process of felting children's mittens. To work, you will need a wrapping air-pimpled oilcloth, about 30 grams of natural wool, decorative vegetable silk fibers, and olive soap. To make a pattern, you need to trace the baby’s hand and enlarge the resulting image by a third. Cover the work surface with an air-bumpy oilcloth wrap. Its size should be such that the layout can fit freely, and the work can be covered on top.

For children's mittens, it is better to take wool in a combed strip good quality. Its fibers are 15–18 cm long and completely cover the pattern lengthwise. Both mittens unfold at once. I pull the fibers from the tape into thin strands, which evenly cover the pattern.

The next thin row is laid crosswise with the fibers. The layout should be so thin that the oilcloth can be seen through it.

Dry fibers are very mobile. They can move even from a small draft. To prevent this from happening, they need to be moistened. There are many ways to do this. One of the simplest is to carefully pour a solution of olive soap.

Soapy water is poured over the layout along the contour. This must be done slowly so that the fur does not move. After this, everything is covered with pimply oilcloth.

When the layout is covered, you need to gently press it down with your palms. In this case, the soap liquid will be evenly distributed throughout the wool. After this, roll it lengthwise with a stick and reproach it several times.

The work is three-layer. There is oilcloth on both sides, a wet-soapy layout in the middle. In this form it is easy to turn it over to the other side. This is what needs to be done.

Open the oilcloth, smoothly, slowly. Fold the wool that protrudes beyond the edges of the pattern inside. In places where there is a smooth bend, you can make cuts with scissors.

The most vulnerable spot in mittens is located near the thumb. Sometimes when laying out the fibers do not lie evenly. These places need to be further strengthened.

To do this, the work is covered with oilcloth. Turns over to the side where the wool is laid out. Small strands of wool are applied to weak points.

The layout closes again and turns over. The wool is rolled inward. The unclosed part of the pattern is covered with fibers along and across, similar to the first side.

The process is repeated. If you have wool of the same thickness, but of different shades, then all the shortcomings in the work are clearly visible, which are not difficult to correct. The product is more durable if laid out in several thin layers. The third and fourth layers are used to cover the pattern on both sides.

To make the bottom edge even, you can use a small rectangular piece of oilcloth, with the help of which the wool is wrapped inward from the edge.

Used for decoration vegetable fibers nettle, banana, bamboo, corn, hemp and many others.

Felted mittens are very warm. They are much warmer than usual, because they are made of natural sheep wool.

Winter has already arrived, there is snow all around. Children roll snowmen and snow women. And in order to prevent the child’s hands from freezing, we felt the children’s hands. They will have a strap and a small crocheted bow.

For the mittens we will need:

The wool is lilac;
Bubble film;
Gauze;
Scissors;
Hot water;
Liquid soap;
Rubber gloves;
Knitting threads dark purple;
Hook;
Needle and thread.

Felted wool mittens for children - master class with photos:

First, cut out a pattern for children's mittens from bubble wrap or oilcloth.
This is one detail. We measure the hand and add another three cm or so, since the wool shrinks during the felting process.

We put it on the film and begin to lay out the wool on the pattern.
You need to lay the wool first in one direction, and in the next layer in another.
In total you need to put five layers. And they must be perpendicular to the previous ones.
We go a little beyond the pattern.

When the wool is laid out, cover it with gauze and moisten it with plenty of hot water.
Pour a teaspoon of soap on top.
And we pat with our hands so that all the wool is thoroughly wet.

We remove the gauze, turn the workpiece over and fold the edges of the wool onto the pattern.
And again we lay out the wool. We repeat the same as with the first side.

Now cover with bubble wrap and use three hands first on one side, then turn it over and use three hands on the other.
The time for three is about half an hour on each side.

When the wool is difficult to separate, you can remove the film.

Let's rub our hands a little. And after that, roll up the mittens in bubble wrap and roll the roll for about five minutes.

Next, we cut the mittens and take out the pattern from them.

We straighten each mitten with our hands: somewhere we stretch it, somewhere we press it, etc.

Leave the mittens to dry for two to three hours.
After this, we sew the top with floss or iris threads.

The seam is looped.
Now let's move on to tying the mittens.
We join the seam.
And we knit one single crochet in each seam.

We knit several rows in the round.
We turn up the knitting. The felted mitten is almost ready, all that remains is to make the decoration.

And we will knit a bow from the same yarn.
We make two loops and three more.
In the first initial stitch we knit six double crochets, three air loops and a connecting post.

And again the same thing.
You can wrap it with thread in the middle.
Sew the bow to the mitten.
These are the warm lilac, baby felted mittens you get.

The master class was conducted by Anna Kovylina.

Materials:
wool for felting in combed tape (top) merino 16-19 microns 2 colors (mint and peach);
silk fabric with a pattern (thin opaque silk - ex-elsior);
Margelan silk (thin, discharged white silk, can be replaced with thin silk gauze chiffon);
silk fibers;
soap solution;
bubble wrap;
backing for laminate (or dense polyethylene);
scissors;
VShM (vibration grinding machine).

Felting wool mittens.

Cut out a couple of templates for future mittens from the laminate backing. Wool shrinks when felted, and the pattern must be made taking this feature into account. Fold the backing in half and, placing your wrist on the fold, trace it, draw a mitten and enlarge the drawing by 20-30%, adding a few centimeters on all sides. Cut out a double blank, unfold it and place it on bubble wrap.

From Margelan silk, cut out the template shape so that the edges protrude beyond the outline of the pattern. Cover the template with silk - this is the inner layer of our mittens, which will prevent strong pilling and create an additional elastic frame. Silk can be placed either as a whole piece or in separate pieces, the main thing is that the edges of the pieces overlap each other by 1-3 centimeters and do not bend into folds.

Take a wool top and, plucking strands at a time, spread a thin layer of wool of both colors over the entire surface of the pattern.

Lay out the wool in a herringbone pattern, crosswise at an angle (not perpendicular, but as if diagonally). Like the first layer of silk, the wool should extend slightly beyond the boundaries of the pattern for future folding.

Wet all the wool with soapy water and carefully turn the layout and pattern over to the other side. If you're new to felting, be sure to add an extra sheet of bubble wrap. Cover the wet layout with bubble wrap and flip it over. Then remove the top film.

Take Margelan silk again and place it on the pattern, this time the silk does not need to be cut out in a large piece, it should not go beyond the pattern, but on the contrary, it should fill the uncovered area of the pattern (middle) so that when the first side is folded, the entire inner part without unnecessary folds it was covered with silk from the inside.

Using a spray bottle, wet the silk and carefully bend the hairs that extend beyond its outline (from below the pattern) onto the pattern. The wool should fit tightly around the pattern.

When all the edges are folded, take the wool in your hands again and, like the other side, lay it out in thin strands in a herringbone pattern on this side of the pattern, this time try not to go too far beyond the boundaries of the pattern, cover only the part where there is no wool yet.

Wet the layout. Turn the pattern over and fold the protruding strands over the pattern. Add several strands of thick silk on top of the wool: cuts from the edge of the fabric or silk ribbons. This technique will add a textured effect to the product (in these places the silk forms beautiful large folds, larger than in those places where there are no additional pieces of fabric). Place the pieces of silk on two mittens on one side.

Cover the layout with a large piece of patterned silk. In this case, it is better that the piece is whole (not made up of small pieces). Press the fabric against the wet layout with your palms until it lies flat and gets wet.

Turn the layout over so that the silk decor is on the bottom. Fold the parts of the silk ribbons that protrude beyond the edges onto the layout.

To ensure that the silk tightly surrounds the pattern, cut it in several places and fold the edges, let them intersect and overlap each other - large textured folds also form in the places of overlap on the finished product.

If, after folding the silk, there are still parts of the wool that are not covered, cut out additional pieces of silk and cover the gaps with them. There should be no uncovered wool areas.

Mask the joints of the silk sections on the layout so that they can be felted more easily and visually blend into each other more smoothly in the finished product. Take very thin strands of wool to avoid extra bulk and place them where the cuts meet. And on top of the wool, place a thin layer of silk and linen fibers - in the finished product they form a decor in the form of winding lines - “cobwebs”.

Moisten the layout a little and go over it with a vibratory felting machine (VSHM). If you have never had to deal with VSM before, before work, cover the layout with a large piece of polyethylene and work on top of it, this will protect the layout from sudden shifts and you from unnecessary splashes.

Sand the layout on both sides until 1-2 hairs come away from the layout when pinched, rather than whole strands.

Once the wool has set and you feel that the wool has partially passed through the fabric, you can felt the product by hand.

Remove excess moisture from the mittens with a towel, add a little soap to your hands and stroke the entire area of the future product with stroking movements. Special attention pay attention to the edges.

When the wool tightly grips the pattern, cut the product, separating the mittens from each other.

Roll each mitten in your hands and straighten it. Then put the mittens on your hands, add soap and water and rub your hands together.

Take off the mittens and ride again. Repeat the cycle until the mittens have the desired density and size.

If the edges of the mittens are slightly deformed during the felting process, you can slightly trim them with scissors. To do this, be sure to straighten the mittens, adjust them to each other, and only then carefully cut off the uneven edge.

Fill the cuts so that these places on the finished product do not become frayed in the future. To do this, wet the sections again with soapy water and rub in your palms until the “puff” section turns into a smooth edge.

Rinse the mittens in running water so that no soap remains in the fabric, straighten and dry. If desired, iron with steam in the wool/silk mode.

The note.
The shrinkage of a wool product depends on several factors - the type of wool you use, the thickness of the layout, the presence of additional materials. materials that can have a reinforcing effect (a large number of fibers, fabrics, etc.), and on the intensity of felting.

Very often, women who have already given birth to their first child do not even doubt that there will be no problems conceiving a second baby. However, after deciding that the family needs a second child, the desired pregnancy may not occur. A month or two passes, and the couple begins to get seriously worried about why this is happening. “Why can’t I get pregnant with my second child?” - the woman thinks, “what are we doing wrong?” - the future father is surprised.

However, this also happens. The planned two children may appear after a longer interval than the parents wanted. But this is not a reason to be upset, but a reason to start detailed and thoughtful planning for your second pregnancy.

Normal and pathological: when to start worrying?

If you are unable to get pregnant with your second child and you are starting to worry about this, then you should try to figure out how justified your fears are. After all, the likelihood is that you will get pregnant from the first cycle, and even without special training, is only 20%.

If you are under 35 years old, do not use protection and have regular sex life, but the desired pregnancy does not occur, you need to worry no earlier than in a year. But if such a situation develops after two years of unsuccessful attempts, then doctors can diagnose “infertility.” If a woman is over 35 years old, infertility is resumed after just a year of unsuccessful attempts to get pregnant, because ovulation, which does not occur every month, becomes an even rarer guest in the female body with age.

However, despite all of the above, scientists are inclined to believe that ideal age for the birth of a child, including the second, is approximately 33-34 years. They motivate their confidence by the fact that women at this age still have good health, but in addition, the material condition is stable and allows you to calmly go into maternity leave. However, answering the question of why you can’t get pregnant with a second child, you can divide the reasons into: physiological, psychological and technical.

Physiological reasons that prevent a second pregnancy

If the first time the pregnancy was long-awaited, suffered and achieved with difficulty, then the second time the woman tries to provide for everything. And she has no surprise why everything didn’t work out as soon as she wanted. But for those women who became pregnant immediately as soon as they wanted, or did not think about it at all, and the child turned out spontaneously, it becomes a mystery why a second pregnancy does not occur. “After all, the first time everything was fine,” the woman asks herself, “so what’s the matter? Why can’t I get pregnant with my second child?”

But the main thing to ask yourself is whether there are any changes in your reproductive system after the first birth, whether your sexual partner has changed with a new marriage, whether you already have age-related changes or whether you are trying to get pregnant immediately after childbirth with active lactation, and also remember whether at that time you are making love.

Reproductive problems in men

When you start to worry about your own infertility, it is best to save time and money by sending the future father for examination. If this new husband, then his fertility has not yet been confirmed, and there is a possibility that the problem is in him. But problems for the father of the first child can also arise over time. For men, there is only one analysis - a spermogram. Unlike a comprehensive examination female body, this is easier and cheaper to do.

Problems that arose after the first birth

The first child seems to confirm your fertility, but just after the first birth, complications may arise that prevent you from easily becoming pregnant a second time. Hidden inflammation, cysts, hormonal disorders, sexually transmitted infections acquired after the first birth - all this can become an obstacle to the desired second child. And what is noteworthy is that all these complications can be hidden and not bother the woman at all.

If you find yourself thinking that you are starting to worry about why the second pregnancy is not occurring, but your husband’s spermogram is normal, it’s time to consult a gynecologist. The doctor performed an examination. He will offer you a comprehensive examination, which will most likely include:

Vaginal microflora smear
Tests for hidden infections
Ultrasound of the pelvic organs
Determining the regularity of ovulation
Checking the patency of pipes
Laparoscopy

After identifying the problem, you should begin the course of treatment prescribed by the doctor.

Your age does not stand still

Unfortunately, we all get old. Even if we are talking about such a young age for life as 36-38 years, from the point of view of the reproductive period this age is already far from optimal. Ovulation occurs, God willing, three to four times a year, and if you waste those nights sleeplessly, then you can wait a very long time for your second child.

It may be worth tracking your cycle with ovulation tests, perhaps using follicle-stimulating therapy under the supervision of your doctor. And if you are over forty, it makes sense to think about IVF or ICSI.

A small difference between children is also an obstacle

It happens that a couple really wants two babies with a very small age difference, and immediately after the birth of the first child they actively begin to conceive a second. But if a young mother is breastfeeding her first baby, all doctors are guaranteed to give six months of reliable natural contraception, and then it depends on the body of each individual woman.

And if a young mother, menstrual cycle who has not yet recovered, is worried, they say, I can’t get pregnant with a second child, the doctors will only smile. After all, during breastfeeding, the hormone prolactin is released, which is a natural contraceptive. A nursing woman can become pregnant two weeks before the onset of her first period, but, as a rule, this happens 7-8 months after childbirth, or even later.

If the issue of small differences between children is fundamental, then you can reduce the intensity of breastfeeding for some time to the extent that the body begins the cycle again. However, it is better to consult your doctor on this issue.

Psychological reasons: relax and have fun

Sometimes, even if a woman is mentally and physically ready for a second pregnancy, but still fails to become pregnant with a second child, a factor such as psychological state may also play a role.

Maybe, expectant mother overcome by various subconscious fears and phobias, which the body instinctively projects onto the ability to conceive. Or a woman is so focused on getting pregnant that the situation gets out of control and nothing happens. Whatever the reason, all the experts in the world advise the same thing: go on vacation! Relax, let go of the problem and try to enjoy the trip itself and your communication with your husband.

But it’s better to leave the older child at home with the grandmothers, and go on a trip a week after menstruation, just during the period of ovulation. And the second baby will not keep you waiting.

Strict control and planning: take matters into your own hands

There is no need to worry about the thought “I can’t get pregnant with a second child” racing through my brain several times a day. It’s better to think about whether you have done everything to ensure that pregnancy occurs as quickly as possible. short time. Don't rely on fate, help yourself.

There are several ways to spur your body in the right direction:

Take hormonal contraceptives for several months. You may want to opt for oral contraception, but it is best to consult a medical specialist about this. After their abolition, the body takes up the ovulation process with redoubled force and the chances of conception are greatly increased.
Use an ovulation test, this will help you not to “miss the mark” happy Days. You can also use basal temperature measurement, the calendar method and other proven methods.
Again, when making love for the purpose of conception, try to do it not only for pleasure, but also take into account the appropriate time of the cycle, positions favorable for conception, and the frequency of sexual intercourse.
Do not lose weight under any circumstances; this will adversely affect the hormone estrogen, which is responsible for the well-being of the reproductive system. The only exception is severe cases of obesity, which in themselves are an obstacle to conception.
Do not forget about the course of vitamins, folic acid, active and healthy image life.
Well, finally go on vacation! Good luck to you!

The first birth is over and the decision has already been made to give birth to a second child, but pregnancy does not occur, which leaves the woman bewildered. She is constantly worried about the question: “Why can’t I get pregnant with my second child?” Especially if you didn’t have to wait long for your first pregnancy and the birth went well.

Excessive worry in such cases cannot solve the problem; on the contrary, it interferes with pregnancy. And there may be various reasons that after the first child it is not possible to get pregnant with the second. Why is this happening? Let's consider what to do and how to get out of this situation.

What can become an obstacle to a second pregnancy?

When a woman says that I want, but cannot, get pregnant with a second child, the question immediately arises: how did it happen the first time and is it possible to compare the first pregnancy with the second? Of course, this cannot be done, since a woman’s fertility is not constant and her ability to conceive a child depends on many factors.

Those who waited a long time for their first pregnancy, prepared for it, were examined and treated by a gynecologist, understand that for conception to occur, a favorable confluence of many circumstances is necessary:

absence of pathologies of the reproductive system of women and men;
the presence of ovulation;
timely and correctly performed sexual intercourse, even position can matter;
readiness of the uterus for implantation;
psychological calm.

Important! Stimulation for the purpose of pregnancy is dangerous. It should only be carried out under the supervision of a specialist, but in some cases, short-term use of oral contraceptives may help. After their cancellation, the likelihood of getting pregnant increases sharply.

What are the reasons that prevent conception?

The absence of pregnancy, immediately after making the decision to give birth to a child, should not cause panic. You can start to worry when conception does not occur within a year, with regular sexual activity. Although the first birth already proved a woman’s ability to have children, we need to think about what has changed since that time:

the sexual partner has changed. This often happens, the number of divorces and remarriages grows;
the previous birth was difficult or there was a cesarean section, which could lead to irregularities, adhesions and secondary infertility;
neither you nor your partner have become younger during this time, and with age, the number of ovulations and sperm activity often decreases;
after the first birth, diseases of the genitourinary system (infections, cysts, fibroids, endometriosis, tumors) could occur;
There are disturbances in the hormonal background of the body (stress, decreased immunity), or diseases that change it (thyrotoxicosis, diabetes, chronic diseases);
Too little time has passed since your first birth, and you are breastfeeding your baby.

These are just some of the reasons that explain why pregnancy does not occur; let’s look at them in more detail.

Problems with a sexual partner

If this is your second marriage, then first of all you need to do a sperm analysis of the new partner. Even when he has children in another marriage, a spermogram is necessary, since in many cases a change in the quality of sperm can be due to such unnoticeable reasons that men do not even pay attention to. This happens when:

diseases of the genitourinary system (infections). In men, even after a course of treatment, they can become chronic and not manifest significant symptoms. But even a chronic course affects the quality of sperm;
some diseases that cause azoospermia (lack of active sperm), for example, mumps, rubella, adults can also become infected with them if they did not have it in childhood;
taking medications, many drugs temporarily reduce sperm activity, for example, Erythromycin;
overwork, stress, too active sex life;
immunological incompatibility of partners, it will have to be checked with additional tests.

The spermogram should be checked, even if it is your partner who has the first child.

Reproductive problems in women

There's a lot here different problems that require study, for this you will have to undergo an examination by a gynecologist, which may include:

study of vaginal microflora (smear);
examination for hidden infections;
sonography (ultrasound) reproductive organs and pelvic area;
determining the regularity of ovulation;
checking the patency of the fallopian tubes.

In some cases, you will have to donate blood for hormones or perform a diagnostic laparoscopy. If diseases are identified that make pregnancy impossible, then the question will immediately disappear: “Why can’t I get pregnant with a second child?” and will have to undergo treatment.

Problems with ovulation

With age, the number of ovulations, even in healthy women, decreases. Why does this happen? The fact is that the number of follicles in the ovaries is limited, and many of them undergo reverse development, and during inflammatory processes in the ovaries they can die. It can also be affected by changes in hormonal levels, for example, endocrine diseases or stress.

When childbirth has recently occurred, but you want a second child, you cannot get pregnant if you are breastfeeding the first. Of course, there are exceptions, but usually when breastfeeding, an increase in prolactin in the blood prevents ovulation and pregnancy does not occur.

To increase your chances of conceiving, you should keep track of your ovulation days. To do this, you can use special ovulation tests, keep a calendar, and measure your basal temperature.

Important! Already at the age of 35, many women ovulate only 3-4 times a year. And then you have to think about using the IVF procedure to get pregnant.

How to prepare the uterus for implantation

Pregnancy must be planned, and even when it came quickly the first time, this does not mean that you may be lucky the second time. Considering the intensity of the rhythm of life, the problems of pollution environment, the level of increased radiation, you need to be able to prepare your body so that the embryo takes root.

To do this you need:

establish a normal daily routine;
do not overwork yourself at work and try to limit yourself from stress;
reduce physical activity;
do not adhere to various newfangled diets, unless they are aimed at reducing weight in case of obesity;
take special vitamin and mineral complexes;
get enough rest.

How to eliminate the psychological factor that prevents you from getting pregnant

When a woman comes to the gynecologist with the question: “I can’t get pregnant with my second child, why, what is the reason?” an experienced specialist can identify psychological factor preventing desired pregnancy. In this case, many doctors advise just going to rest. A joint vacation with your husband, preferably without a child, let him stay with his grandmother for this time, can help a pregnant woman return from vacation. There are a few little secrets that will help you get pregnant while on vacation:

you need to plan a vacation a week after menstruation, this is the most favorable time for ovulation;
there is no need to go on vacation on tours full of various programs and shows. You need time to be alone;
try not to go to the other side of the world, as changing time zones can negatively affect your well-being;
During sex, use certain positions that promote conception, and do not jump out of bed afterward, so as not to miss the next tour of significant places. Lie down in a calm environment.

Getting pregnant with a second child is not that difficult, you just have to want it and make every effort. The fact that the first time everything went quickly and without certain complications does not mean that it will always be so. You have to try, get tested, get ready, and after a while you will have another baby in your house.